Why some guys like to skip the foreplay before the real sex?

Why some guys like to skip the foreplay before the real sex?
Like I said some guys. I meanI heard so many opiniosn that foreplay before the main event is a very important part of all the intercourse, penetration etc. but there are guys who simply liek tos kip that part, as they only focus in the penetration as for these guys peentration is more important than the real foreplay. For women foreplay is super important I heard becaue women tend to take more than 10 mintues to get turn on and horny, while men are quicker in this department. We are different in that sense, why some guys do not or can't understand that. Why is bad of the foreplay before the main event?

But for some guys they only want the penetration or intercourse their attitude is like by wanting just that they just want to please themselves not the woman they are havign sex with. It is like they treat that woman just like a piece of object to satisfy themselves and that is all. I wonder if actual prostitutes who get paid for sex are treated better than the guy having sex with someone they know.

It is not just about men it is about men and the woman who are in that together, so they can enjoy it both not just one in particular.

In regards of this I heard a comment from a guy at some event who was proposing to get laid with a lady he knows for 5 years and had always find her attractive. The lady was a bit prudish and a virgin and the guy knew but she did want to get laid with him because she also was attracted to him but still she had her reserves to go for it. I mean for her all of this was new for her. On the other hand the man was bolder and forward in this department. Well the thing is that the guy always knew she wanted to be with him, cause she directly told him several times in the past.
The lady it seem wanted to take things with him a little slower than him so she can start getting used to the idea of being with him intimately so she can enjoy it more each time thy were together each time they could see each other
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So for her foreplay was important, but it seem for the guy it was not that important as he was not very into foreplay, maybe heavy making out but after that he wanted to fuk. When the lady mentioned to the guy that women need to warm up first the guy told her “That is the reason you will always be a virgin, you are not bold enough to try things at your age and be direct in this era especially when you are above 40yrs old!!!”. . I found that comment rude!! The lady it seems was not a virgin
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beacuse she losst her virginity with the guy last year but still had lack of sex experience, so for the guy she had to be a sex expert alreayd after 2 times of being with him. She did want to be with him he also wanted to be with her, but he wanted her to be with him on his terms and she wanted him to be on her terms but the guy did not like her terms but wanted her to like his terms so her terms bothered him. The lady felt sad as she said “im note ven worth to get laid, im a failure”
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  • As you said already, the guy wanted the lady to be with him on his terms, the guy is very dominant, and he want the lady to be submissive to him, so the lady should follow the guy's rules if she want the guy to keep seeing her. The guy like to skip foreplay, because he don't need foreplay, and because he prefer to get to the main event as soon as possible, the lady is also don't see the guy often enough, and it's something that makes the guy less patient. Yes the guy want to please himself, and he also want a lady who like pleasing him, why is submitting to the guy makes the lady feel like a object? the lady says that she want to be with the guy, but then she says that being with the guy makes her feel like a object, the lady is contradicting herself quite a lot, if the lady want to be with the guy than the lady should follow the guy's rules, the guy is dominant, so he is not going to let the lady to dictate the rules, it's take it or leave it, the lady follow the guy's rules or the guy is going to lose interest. Yes it looks like the guy expect the lady to act more mature and experienced, because of her age and because she already had sex with the guy 2 times, so the guy expects the lady to be ready for the main event quicker. So not being worth to get laid makes the lady feel that she is a failure, but when the guy want to please himself by having intercourse with the lady, it's makes the lady feel like the guy's sex toy, then what the lady prefer to be the guy's sex toy or for the guy to completely lose interest in her? anyway for the guy the making out also counts as foreplay, so it's not like he is totally skip foreplay, the problem is that the lady is not getting ready fast enough, also the lady is acting like she only enjoy foreplay, and that only the guy wants the intercourse, so the guy is right if he feels like the lady was wasting too much time.

    • can't you read ohshee comment on how a man has to treat a lady maybe you can learn from it and stop defending men for everything

    • Why don't you tell the guy to read that? dominant guys want to ladies to follow their terms.

    • Because most guys are selfish ,, and lazy or out of shape ,, lol ,, so they make it all about them get off and go to sleep ,

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  • I love real sex. But not until it's time,, if I need to go some place , I'm not going to just get in the car and go,,, I'm going to fill the tank up first , if I'm baking a cake I'm using everything it calls for, first I'm going to pre heat the oven,,, I'm not going to pour the cake mix in a pan and put it in the oven,, and if we are going to make love , have sex !, fuck I'm not going to to in with our clothes on ,, I'm going to pre heat ur oven I'm going to slowly fill your tank and ,, I will probably go 100 miles and stop and top the tank my lips are going to touch every inch of your body ,, and when I can feel ur energy bubbling we are going for a ride until the wheels fall off

    • So why some guys can't understand your point=? Especially in our age group

    • What if the guy in question is dominant so is the reason he behaves like that? I still an excuse to act like that towards her?

