I sent nudes and now I’m terrified, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

When I was 12-13 I was in such a bad place, I still am but I took it out in a different way back then. I desperately seemed for attention. At first I downloaded an app called yellow (I don’t know if you know about it, but it was pretty popular where I live), at first I thought it was an app to make friends on Snapchat, but I later realized it was an app that teenagers used to get nudes or hook up. Because I was so desperate for attention, I sent nudes to a few guys that added me on Snapchat. They made me feel like I actually was something. I don’t remember anyone screenshooting my pictures, but they could have recorded from another phone. It happened during like one month or so. Now I am 15 and I am so afraid that the pictures will get leaked and someone will leak my username. I have a huge anxiety because of this I don’t know what to do. I have a boyfriend that I love so much and I really DONT wanna tell him about this, I’m so afraid that he will think I’m disgusting. This morning Ana count that exposed girls nudes and names added me on Snapchat. I watched the story and I was so disgusted. They posted nudes that girls had sent to them and they’re names and ages. I got so disgusted by the people behind the account and I immediately reported the account and told my friends to do the same. Now I can’t stop thinking about this. Should I be worried, this happened like 2-3 years ago after all? Should I tell my boyfriend about it? Should I tell my parent? I have NEVER told this to anybody because I am so disgusted by myself. This is a huge part of my current lack of self-confidence and I am very depressed. Would you be disgusted if your girlfriend told you my story? What should I do? I’m having panic right now, can someone please help me😭

[Anonymous]

I understand the fear totally, but you were underage, so if it helps, someone that would try to share those pictures are taking a huge risk (child/underage porn), so you have that in your favor. If you happened to find any, you can message the site owners and have them remove them right away also. But it's been a couple years like you said, and I think you're ok if you haven't seen anything. I can't comment on your boyfriend as every guy is different, but if it were me, I would be glad you shared that with me and I wouldn't think any less of you for it. So that's your decision if you want to share that with him or not. But try not to let it worry you too much because what's done is done, you can't change it now. It was a mistake and we all make them, try not to beat yourself up over it or be ashamed of yourself. You are still a good person.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your answer, you made me a lot more calmer☺️

[juicyjessie]

Do not message site owners! It will just get more people involved in your history! They will not want underage nudes on their web site, and if found, they will get deleted anyway. Just like I (and other moderators) delete nudes on GAG.

[Opinion Owner]

@juicyjessie Yes good point, probably automatically be taken down. But if not, you can request it also.

[juicyjessie]

I think any pics of that age will be lost in the millions of posts in the last 2 or 3 years. Just try to find one a few days old on GAG! Almost impossible!

[Anonymous]

I see all this talk about teens sending nudes. In the USA, this is considered producing and distributing child pornography. This is a federal offense, and teens have been prosecuted. Yes, if you are under 18, you can be charged. If a teen receives any type of nude picture, then the person sending the pictures is guilty of "pandering obscenity to a minor". It is possible, then, to be guilty of both producing and distributing child porn AND pandering obscenity to a minor.

Many other nations have similar laws, so it is not necessarily a USA only issue.
Also, age of consent laws don't apply here. Under 18 you are guilty under federal law, regardless of the age of consent in states.


If you tell anyone, it is very likely you could be charged with producing and distributing child pornography.

[Anonymous]

Get rid of any nude pics on your phone. Delete any social media accounts that had anything to do with nude pics.

If you can remember where you took the pics, check to see if there is anything in the background that could identify you. Check to see if your phone GPS or location services were switched off. Did any have your face in?

If everything looks clean, I would not worry too much. They are unlikely to go very far.

[Opinion Owner]

Also don't worry about guys being told about all this. No guy that really cares about you is going to be fazed by it! I don't think you have anything to be worried over.

[Kelly966]

You don’t need to be worried, I don’t think they will get out

[duanemc86]

Actions have consequences. Bout time you learned that.

[Asker]

Of course, but when this happened I was 12 years old and didn’t know what could happen.

[duanemc86]

I'm not saying you're solely to blame. You are growing up in the internet age and should have been a little more smart than that. But, a 12 year old has absolutely no business having a phone with unfiltered access to internet. Your parents failed, big time. My oldest is 16 and he just recently got a phone. I've allowed him unlimited minutes and texts. 2gigs data a month, and everything that happen on that phone (and I do mean EVERYTHING) I see. Every word typed, message recieved, pic taken and recieved, web site visited, literally everything, goes to my email twice a day. At any given moment I pick up his phone and can't access it past the lock screen, the phone becomes mine and he might never get it back. Seems harsh, doesn't it. But think about it like this. It is better to have a little freedom and trust from your parents than to be constantly stressed out about the situation you're in right now. I hate it for ya. I hate it bad. The damage is already done. But, I hope you have the good sense to learn from it and not let it happen again.

[unshy1]

Guy's like that get caught I think you'll be ok