Do you believe in "bros before hoes"/"chicks before dicks"?

[mistixs]

Both of these phrases mean that you generally prioritize your same-gender friends, over relationships with the opposite gender. Do you subscribe to this?

[Dongtai]

Not trying to marry or have kids with any of my bros so that’s a solid hell no for me. A true bro will help with the girls (I don’t like calling them hoes 😂). Here’s an example.

My cousin has been in a relationship with his girl for a couple of years. I was over one day hanging out. It’s around 7-8. Him and his girl are being flirty. He comes over and says he’s about to go to bed.

My bro senses tingled and I knew he was actually wanting to lay with his girl. Not necessarily go to sleep. He just didn’t want to rudely kick me out. No questions, I nodded and told him good night and in my head I was clapping for him. I’ve had friends do similar things for me. For example we’ll be out and I’ll see a girl and start chatting with her. They could either A: Tell me they want to go somewhere else, or B:Leave me to my business and shoot me a text to where they’re going so I can catch up. None of my friends have ever tried to cockblock me and I’ve never done it to them. Not sure where this bros before girls thing came about but it sounds kind suspect.

True bros help you score. They don’t discourage it or try to put themselves before their friends girl.

[Kurαȷ]

No, I don't subscribe to that ideology and I don't believe that any of my friends really subscribe to it either.
My friends can rely on me, but they should also know that if my partner needs to rely on me at the same time, they will always come first.

I have always said it and I will say it again.
Those who think that relationships "come and go" whereas "friendships are for life" have got their priorities wrong and they need to dig their head out of a middle school mindset.

I would never date someone who still thinks that, because it's sad naive bullshit that no well-adjusted adult should subscribe to.

[weasley8]

I tend to interpret that as just saying that friends take priority over romantic or sexual interests. The saying includes the false assumption that people’s friends are the same gender. That’s not true in my case. I think that my friends have a pretty even split.

But in most cases I would say that friends take priority over romantic interests. So I would say that I probably follow it. But it only works in certain scenarios. When you’re young, you’ve probably known your friends a lot longer than you’ve known anyone you’re dating. You’re likely closer to your friends, and they probably care more about you. That changes once your relationship becomes more serious though. Obviously if you’re married, or close enough to be, you’re not closer to your friends than you are to your spouse.

I would say that I generally follow that, just because where I am in my life, I’m closer to my friends than I am to any romantic interest. But I wouldn’t really say that I believe in the saying. I believe that it’s a gross generalization that ceases to apply once people get into more serious relationships.

[SueAnon84]

Unfortunately, I never had many girlfriends as I grew up, especially high school and college so whenever I did have an opportunity to have a boyfriend, there wasn't "that" kind of a problem! Also, most of the men I chose, weren't also friends with my friends and I also didn't date them long enough for them to meet my friends that were women! ... I know it's sad but hey...

And but pertaining to answering your question, no. I wouldn't do a bros before hoes, or chicks before dicks thing! To be honest with you, some of the nicest friends I have had in my lifetime where men/guys... I guess it's true what they say about other women being too jealous of each other to be close again! That last real girl best friend I had was when I was in elementary school! Most women were bitches towards me for some reason... I hung out with a few but I knew deep down that they (most of them) weren't genuine! Sad but true!

[SteveSmith1985]

No. I legitimately thought that this was a "bad joke saying". Like a thing people said as a joke because it's so dumb it's funny. Not an actual philosophy. but since you're asking. No that's ridiculous.

[Rocky_Jocky57]

I'm about facts., but I trust my family to be honest with me, because they are not underhanded or petty. But I'll hear both sides and come with a conclusion. When I get into a relationship there has to be a level of respect and loyalty. But, I have loyalty to people outside him.

[DizzyDesii]

No. Females dont do much for me. I need a guy who i prefer to befriend/love/marry/sex/reproduce with

[cassanova74]

So what u want

[DizzyDesii]

@cassanova74 clearly a dude

[cassanova74]

I'm hear want to chat

[DizzyDesii]

@cassanova74 thank you for the offer but im ok

[Marie132]

On average my friends are a 50-50 mix, maybe more males than females so the saying doesn't work... I'm not a girls night party girl anyway

[Daniela1982]

Mistixs, do you ever comment on people's replies to your questions or you too busy asking them to care? You don't even acknowledge replies I have made, or anyone else's for that matter. That seems kind of rude as most people do. Why is that? And in case you never noticed, I have defended you many times to people saying something about you.