    • Because most guys are selfish ,, and lazy or out of shape ,, lol ,, so they make it all about them get off and go to sleep ,,

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  • Guys usually don't need any foreplay in order to be ready to fuck, and because of this a lot of them don't realize that a woman doesn't just get wet at the sight of a penis or even if she is that the foreplay is important to bring her to the height of he arousal so that she will reach orgasm with him.

    • Good answer but some guys really dont understand that womens body works differentlythan the guys. Why some guys do not ujnderstand that something I will never know. I mean you are fast to get aroused we dont. Is nto so hard to understand. Wew are different in that field. What man can't understand that?

    • Not all men are like that

    • @livingthelife19 yes I know not all unfortunately the guy I hve huge hots for is like that

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  • Unless the guy is really into you and wants to give you pleasure, many guys could care less about foreplay, they get hard in an instant and want some place to stick it.

    • But female bodies work diferently for us foreplay builds us up. Why men can't get that?

    • unless they care, they just don’t care.

    • and the ones who do not care re douches pricks and tools they better stay alone than with a woman

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  • "Why" is not important because you will not be able to change such men. What is important is being able to recognize those men and either avoid them or push them away if they are already involved in your life.

  • wow that's mean

    • yes those comments were rude to the lady and it makes her sad or more pissed off as I heard the lady know the guy for some years.

    • The guy simply changed to herl He had another attitude to herbeause he wanted to do things his way not the ladys way even if the two of them had teh hots for each other

    • If the guy is calling the lady a virgin even though he knows that she is not a virgin it's odd, but the fact that the guy is dominant is not odd, and vast majority of women are submissive.

      Why some guys like to skip the foreplay before the real sex?

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  • It's called being a cunt.

    • who is a cunt the lady or the guy who said those mean comments?

    • The guy's the cunt.

  • Guys really don’t need the foreplay to enjoy sex. But I am so grateful I had an ex teach me about foreplay and even seduction building up to foreplay. Now I enjoy all aspects of making love and that can take hours when done right

    • bu women do need foreplay that is why we are different than guys

    • Ha ha, there are many more reasons why women and men are different. But as I said, without being educated I likely wouldn’t have seen a reason for foreplay as my erection has happened just seeing her naked and I’m ready for intercourse. But also as I said I enjoy foreplay, enjoy oral sex, enjoy fingering and her squirting everywhere. It’s like preheating an oven and when it’s burning things get wild.

    • i mean u men do not need foreplay but women do U get turn on fast sure but what about the women? They do need foreplay so what are u going to do if the guy does nto want or like foreplay beause they dont need to but the women need to? aRE U GOING TO BAIL ON the lady, are u going to be turn off, or bother by it?

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  • Lol foreplay is the most important part 😯 since 80-ish% of women orgasm because of the foreplay instead of the penetration/sex itself. i do like foreplay just to see how she get all turned on.

    • But ok I know men are different and you get turn on fast and easiy and the minute you are turn on you want sex inmmediately probably the reason you do not lvoe much of foreplay cause once you are hard you want sex right away and tht could be in just 5 minutes. Unlike the women we need to build up to be turn on and if a guy gets turn on so fast maybe the guy wotn like to wait that long for a woman to get warm up. So I understand that in men but how can we make a man understand that us we work differently and understand us and be more patient with us, even if a man can't be that patient, especially when you guys get turn on and hard super fast and manybe is why some guys do not like the foreplay too much as you have to wait for some minutes for a woman to be turn on and by the time the woman is alreayd turn onk, they guy probably is not turn on himself anymore.

    • Well most of us know that, but i guess u always got some that just don't wanna put the work in it and just wanna orgasm themselves which mean they leave the women unsatisfied :/ thats in my opinion the main reason women wanna have less sex overtime while in a relationship cuz he doesn't care about her needs.

  • The “moment” has always dictated whether foreplay/no foreplay occurred. I mean, option A or option B isn’t ritualistic. Perhaps I’m the lucky one, but I have never unwrapped the ‘gift’ and found a craisin.

  • Why don't you tell that guy directly?

    • its not working

    • So you think writing here will do the job? You can either Change the 'Guy' or simply 'Change' the guy!

    • Or she could follow his rules, he is a very dominant guy, he is not going to submit.

  • Because those type of boys I wouldn't say they are men at all... I feel it's because they are not attracted, don't really like the woman know that there's no feeling as well and nothing more than to nut is going to matter in the end... They don't care not even a little bit about her and from the moment she gave him the slightest notion that he was going to fuck that's all he cared about and will continue to do so tell she says no.. They are some sorry ass dudes out there these days... Myself I love knowing that she is completely satisfied starting with foreplay and ending with her sweating and out of breath. I make it my obligation for her to cum at least 3 times before I even get in position to slide deep inside her... Also she will definitely be receiving oral for 2 of them.. That is how I make sure I'm satisfied by her being satisfied...

