Why do women prefer to sleep with men who have experience rather than virgins who don’t?

chris_987 Yoda

Wouldn’t the man with experience be more likely to cheat?

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Apple1996 Master
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Cause no girl wants to be responsible for taking a guys virginity. It's okay if its virgin on virgin but a experienced person with a virgin is difficult since the experience one is pretty comfortable and ready to go, while the virgin is nervous and everything is new for them.

And no a experienced person is not more likely to cheat then a virgin
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- chris_987
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  No girls wants to take a mans virginity? Is it because women are not superior to men and she should always let the men be better than her? That’s really the only was I can make sense of what you just said.
- Apple1996
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  No we just dont want that burden of knowing we were someone's first. It still makes me cringe to think of all the guys I gave first kisses too
- chris_987
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  So why it a burden to be a guys first? I still think it’s because you want to see guys as better than you
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- Apple1996
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  I don't want to be stuck in anyone's memories like that. They look back in time and think "omg she was my first" I don't want that shit lol
- chris_987
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  Can you tell me why you think it’s a burden and most men don’t?
- Apple1996
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  I guess men want to be remembered and women just dont
- chris_987
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  So it more about you then? If you slept with a guy that inexperienced then it’s shows that your less of a women because you feel like you should be with men that know how to have sex and find you attractive?
- Apple1996
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  Well me personally I dont feel that way. I have only had sex with one person and we were both virgins. I'm not sure how I would feel if I got single again. I'd be willing to have sex with virgin and non virgin but I think I'd rather be with someone on the same level as me. But even then would totally depend on the person
- chris_987
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  The same level of more experience, so you basically just said the same thing I said before? Or you just not sure why you wouldn’t want to be with someone with less experience than you?
- Apple1996
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  I know why. Its because I know have the time or patience to be with a virgin. They deserve someone that is gonna be able to let them have time. Like maybe in the future I would be that way but currently right now in my life I dont have time for that. It should be special and with someone that is more patient
- chris_987
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  But technically sex with a virgin should be shorter than normal sex, so what do you need patience for?
- Apple1996
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  No not true virgins can actually last longer because they are nervous and also dont know what they are doing. And patience to let them figure out what do and learn how to move. Stuff like that for me seems like commom knowledge now but definitely was not when I first started having sex
- chris_987
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  Lol I just remembered that the first time you spoke to me you said you love to take my virginity and that you enjoy taking men’s virginity. I guess that was either a lie or your way of joking. But If you love someone and then left them because they where a virgin and you didn’t want to stay with them and teach them what feels good doesn’t that mean that good sex is more important to you than whether or not you love the person?
- Apple1996
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  I do love virgins but its just a fantasy for me
- chris_987
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  Still odd to have a fantasy but be utterly disgusted by the reality of it, that’s what I’d like to call “leading people on”
- Apple1996
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  No I'm not disgusted by it.(the idea I'm taking someone's virginity is a turn on). I'm just being honest, I would never acutally want to waste someone time and not give them the good experience they deserve.
- chris_987
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  So you’d be wasting someone’s time because you have experience and your not patient enough to teach them about sex so they can get to your level. (Even though doing that is a turn on for you!) so is all of this the way you see having sex with a virgin?
- Apple1996
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  Yeah pretty much. It's more a me issue nothing really about them. I'm sure if I loved and cared about the guy I wouldn't think it's a waste of time if I wanted to eventually date and marry him. Since I'm already married its diffcult for me to think about being with another person
- chris_987
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  Lol I guess but you seem so sure before, but you don’t seem as disgusted by the thought of virgin guys as before. I guess it what were told to believe
- The_man_whol_aughs
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  Experienced people are more likely to cheat wtf are you talking about?
- Apple1996
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  @The_man_whol_aughs yeah I don't see hows that possible because a virgin could still emotional cheat
- The_man_whol_aughs
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  Forget emotions physical cheating is far worse
- Apple1996
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  @The_man_whol_aughs I have to disagree. I'd be more upset that my partner is deep in love with someone then having sex with them. I could forgive the sex part but no way on the love shit
Anoniemus Yoda
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While it's true that people who have a higher body count are more likely to cheat, just because someone has experience doesn't mean that though.

And because virgin men will likely use the woman as a way to lose his virginity and then drop her. A virgin man said this to me which is why I would not ever want a virgin man.
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- chris_987
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  Well I don’t think women who get arrange marriages think that way. So you could just be a product of your environment
- Anoniemus
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  No. They get stuck with the men forced on them which is worse. And the man isn't likely a virgin but it's mostly a condition that she has to be
- chris_987
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  So in your world men are enemy who give women the short end of the stick? Well in reality people who get arrange marriage have more kids and are the majority of the population so kind will become exstinct regardless.
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- Anoniemus
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  Anyone is horrible that gives someone the short end. Arranged marriages don't work. Those people are forced together and the woman usually has to listen to the man. That wouldn't work here in the U. S. Stop worrying about it so much though. If you are a virgin, you'll lose it. Society pressuring men to lose their virginity lest they aren't a man is ridiculous.
- chris_987
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  How’s is it the short end of the stick when people that get married later in life usually struggle to have kids or can’t get pregnant at all, where as the arrange marriage has kids earlier and life more happy life than people who wish they found someone younger in life. See how we see the same situation differently

