When do you decide to have sex with your partner?

[Anonymous]

If you just started a relationship, how do you know if you are ready to have sex with that person or not?

[nightdrot]

It's a good question but I don't think that there can be a universal answer. For some it is as much a moral issue and you wait till the wedding night. For other it is just instinctive, and for others still it is something that you actually discuss.

Sorry, not that helpful I know. Still, to answer it in any specific way, you really have to know the people, the state of the relationship and the context.

My girlfriend and I have lived together for just shy of 12 years and we have three children together. (We don't want to be married.) Neither of us was virgins when we met, so we had no problem with sex outside of marriage.

However, we had been waiting quite a while because I had run hot and cold. I had been in a very bad relationship and was very careful.

So one night we were just making out. We had done that a hundred times before. Though for some reason I had my shirt off. So we are making out and my girlfriend put her hands on my pants at that strategic place and that was it.

Simple as that. SHE actually initiated it! In fact, I later joked with her, "I was wondering if you were ever going to get around to that." (She rolled her eyes. She has to do that a lot with me.)

So you have to decide what you want and when you are ready. You have to know the other person.

Sorry, I know that is not really helpful, but it is the way it works in real life. I don't think you can write a hard and fast rule.

[boggboss]

When it feels right me and my girl dated for like 2 months before actual sex happend but did other stuff in that time

[CapricornHoney]

I know when it feels right. It’s a gut feeling I guess that the time is right. There’s no specific time limit on it although I’d generally be dating someone for about three months before deciding.

[Mister_E_Alaska]

You ask "do you wanna have sex?" And the other person says "Yes!" Then it's time.

[SarahsSummer]

You just know. For me at took about 2 months

[R4vedave]

It kinda just happens naturally.

[Jonathan_T]

You feel that you want to. doesn't have to be any more complex than that

[Twalli]

3 months if she's not a virgin, 6 months if she is a virgin. I decide if I want to before then, but I wait that long.

[Johnuk15]

I think you just know when its right

[rockrewls]

When she is completely comfortable with the idea and even initiates it.

[Anonymous]

After about 3 weeks I tend to go down

[Anonymous]

After a few months And tears sex drastically declines