Do you think it's boring that everything girls seem to sexually want these days is to dominated? Why or why not? Is it what you're into yourself?

[Anonymous]

[normalice]

I tend to experience a lot of aggression during sex, making it difficult to hold still. I don't intend to dominate, but it seems sort of the natural result of me wanting to do all the physical work and most girls not having the aggressive hormones needed to overpower me.

So, it doesn't get boring. However, it is also true that letting a girl dominate every once in a while is fun. Specifically, I refer to blow jobs. Despite the optics of a blow job that seem like a girl is being submissive, she is actually in complete control of the situation. True, when she runs out of energy it tends to become normal sex, if not thrusting into her mouth, but until then it's all about the guy holding relatively still so as to not impede her efforts.

[Asker]

You attract the kind of girls that goes with a guy like you...

[normalice]

That is a possibility, sure.

[Asker]

I just notice some guys complaining how they always get extremely passive and submissive girls but everything about them would be a turn off for a more assertive woman lol. Just saying... The idea of having someone who can really act both ways is an illusion in my view.

[normalice]

Eh. I genuinely dont mind the ocassional sexually dominant girl. Its just that they only tend to be dominant for about 5 minutes before they run out of energy. It's rare for a girl to take control from start to finish, but I'm certainly not turned off by it.

[Asker]

It does make sense. I happen to be a sadist both sexually and emotionally with high aggressive tendencies. I will never focus my attention on someone that doesn't provide me with what I need or only moderately appeal to my appetite. I never had any sort of desire to be dominated, never. It's the biggest turn off for me along with pain

[normalice]

Sounds interesting. Although, dominance need not be accompanied by pain. Personally, I'm not a fan of integrating pain into sex - to me, it's just a physical necessity that works better with more effort put into it. Adding things like extreme dominance, bondage, and S&M just seem like trying to feign magic in a decidedly nonmagical situation.

[Asker]

I just happen to be a big sadist. I enjoy making them cry and crush them. If a masochist came to me asking me to hurt him, I would probably turn him down. The best way to hurt a masochist is to deny him the pain he craves lol

[normalice]

that does make sense. It reminds me of an "epiphany" I had in third grade, when all of us kids were playing tag on the playground. I got tagged "it" but no one ran away. Everyone else wanted to be "it," too. It's just not any fun if your opponents want to lose.

[Anonymous]

I think it's hot, and makes me wish I were single 'these days'.

Back when I was single... I felt like nobody talked about lots of women being submissive, so I never sought out a submissive partner, I thought it was just a fantasy thing guys had and no girls wanted.

[Asker]

Really? Hard to believe...

[Cevichef]

there's loooooooots of ways to dominate someone so no ot doesn't feel boring. Always something new to try.

[Asker]

Sure Though I doubt most guys are capable of dominating all the time. It takes a certain type of personality to do it 24/7

[Cevichef]

Oh for sure lol. I love it when she takes over. Vanilla sex also balance things out on that aspect.

[Kazza99]

Its an animal instinct to want to be dominated by a man. Sometimes the other way around is fun but on the whole it is a big turn on for women.

[Asker]

This must be true for most or many at least

[AC_Slayer]

I'm a pure Dom so it works for me... It's not a new phenomenon though. Women are hardwired to want a strong, dominant, man. It's evolutionary.

[Asker]

I know I've always been part of the minority

[william40]

I would like to have a girl dominant me, be her sex slave

[Asker]

Most guys that talk to me are like that

[william40]

Do you like to dominate men during sex

[Asker]

I'm a sadist

[william40]

What is a sadist, forgive my ignorance of this. I am not trying to be a smartass. Explain, please

[Asker]

I enjoy inflicting pain

[Loafeeee]

I am a total sub, and really wish there were more dom girls out there

[Asker]

I wish I had more time for hunting my preys and play with them 🐯... I have to work instead... That sucks

[maksimbard]

No, I don't think so...

[Asker]

Why?

[Anonymous]

They're just lazy they figured if they're dominated they could just sit there and take it AKA lazy 😂

[Cevichef]

FACT 😂😂😂

[Asker]

I think many girls don't have enough sexual desire to take the lead.

[Cevichef]

Its too bad. Lost potential

[Asker]

@Cevichef This is really what I believe. Taking the lead means a lot of work which mean you must want it. Following is way easier and makes you feel wanted which is a turn on for many girls

[Cevichef]

I get where you're coming from. And its good you understand your situation. I disagree with the work load though. It really can be as demanding to be a sub. The big difference in my opinion is the instantanious creative part from the doms. And why would someone be less inclined to improvise? Insecurity? Anxiety? Whatever. I have both. Im still going great regardless. And men gets turned on just as much as women when we feel wanted. We both have the same needs but different ways of getting it fixed. there's still a lack of balance in my opinion.

[Asker]

@Cevichef What is "my situation"?

[Cevichef]

Oh ok i thought what you were describing was exactly how things are for you at the moment. My bad

[Asker]

@Cevichef No. I'm a sexual sadist and extreme aggressor. I'm an extremely small minority though.