Most Helpful Guys

Anonymous
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I think it's more because the guys who are experienced have the behaviors or abilities or skills (it annoys me when people call it a skillset, a long story though) on how to get women into bed with them in the first place or get them attracted to them in the first place.
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- chris_987
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  Well my conclusion is that women want a man that’s better then them cause why would sleeping with a virgin be a burden if you feel like he’s less than you. Which begs the question why would a women fight for the right to be equal to men if there only attracted to men that are better than them.
MrOracle Influencer
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For the same reason you'd rather eat a meal from a trained, experienced chef rather than someone cooking their very first meal.
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HedwigInABox Xper 6
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We just want someone who's good at sex. Doesn't really Matter how experienced as Long as he didn't sleep with hundreds of women. I think it's weird to look for virgins cause they might not cheat. But I wouldn't mind dating a Virgin as long as he doesn't want to stay a Virgin.
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- chris_987
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  But isn’t that like leaving school and finding you can’t get a job because you don’t have work experience, like why are women only look for guys that are good at sex? The world is already unfair so it’s sucks that women think that way.
- HedwigInABox
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  I don't expect him to be perfect right away. I'd have no Problem teaching him what I like. But we'd have to be somewhat compatible. Not everyone likes the same Things so good Sex is really objective. having Sex with someone who knows exactly what he does is a bonus. If I Like someone, I won't Turn them down cause they never had Sex. But I might turn them down If we are sexually not compatible.
- chris_987
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  But choosing who you get to marry is relatively new, for most of human history women where virgins before they got married so they probably didn’t even know what felt good. So i guess when you take away sex before marriage women want a guy that’s slept with enough women to be good at it. But I’m more surprised that women have figured out what’s wrong with that way of thinking.
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- HedwigInABox
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  Just because they didn't sleep with anyone before doesn't mean they had a good Sex Life once they did sleep with someone. women still know what feels good and what not even If they had Sex with only one person.
- HedwigInABox
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  Besides being good in bed doesn't automatically mean having kot's of Sex Partners. They could only have had one but still be good at it. Or have had a lot and suck
- chris_987
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  Explain to me how it’s possible for a guy to never sex but be good at it?
- HedwigInABox
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  I meant he doesn't have to have lot's of different Sex Partners. He could've Just had one Long Term relationship. Besides, Sex is really not that hard. As long as people care about their Partner Just as much as they Care about themselfes it's usually fine.
- chris_987
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  So in that one long term relationship the girl he was with had to suffer with bad sex just so you can say he has experience and find him eligible to sleep with you?
- HedwigInABox
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  What makes you think she suffered? Just because he was a Virgin doesn't mean he is bad at Sex. And no I don't care wheter he has experience or not. Women are just not as obsessed with virginity as some men are. I don't care if he is a Virgin. I just care wheter he we are sexually compatible.
- chris_987
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  You said that if a man has been in at least one long term relationship he should be good at sex by the end of its you never said that a man can have sex for the first time and be good. And trust me women are opposed with men not have experience and the sex being, who’s more likely to care if they’re partner is a virgin? Men who would have sex with anything as long as they let him? Or women who want a man to know what he doing? I think that answer to your question is obvious.
- HedwigInABox
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  Not he should be good. He could be good. My First boyfriend was a Virgin. We both were. We just told eachother what we Likes or disliked and that's it. It's really not that deep.
- chris_987
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  I resent the fact that girls don’t like when I go deep, but I guess they feel the same way when I tell them to stop getting emotional about a question, but anyways so you as a non virgin wouldn’t sleep with a guy who’s a virgin because he no longer on your level?
- HedwigInABox
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  I can't belive this. I could literally make a drinking game of the amounts of times I mentioned I wouldn't mind sleeping with a Virgin. Omg. And they say women only hear what they want to hear.
- chris_987
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  You said you would mind dating a virgin would sound you saying it’s definitely not your first choice, like if you could choose to be with someone with more experience you would, that’s why I said you would date a virgin.
Sevenpointfive Master
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they really don't. at least not in my case. virgins have been stigmatized as premature ejaculators. it's not true. i'm a well adjusted man and i won't orgasm without a connection with the girl
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Shaniqua_Shaniqua Xper 2
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Cause them virgins ain’t know how to use that meat stick 😂😂😂
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- chris_987
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  And it’s all about how good the dick is because men are responsible for making sex feel good?
Shiver Yoda
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Experience attracts.
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Justlooking15 Xper 3
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Because maybe the Virgins will come fast not experienced and the woman wants to get satisfied. Most men just bang it out and the woman is left hanging. The man knows to satisfy the woman first and then finish her off
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Prime_Sol Explorer
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Primarily because men are expected to do all the work and "make her cum"
Virgins likely won't.
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lovedejj_xo Yoda
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I wouldn’t feel right having sex with a Virgin i’d feel bad and awkward. So I wouldn’t...
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- chris_987
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  Yeah most girls said that, still amazing that you still think that men should be equal when you see virgins as less then you are.
- lovedejj_xo
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  I’m sorry is that what you got out of what I said? Don’t speak for me I do not agree with you.
- chris_987
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  No but me and another already discussed it and ultimately women want to be lead in the relationship, if you find a guy unattractive because he has less experience than you. Then it’s because you believe than men should be leaders and better than you. Your welcome to prove me wrong but most girls think it’s always a waste of time.
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- lovedejj_xo
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  Again stop putting me with other women. You believe what you want
- lovedejj_xo
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  I would explain but I’m annoyed now maybe later
- chris_987
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  Are you annoyed but what I said? Because if what I said was true then it would explain how women see men.
Tellme Guru
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I also prefer to sleep with experienced women! It’s better.
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Anonymous
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A good dance partner, will be good for a person who isn't very good at dance. A good person who is good at dance, will be patient with the one who's not

It's the same thing with sex. A GOOD, I stress, GOOD, person who's more experienced with sex, will be patient and understanding. A bad one, won't
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- chris_987
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  Patience comes from love