If a girl was like that, I don't think she'd be the right one for me...
I mean its just odd that the people she's been with would mean so much vs other more important things
there's no harm with being like that, just a little peculiar... though its important to note If its something that is taken light heartily, maybe its part of her interesting character... something like a journal maybe, one that doesn't effect her daily life and its more of a reflection on herself tool that she uses - I could see it being just fine then
If it consumes the person and/or being some type of obsessive behaviour type of thing then no
H_11 No! It's kinda like saying the value of these women is that "I got them", very childish. I can't stand that thinking and some females think ilke that in their own way.
It is also a way of saying something about their own self worth and value in life and how low it must be to feel that way. Where is love in that? Their goal in life is to score hits? .. that makes them feel good? Something's screwed up in the programming of the value system... would be my thought.
Grosses me out...
I'm always trying to figure out "why" and "how". It fascinating to me like a Sherlock Holmes challenge. But I wouldn't want to be the object on their list. It seems not much different than being a deer to a hunter... Its all about them (as desribed) to be proud of their "kill", rather than what they gave to their life. Thus... they think they have not much to give... which would be early life programming... a wound... they are living out of. WAG!:) One of the great lessons I learned... don't personalize it, there are sick people out there. But do take responsibility for your piece, so you grow to recognize and filter and hold "boundaries".. ugh... there's that word again:). maybe a better word is your value moat... lol.
I wasn't an object on the list... I wonder if I should be grateful or offended... Thank you 😊
No and someone who does this is a Sexual Narcissist!!! Sexual Narcissists have a Tendency to have Sexual Aggression such as Sexual Coercion, Unwanted Sexual Contact, & Attempted Rape to Rape.
NEVER DATE A MAN WITH SUCH A BOOK/LIST/LOG!!!
How do you know this?
@esoericstory I'm a Clinical Psychologist and treat msny of these deviants.
Okay.
Uhhh hell no. Second I see that, he’s single, thrown out of my house and blacklisted. May even send a copy to his family.
I facebook/google searched many of the ladies...
Jeez Sydney you attract guys like the kind of girl I end up with usually. . fucking bat shit crazy... and I'm not talking about our homie... she's crazy but its a good crazy
Hopefully nothing bad came of it. Like mortuary listings...
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Creep Alert!! Wouldn't want him around anyone I cared about. It seem obsessive.
Ewwwww. That's so gross and immature. I'd get out of there faster than you can say... well you get the idea.
If I were a woman I wouldn't want a man who doesn't know how to keep his secrets secure. We all have our baggage and our dark thoughts. Heaven knows my journal is full of stuff that's far worse than anything you've touched on. But I'll be damned if my wife is ever going to read any of it it without a math PhD and a quantum supercomputer.
Don't ditch your guy because he's a pervert or a sex addict or even just a jackass. Ditch him because someone's going to clean out your joint bank account a week before Christmas.
Good grief, this is even WORSE - the 'just hide it in the dark' brigade. Men really are as weird as women portray you (I can't say 'us' to anything like this)
@soleil2666 As if no woman ever kept a journal full of details she wouldn't want others to read.
And if we all took the worst examples of what a male did and what a female did - anything better than that is justified, yes? Or if we took the best of each, perhaps, we might get to a better place altogether, no?
Eeeeew
no for he would give me one of his nasty sexually transmitted diseases ! Thanks
Having a sole journal with only that kinda stuff would creep me out tbh... So I don't think they'd be anything I'd be interested in staying with for any longer
Eeewww no! Certainly not... I am not keen on being another name on his list.
Not to mention that he sounds like a psycho to me.
This is psychopath 101. You get your ass outta there and quick. And don't say he's a good person that's also a sign of mental issues.
No!! If this is real, the guy's a real creep and you need to dump him, pronto!
This sounds very creepy, and not at all someone to be in a relationship with.
I would certainly hope that no self-respecting woman would give someone like that the time of day...
Maybe he’s writing a novel.
What the fuck. No!!
Uhh no. That is hella creepy.
It's vain and ego driven for sure but I think the true beauty comes to this. You wait, wait until the relationship got serious, then as a gift ask him to burn the book or ask him to burn the book has a wedding present. When you are the only commitment, it puts him in a tight spot and you get to take great pride in watching that journal/book burn. But for those that got out of the relationship, no worries, you find another guy that's more stable :)
Lol, this sounds both right and sinister, sort of like the real world (unfortunately) is. There is so much gloating at people burning something. Not that getting rid of such a notebook wouldn't be progress for the person whose insecurity made them write it in the first place - but to selfishly gloat about that, rather than simply be content - sinister.
@soleil2666 Well, I threw in the gloat but honestly if there is a journal like that it means he is mentally claiming backies. In his mind he wants options if this does not work out. If you really love someone you need to let that go. An act like that is hard but it brings you much closer together with the other person. Imagine if a girl had a journal with past boyfriends and their numbers. With the intention of attraction not friendship, this was a dating list. Would you be comfortable with her owning that? I gloat but it's a major success to move on in your relationship without that. I get that it's a security blanket but love is sacrifice, how would you feel if you were just a name on a list of 100 other guys. In a moment if you messed up she goes on to the next one on the list. I'm not saying this relationship will last some don't but to be healthy it's good to allow a journal like that to go, worse case senario, you start dating again but for any girl it's always a plus if she does not feel like she is 1 out of 100 options
Jjpayne Oh, I've lived in Sydney so just happen to know how childish that whole 'scoring diary' idea is. They came from a really sweet background back in the 90s, but then that got changed to getting laid big time and in style - there was a first wave of not listening to parental advice and cheating if you felt like it - you could just see it in people's faces how bad that made them feel (as in, you can, nobody stops or cares too much - but in the morning you have to face yourself in the mirror, no matter how fun doing the crazy thing seemed (it didn't help - or it did - that Sydney was full of fairly attractive people looking to this new 'mingling' thing - behind closed doors if you wanted, it was all to be explored back then (since being gay just got accepted - all of a sudden it was the time to rewrite morality) I think it went downhill from there in terms of people connecting to each other - the trouble there is that nobody connects anyhow, but go around touting their conquests instead). It's all very childish and NOBODY is any happy with it - it isn't just that bloke, the culture-of-the-day is just such (and in any case, housing is so expensive that there isn't much more you can do - starting a family is a huge deal, considering the costs)
wouldn't get in a relationship with him in the first place
If the only journal she kept was as described and only for sexual partners then that’s way too weird. However I have dated women who kept a daily journal in which they would write about sexual partners along with the rest of the details of their lives.
Like just a regular, normal journal.
Exactly. My ex had an online journal that she wrote in daily.
No!!!
@WhiteShoulder shouldn't we shut up? he's still threatening to sue us for defamation of character I've heard
@Wowgirl30q truth is an absolute defense...
I wish it would get dropppppeeeddd whole thing makes me suck I don't want to hear about it I'm sure you don't either. Relieving something will make you never move on from it and never be in the present
I would strongly suggest not being with a guy like that, it is not good to be with a guy who only thinks of you as one of his "conquests", instead of loving you for who you are as a person, not to mention he would probably have no problem sleeping with other women behind your back since it is not anything intimate or special to him.
That's what you would call a creep and it's definitely disturbing.
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