Has masturbation overall had a positive, negative, or neutral impact on your sexual experiences with partners?

Question

On one hand, masturbation can help you learn what you want in the bedroom, and for guys, it can help them last longer in bed.
On the other hand, if you watch porn, it can create unrealistic standards and expectations, thereby leading to dissatisfaction.

Has masturbation overall had a positive, negative, or neutral impact on your sexual experiences with partners?

So what's the case for you? Overall, have your masturbation habits had a positive, negative, or neutral impact on your partnered sexual experiences?

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

This is a good question. I saw porn for the first time when I was 9. But it wasn't (and still isn't) about the people and their faces. It was about the sex, and the body parts like boobs and vaginas that I could never see in real life. Was I shallow as an adolescent? Yes, very much so. There were plenty of good-looking girls at my school that I ignored. But, on the flip side, does that mean I wasn't attracted to them? Not necessarily. It just means that there was one girl (at one time) that I liked more than all the rest, so I was completely focused on her and all the others didn't matter.

Now, regarding masturbation, I didn't actually start masturbating until later on; I think I was at least 16 when I did it for the first time, and I didn't masturbate to ejaculation until I was 18. So porn and masturbation were kind of separate for a while there. Did porn affect my interactions with girls? Probably, but I don't know for sure. Because I was shy and awkward anyway, and I had been for my whole life. So even if I never looked at porn at all I still wouldn't have been good at talking to women. And truthfully, I didn't really see that much porn as a teenager anyway. (And it's not like it was graphic or anything back then.)

Regarding sexual experiences with partners, I've never had one, so I can't speak to that. But I've also never had a partner. But it's not because I've never met anyone worthy of being my partner, because I certainly have, on many occasions.

If the question is whether or not masturbation has kept me from being in a relationship, then the answer is that it probably has, in some way. Because there have been times when I have been out in public and seen someone who I might like to talk to but I keep to myself instead and don't say anything because I'm ashamed and I think I'm a bad person and I don't deserve them. But then again, would I have talked to them if I hadn't masturbated? Probably not. I probably would have come up with some other stupid excuse to avoid the situation.

If the question is whether porn has given me unrealistic expectations, then the answer to that question is absolutely and positively NO. Because #1. The girls in porn aren't the hottest girls on the planet anyway. I have seen PLENTY of beautiful women in real life who were much hotter than the girls in porn videos. And #2. Watching porn isn't really about the actors themselves. It's about the sex!! That's the whole point of porn. People watch it because they want to see people naked and they want to see people fucking. Period. If someone was having sex themselves, then there would be literally no need at all to look at porn. None. Literally.

rudude · Accepted Answer

I'd have to say I'm not sure. I was masturbating for nearly a year before the first sexual experience I ever had - a neighbor girl blew me. I was twelve at the time and there was no comparison between what I'd been experiencing while masturbating and the ecstasy I was feeling just from the sensation of female flesh on my penis! Over the next couple years or so, I got really good (or so I thought) at masturbating. Then I met my first girlfriend and the fun I'd had masturbation just seemed to pale in comparison to the heart palpitations and butterflies I got when she was around. All in all, I think the penis becomes accustomed to certain kinds of sensations and doesn't respond very well to different ones. For example, being used to a strong male hand (mine) choking the chicken too often might make the sensation of a warm, wet vagina seem a little unfamiliar. So I try to make my hand feel as much like a vagina as possible.

MissKittyz · Accepted Answer

Definetely a positive impact. I've learned so much about my body though masturbation and I know what I am into.

For example, Without masturbation, I seriously wouldn't be able to know that I need more than one stimulation to make myself cum. Rubbing my clit sometimes just isn't enough. Gotta add fingering or playing with my boobs. That's also how it works with a guy as well. I can't cum from just oral, I need fingering and playing with my boobs as well.

Masturbation is natural and honestly, I only watch porn when I'm horny and it doesn't affect me at all since I know majority of that stuff is fake lol

DiamondQueenOfAce · Accepted Answer

I do know that masturbating a lot makes it more difficult to have an orgasm with penetration only. If I didn’t orgasm for a while through masturbation, I do find it way easier to enjoy sex and orgasm. So for me personally masturbation makes my sex life worse.

LesterJester · Answer

For me, they are separate situations and don't relate or affect each other. If I believe sex is a possibility in the day then my focus is on that. If it isn't or hasn't happened in a few days, then it's time to Talk to the Hand.

Debs1 · Answer

How can you expect a partner to give ultimate pleasure and orgasms if you can't do it with yourself first

Mastubation has taught me lots about my body so I know what I do and don't like which I bring in when with partners and instruct them how to please me

CindyRuns · Answer

It's allowed me to learn how my body works and what gives me pleasure and to better explain it to my SO

ohshee · Answer

Wait is this a trick question now I'm confused on what hand is what omg now what do I do ,, lol no matter what hand u use or I use it's a positive the only negative is all the time thst goes by because of what ever fantasy that ur having at thst time I want to experience it all in every way you should ask this question when masturbating would u rather do it by yourself a porn or with someone in person on the phone or cam that's what I need all the above lol

NightFalcon333 · Answer

it has increased my erection and ejaculation time, back when I was in junior high, my erection only lasts 15 minutes before I cum. But now, it can lasts for 1-2 hours before the first ejaculation.

HikerDude · Answer

Masturbation hasn't helped me at all. I think it's mostly a time waster and means of energy dissipation for guys. Experience with girls and physical fitness are what's helped me improve my sexual relationships.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It has had no impact at all. I never masturbate while in a relationship, that is for singles only.

free_bird69 · Answer

Over masturbation does cause a loss in sex drive and it might bound you to masterbate everytime. But then it helps too if it is not done frequently. Probably helps in performance some times

toddthemod · Answer

Biggest thing is that I realize orgasms don’t depend on insertion etc. Both partners need to cum in their own way

Pete671 · Answer

Overall very positive, if my girlfriend is not in the mood I masturbate while she watches,

MojoRisin69Sx · Answer

I selected the wrong answer

derella21 · Answer

Masterbation for guys is more about keeping lbs empty so that they ca. Build better sperm and keep balls from hurting

Exorcist_Rampage · Answer

Usually a very positive effect.

AkshiJanjua · Answer

no experience

ousmane · Answer

If you want to have sex with your girlfriend or with your wife directly penetrates her vagina, you should kiss her by the vagina instead of doing masturbation because masturbation is not a good thing masturbation brings negative consequences in the life of the human being. Masturbation is not good especially in spirituality, it is not a good thing.