Is being "good in bed" what makes a guy fall in love?

[Anonymous]

You hear all the time about how guys don't fall in love with you once you've had sex. But you hear all these stories about girls who are, umm... on the promiscuous side (their own choice, just wanting to have fun, no shaming intended) who basically get the first man they seriously set their sights on to commit to them, partly due to her amazing sexual skills. So if these guys basically fall in love with girls who are clearly very experienced/"good" in bed, does the whole "men don't fall in love with a woman just because he's slept with her" only apply to women who are average or bad in bed?

[anupamagrawal]

Sex is definitely a prime thing of concern in today's materialistic relationships, but its not about 'how the girl is in bed at her first time'. it is not easy and comfortable for a girl to get naked and do the physical sexual act with a man for the first time. So, first time is not the last time for me when I find her interesting outside of bed. It doesn't matter how 'GOOD' she is in bed for the first time, rather for me it matters how she is outside the bed, as when the relationship deepens - her discomfort would eventually go away and she would he as active in bed as the guy dreams her to be.

"She is a whole body with brain, not just a sex thing." - for those who understand.

[PrudentGuy]

Well, whores and prostitutes (sex workers) are generally very good in bed.

But guys who had a good time with them still leave after the "transactions" are over.

Yet there are so many known cases of arranged marriages where the girls were virgins but their husbands stay a lifetime with them.

And there are so many shades in between.

So I think there are both extremes and we cannot generalize.

[T_Clayton]

She doesn't have to be amazing or super experienced in bed.
We learned together.
I was more in love with her kisses, her big butt and that awesome spaghetti and meatballs she used to make.

[IntrovertedAj]

This answer will vary depending on the guy. Some guys all they care about is their sex life. These are usually relationships that won't last. Looks fade. Injuries happen. Other guys will fall in love with you and be smart enough to communicate with you their desires and you will both learn new skills together.

[Tyler131]

Hmmm, sounds very subjective to me. I wouldn't care if my eventual soulmate was terrible in bed.

[Pegases]

Just like women that fall in love with the "bad guy" men fall in love with hoes. It all boils down to maturity, and self love.

[Hoss1981]

Hell no she best know how to cook.

[Ripper_E]

Not for me. I want be with her for her. I don't care if she isn't good in bed. We work at it together. Simple as that.

[Thatsamazing]

No, but it helps.

[Thatsamazing]

And guys don't want sluts, so... not sure where on Earth you heard that nonsense.

[T-roy2020]

Hell no.. if a girl can suck my dick as good as the best.. doesn't mean I love her.. feelings are what does

[Snickermarstwix]

It helps seeing you again

[abc--123]

It definitely helps

[james2018dean]

It could, but not usually. Things should get better as you know each other better.

[Anonymous]

No eww pass.. Like it’s already been said we don’t like sluts.