[JohnDon9]

This the the best way to get your friends in line when they are losing it 🤣

[ohshee]

No not even

[ZackBan]

Most people misunderstand the meaning of this line. It doesn't mean be a douchebag to women in favor of your guy friends or vis versa. It's simply a reminder that even if you're in a committed romantic relationship, you should never ignore or distance yourself or mistreat your friends.
End of the day should you ever breakup they will be the ones to pick up your pieces. Cut them off and you'll be all alone.

[fallen_wings]

not really since I learned that I'm alone in this adventure.

My Friends be saying sister before misters... but they're the first breaking it

[Hal2002]

When in a relationship, the relationship comes first, I will have my time to be with my friends.

But I draw lines, Friday after work I have a standing arrangement with a few buddies to meet after work to have a few drinks. We usually meet around 4:30 or so, I tell anyone I am getting involved with. Not to make plans for Friday night, as that is boys night. If the person I am in a relationship starts trying to plan things for the night I set aside for my boys, there will be trouble as when that starts to happen that is because someone is trying to play the control game.

[Jjpayne]

I'd say, in terms of male friends vs girlfriends. I'd go for the girlfriend with the intention of keeping my guy friends but in a way that's fair to both but I don't see why my romantic life has to be put on hold by friends.

[Daniela1982]

I don't see why you can't have both sexes as friends.

[Jjpayne]

Girls too but it does say bros before hoes... But bros are girls now too... So point taken girls and guy friends

[SjE78]

not really no, no one can help who they fall for... and if a mate doesn't treat their gf's right then someone comes along and does, then they can't complain... it's when someone cheats on their partner i have an issue with, and even more so if one of those who they cheat with was a friend... and that's happened to me before when my first ex cheated on me with a mutual childhood friend... threw almost 15 years away just like that and taught my eldest to lie to me so effectively that i knew something wasn't right just couldn't pick up on it... I have resolved that issue since then ;)

[CarpetDenim]

I don’t follow this ideology, and neither do any of my friends. My boyfriend and my romantic relationship with him will always take priority over my platonic relationships simply because he means more to me and I value him more than my friends. I’ve never been as close to any of them and I’ve never been able to rely on any of them as much as I have on him.

[Sarahr123]

No. I don’t. The people I know aren’t frivalous. They’ll be in committed relationships or marriage so the partner isn’t a hoe or a dick anyway. For me loyalty is the most important and me and my boyfriend we are loyal to each other and we are the bestest of friends. It is us against the world so there is no third person that can come between us. Your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend should be your closest and best friend. If not what are you even doing with them? They’re meant to be your priority. Especially your spouse I mean that’s family!!!

[SongBird3]

Yes! Always put your friends first! Because after you get dumped your friends are gonna be there for you, if you push them away then you'll have nobody

[YellLow]

I think it hurts oot more losing a good friend than losing a boyfriend. You lose a boyfriend ok but you have your friend, you lose friend md you dont have no one, almost, its clear there are things you can't discuss with a partner.

[notthatgoodgrl]

I’m sure I’d be a better person if I did but both my friends and I don’t really follow this credo, I’ll totally bail on friends for a date, especially if I’m getting my fun zone licked.

[jgokgotit]

I agree with it in the sense that I won't sacrifice and change my friends just because a girl don't like them. Just like my family, she needs to be able to handle my friends. A real man or woman doesn't expect you to change your entire friend circle just for them.

[kaitylatte]

I follow it as much as possible. I dated a guy who was serious trouble for me and it tore me and my friends and my sister apart. I felt like I didn't know them anymore. So now I follow it

[Alpha09]

No. I think it's incredibly immature and sexist. I'm not gonna prioritize my female friends over my male friends simply because we are of the same gender. When it comes to relationships however I notice a lot of people prioritize thier new partner over thier friends, and that in my opinion is the wrong move. This person could leave at any time, so value your friends. Sometimes they can see things you can't because your head is in the clouds.