Do guys even want to fuck anymore?

[Anonymous]

Seems like guys just want to sext and masturbate to pictures? They don't seem to want actual sex?

[Anonymous]

https://nypost.com/2020/01/11/why-todays-young-men-are-terrified-of-sex/

''Over the span of two years, Orenstein spoke to hundreds of boys across the United States, ranging in age from their early teens to mid-20s and spanning all races, socioeconomic backgrounds, religious beliefs and even sexual orientations. She learned that a surprising number of them don’t live up to gender cliches — meaning they aren’t hormone-driven Frankenstein’s monsters, obsessed with sex and unconcerned with the consequences. In fact, they’re pushing back against cultural expectations, and many are going so far as to avoid sex altogether. ''

[Asker]

I'm not talking about guys around 20 here, rather around 30.

[Opinion Owner]

They mention men of 29. If by that age they are abstaining, I can't see it changing any time soon. ''According to the latest data by the General Social Survey, men between the ages of 18 and 29 are having less sex than ever; the number of abstinent men has nearly tripled in the last decade, from 10 percent in 2008 to 28 percent last year.''

[MrOracle]

Of course... but I think some guys have struck out so many times that they have trouble believing that they have a chance at actual sex anymore. This is why I tell people to stop trying to find dates online and go outside and meet people in the real world, face-to-face.

[Asker]

Where exactly? It's not like I could approach a random guy and ask him to fuck me.

[Optymistyk]

Why not, I guarantee you most single guys are sex-starved and will throw themselves at any opportunity to get some action

[Truthatanycost]

@Optymistyk I bet that's exactly why the girl wouldn't want to. They want guys that have options, and that other women want.

[MrOracle]

You're going to need to put a BIT more work into it, yes. Most guys aren't going to trust a girl who randomly walks up to him and says "wanna fuck?" because unless you look like a model for Men's Health, that never happens, and they'll assume that they're being set up, but if you talk to him for 20 minutes and laugh and flirt and then say "do you have someplace we could go?", most of the time, you're going to get laid. It doesn't really matter where you go as long as it's a place that's likely to have single guys: the grocery store, a restaurant, a pool hall, a sports bar, a bowling alley, a book store, or wherever. Just go out and do things that you like to do, but don't pass up the opportunity to talk to guys that you find attractive, and it won't take long to get what you want.

[Asker]

I don't know what planet you're on, but it doesn't work that way. You don't walk up to strangers to express an interest in them, or you'll come off as a crazy person. I'm not able to find dates or even fuckbuddies online nor offline.

[MrOracle]

Again, you'd need to spend 20 or 30 minutes talking and flirting with them at least, or they absolutely wouldn't trust you, and obviously not every guy you would approach would be up for it - some would have girlfriends, or be religious, or gay, or whatever - but I think if a girl seemed like she showed genuine interest and was "good to go", most guys would take her home and take care of her. As I said, you'd need to invest some time in talking to them first - and, yeah, some guys might need a second meeting before they'd be ready, but it really isn't as hard as you're making it out to be AS LONG AS you talk and flirt and laugh with the guy and let him know that he turns you on.

[KrakenAttackin]

Yes, actually you could --- and you would get fucked.

[Guardian45]

Very reasonable; very well-said!

[Alpha09]

I never thought I'd ever hear that sentence. Well I can tell you that guys definitely still want sex lol just depends on who your going for.

[Shaniqua_Shaniqua]

My MAN love to fuck. He claps them cheeks all day while he locked up. 😂😂😂

[summiter]

Young guys have always masturbated frequently although they will never admit it. I happen to love sex and the more the better.

[Pamina]

Are these guys you actuay know IRL?

[Asker]

Some of them, yes

[Pamina]

Well, those you could (or rather should) simply ask directly. Ask them what their intentions are with you.

[blkgold33]

You talking to the wrong guys lol

[cicchis0]

Yeah. I would never ask for nude photos.

[wankiam]

stats would show its the not so different for either gender in the west but in japan it is mainly a male thing.

[Rixon]

Guys for sure want to fuck. I would happily call myself a fucker than someone who doesn't fuck.

[krugdog]

women not quite the easiest to approach and just ask if they want to fuck. but if it were possible and guys weren't struck down so much, guys would ask women that. i have a very high sex drive and I don't have too much trouble sometimes finding someone to fuck. you should pm me.

[Gatman34]

Women accuse guys of sexual assault if they regret the sex. Women your age are in victim mentality mode from feminism and guys are starting to wise up

[Shiver]

Yeah, I do. Lol

[Haelaeix123]

I imagine some guys do lol, I know I do XD

[Drumlin2001]

Yes. Very much so. Seems like you're meeting the worng men

[Passinggas]

That is a good thing right? According to the feminists, lower sexual activity overall is considered progress. Many have stated this. I would say that between, lower testosterone levels, potential metoo retribution, and women that have been trained to hate men, it makes sense.

[Ripper_E]

I seriously disagree with that

[broken_heart_at_48]

Those guys are either just lazy or can't get any. Because if they're passing up real live pussy for a phone screen or computer screen then they're is something seriously wrong them

[your_guy_23]

Yes I do but don't have anyone who wants to lol so sexting and pics are all I have at this moment in time haha

[Nobody86]

Yes i do i want to hacve a smash marathon

[Nik1hil]

I want to fuck..
No questions asked..
Protection taken..
And even if i finish i would stop until you are finished..

[jamiepagepro]

Girl bring your ass to my house! That thought will never cross your mind again I promise you that

[KrakenAttackin]

Hell, we can organize a "train" on her.

[MannMitAntworten]

This guy still prefers actual sex...

[Derick529]

Yes, guy are still wanting to have sex. Sometimes guys have to work incredibly hard to get "close" to it, its not like they can find a partner to hookup out of the blue. Its basically like dating: all of the process is still applied.

[Asker]

What process? How?

[Derick529]

Most guys would do like "dating", which is getting to know the person, their likes, dislikes, interest, etc. No one wants to hookup and/or date anyone that's dangerous (as in, agresive/abusive, manipulator, etc), specially in one night stand. One single STD and its all downhill from there. When you know the person, you know their behavior, therefore, knowing if its ok to have sex with them or not.