    • But ok I know men are different and you get turn on fast and easiy and the minute you are turn on you want sex inmmediately probably the reason you do not lvoe much of foreplay cause once you are hard you want sex right away and tht could be in just 5 minutes. Unlike the women we need to build up to be turn on and if a guy gets turn on so fast maybe the guy wotn like to wait that long for a woman to get warm up. So I understand that in men but how can we make a man understand that us we work differently and understand us and be more patient with us, even if a man can't be that patient, especially when you guys get turn on and hard super fast and manybe is why some guys do not like the foreplay too much as you have to wait for some minutes for a woman to be turn on and by the time the woman is alreayd turn onk, they guy probably is not turn on himself anymore.

    • I don't know but I think the best thing to do is tell him how much you like and want to be touched to be kissed to be tasted tell me ummm him what turns you on the most just let him know that you really want FOREPLAY... I love it myself I love knowing what makes a woman get really wet love knowing what she wants and needs and likes I love the taste of her and I would be just fine with foreplay and that's all.. Real talk if she only wanted that at that time , then okay 👅💦👅💦👅💦👅 mmmmmm just thinking about what you want and what gets you wet turns me on so much 😈 frfr

    • I kind of did tell him I want to be with him and I love heavily making out with him and I even told him that since all of this is new for me I have to get used to each time so I can enjoy it more. I even told him that lets go out have some drinks, eat something then we can go to his place. I guess he was bothered by all of that I said.

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  • because they're horny lol... foreplay is a must

  • Foreplay should be abit of kissing, then the girl should get on her knees and suck until it's nice and hard then a good fuck

    • Yes that's how a woman shows how much submissive she is to the man. :)

  • They probably just can't hold it anymore

  • Men are too impatient for Foreplay. I mean, you can't blame them, we love Sex.
    The thing is, Men and Women are designed differently!
    Men: Horniness builds up to the point where, when we're horny, we're ready.
    Women: Foreplay builds them up.
    We Men just need to learn to slow down.

    • You are totally correct you need to slow down and as you pointed out wisely we are designed differently so how can some men understand you need to slow down or at least try to understand it.

    • Exactly! Besides that, wouldn't Men feel SO MUCH BETTER to know that it benefits both parties? If we actually had patience, and shared Foreplay with our Girls for at LEAST half an hour, and went ahead with Sex, not only will our Girls feel REALLY good, but our OWN orgasms will be amplified!

    • I so agree with you. SO what do you think this lady should hd told the guy who told her "That is why you will remain a virgin". He told her that when he told her that women need to warm up to get horny and the guy did not like it and bothered him.

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  • Could be that they aren't good at it or they are so excited they just want to skip to the end :(

    • But ok I know men are different and you get turn on fast and easiy and the minute you are turn on you want sex inmmediately probably the reason you do not lvoe much of foreplay cause once you are hard you want sex right away and tht could be in just 5 minutes. Unlike the women we need to build up to be turn on and if a guy gets turn on so fast maybe the guy wotn like to wait that long for a woman to get warm up. So I understand that in men but how can we make a man understand that us we work differently and understand us and be more patient with us, even if a man can't be that patient, especially when you guys get turn on and hard super fast and manybe is why some guys do not like the foreplay too much as you have to wait for some minutes for a woman to be turn on and by the time the woman is alreayd turn onk, they guy probably is not turn on himself anymore.

    • I agree. Not all men are like that. I know i'm not. I love foreplay! Just have to communicate what you need

    • Yes I know I did but it was not even worth to communicate

  • All joy in foreplay more than the sxs

  • I do not, foreplay is essential.

  • Needed more energy.

  • Ok i lovr fore play. I always wanto have sex with a girl that starts with a fantasy like it happens in porn so not all men are the same.

  • Guys... you mean boys with dicks...

    • yes haha

    • Touche...😎

  • Hell no. I love enjoying a woman's body on me before any intercourse occurs.

    • But ok I know men are different and you get turn on fast and easiy and the minute you are turn on you want sex inmmediately probably the reason you do not lvoe much of foreplay cause once you are hard you want sex right away and tht could be in just 5 minutes. Unlike the women we need to build up to be turn on and if a guy gets turn on so fast maybe the guy wotn like to wait that long for a woman to get warm up. So I understand that in men but how can we make a man understand that us we work differently and understand us and be more patient with us, even if a man can't be that patient, especially when you guys get turn on and hard super fast and manybe is why some guys do not like the foreplay too much as you have to wait for some minutes for a woman to be turn on and by the time the woman is alreayd turn onk, they guy probably is not turn on himself anymore.

    • You can't. Same reasons men in general can't make women in general see their point of view. It's the battle of the sexes.

    • So either the man have to be patient and control his beign horny taht fast or leave the lady and get all dissapointed he had to wait a long time for her to be all warm up?

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  • they forget it takes time for a woman to get aroused

    problem is, how long, does it generally take?