I feel pressured to kiss girls. Are there any girls out there feeling that pressure too?

[Staiby]

I was at a party with a guy I'm involved with and he asked me if I had ever done lesbian stuff. I told him "no, I'm not a lesbian." Shortly after that, I was in the room with him again along with a girl I had been chatting with that night and she kissed me on the mouth in front of him. It was pretty obvious to me that he had orchestrated that kiss so he could watch. I was not happy about it.

I'm not attracted to girls and I don't like this straight-girls-kissing culture. I don't understand putting up with kissing someone of a gender you are not sexually attracted to for a guy's pleasure. I don't wanna be one of those girls. Just the idea of it is a real turn off for me.

In this society, it seems to be expected that girls will just kiss each other regardless of their sexuality because it's supposed to be no big deal for them when the same expectation isn't extended to men. I fucken hate this double standard. I KNOW he would not kiss another guy for me to watch. But despite me expressing no interest in kissing another girl, he went ahead and arranged that girl to kiss me.

I believe the reason he did that is because of this societal expectation that it's no big deal for girls who are straight to kiss other girls. And so, I was subjected to a kiss I didn't want nor expressed any desire for. In my opinion, stating point blank that "I'm not a lesbian" is also stating "I'm not attracted to girls. Therefore, I don't want to kiss another girl... therefore, don't make me kiss another girl".

A girl couldn't just simply arrange a guy to kiss her straight boyfriend for her to watch, especially after he expressed a disinterest in kissing another guy. It pisses me off that he thought it would be okay to arrange a girl to kiss me, even if I didn't express my disinterest. I should express interest in doing something first before he arranges for me to engage in that thing.

I think I might be alone in feeling this way too. Am I alone?

[Red_Arrow]

When she was moving in to kiss you, you should have averted it, for your own feelings and to make it obvious to your idiot guy that you do not do that.
Some women do kiss other women on the lips and it is not a lesbian act. They have just learned to do that innocently. But many others, like men, do not lip kiss the same sex. You do not have to do that.
And because he engineered that against your wishes, you should dump his ass!

[Staiby]

it happened so quick. I didn't get a chance. I don't mean innocent kissing as a greeting or something. I mean straight-girls-kissing in sexual contexts. It's expected of women to just do it but it's not expected or "not okay" for guys

[truthbeknown]

I think a lot girls get caught up in the moment and try to continue to have fun. People cheer and celebrate this, guys love it, and girls love the attention they get all at the same time. End of the day, nobody is getting hurt and most people are just having fun.

[Staiby]

... I got hurt?

[MannMitAntworten]

Close your fist next time and apply your fist in a swift motion to his nose. I began noticing this about 15 years ago as well. Not my thing. Girl on girl does zero for me.

Make him an ex.

[GreenGold1992]

You should never have to do anything if you're not comfortable with it.

I mean I like to see girls kissing girls, but I would force them into it if they didn't want to.

The next time a guy tries to pressure you into this again, tell him to go kiss another guy since he's so into same sex kissing. Or better yet, tell him to kiss your ass or another guy's ass. Either way, you just be very stern about it.

[GreenGold1992]

*but I would NEVER force them into it if they didn't want

[JennieF]

I know some girls gget that pressure, especially if you're in an environment with a bunch of other girls.

[Jordan_112]

I don't like gays and lesbian sex or whatever i like straight i can't even imagine kissing a guy or having sex with him

[Anonymous]

You do tealize that virtually all women have lesbian tendencies right?

[Staiby]

no shit I realize that. and so it has become an expectation of women, and then I, a women with no lesbian desires, suffered because of that expectation.

[Anonymous]

Society is in my opinion trying to pressure people into things they sexually don't want to do, trying to teach people that it's somehow abnormal to want a normal traditional heterosexual relationship.

Stay away from the people who try to make you do sexual things you don't want to do.

[Staiby]

Have you ever felt pressured to kiss another man? I think it's just an expectation for girls to kiss other girls. It's not an expectation extend to men in the same way that I've noticed

[Opinion Owner]

I've personally never experienced that pressure because I stay away from people like that. But yes men are being pressured by society to experiment with other guys.

[Staiby]

I disagree that's it's in the same way and to the same degree that girls are expected to do it. I also want to distinguish meaning of "pressure" and "expectation". You are not always pressured into meeting an expectation. I think I'm uncommon in being a girl that is very turn off of the idea of kissing a girl, especially when just doing it for a guy to watch. I think most girls will just do it without feeling pressured

[Opinion Owner]

No it's not to the same extent, but it's happening.