Is it a problem for guys if a woman doesn't like getting touched down there?

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Not talking about sex, just touching.
I don't feel comfortable getting touched and/or fondled "down there" by somebody else. I just don't need someone doing anything to me there.
I feel kind of emberassed and self concious if someone takes their time "inspecting" me there so closely.
Also the idea of oral sex on women also doesn't imterest me at all and I don't want to do it. The other way around would be nice though.
Also touching boobs and body is fine and would be appreciated.
Do guys have a problem with this or would you be "glad" if you didn't have to do that?

broken_heart_at_48 · Accepted Answer

No it's going to be a problem. Do you have an emotional issue with it other than just it's embarrassing? You don't have to answer that I'm just throwing that out there because maybe it's something that you might want to talk to a therapist or maybe you guys could talk about it and make small goals. If it's really just embarrassment then just build your trust and take it slow. I mean you're denying yourself so much and it's actually robbing your relationship of a whole other level of intimacy.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Long-term, it would be a problem for me. I could understand her needing a bit of time to build trust first, but I definitely enjoy seeing, feeling, and tasting her, so, yeah, that's something I would need to work out with her. I'm very good at building trust, though.

Saris1 · Accepted Answer

Just communicate to the guy what you like and do not like. If he's into you he wants to make you feel good. Helping him understand what does it for you is always a positive.

MORPHEUS_12 · Answer

Have you been sexually abused?

aspiegirl_ · Answer

I feel exactly the same

MrTuxedo · Answer

Wouldn't be glad, kinda dissapointed, but if she allows to touch boobs and rest of the body, It's not a dealbreaker.

Zusaso1 · Answer

I could respect that. Wouldn't be a huge issue.

Dargil · Answer

Yes it is a degree of separation which will make a relationship incomplete for me.

GermanGuy87 · Answer

that's not a big deal

Irishman41 · Answer

No a guy will be patient wait and respect what u want

Trooper205 · Answer

I would personally be a bit... hurt... by that. I mean, I would RESPECT Her, of course! But it's a VERY big dream of mine to fondle and caress my Girl's privates. It's not a problem, it would just be a disappointment. Touching breasts would be fun, though! I wouldn't complain!

Meatunnel69 · Answer

That would be a big problem for me nothing better than some heavy petting to turn me on id have to be able to feel my girl up

soleil2666 · Answer

Why? A disease, a smell, some injury?

COMMODOREII · Answer

I would have a problem

GreenGold1992 · Answer

if I had a girlfriend, I would respect her to not touch wherever she didn't feel comfortable

GenesisnSymphony · Answer

I think I wouldn't like it

Snickermarstwix · Answer

You'll just be a one night stand to me unless I learn about it before we have sex, in that case I just won't have sex with you. Unless it's an open relationship and I reaaaaally love you. I'll just go and eat the pussy of other women

findoutwhy · Answer

If you had a gun I made you feel comfortable and let you know you are beautiful and then made you come and squirt all over by eating your pussy and tick on your g-spot you would love it problem solved

rockrewls · Answer

You are very insecure about your vagina, you shouldn't be you are missing out on a lot of pleasure.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Would be super disappointing but whatever

Anonymous · Answer

I don't see the difference between "having sex" and "being touched". You're still "being touched" when a penis touches your vagina. So, what do you mean "being touched"