Guys would you sleep with a girl that you find unattractive?

[Anonymous]

so me and my bestfriend were tipsy and decided to have sex in his car ( we never had sex before )
anw we are very close friends been besties for years but he always calls me ugly and I call him ugly as well but in a joking matter but I don't know if he is serious or not
for example when a guy hits on me or something or i start dating someone he is like who's the new dumbass that's dating you or like once we became roommates and he was like shit i have to see your face every single day that's pure torture etc etc ( before you call him mean or something i also say similar stuff to him back and this is the kind of banter we have with each other but ofc we love and care about each other a lot )
the thing is i actually believe he thinks I'm ugly and not just joking yet we had sex and he was really turned on so what does it mean? does he find me attractive? or is it normal to be able to get hard around someone you find unattractive just because it's sex?

[SoWhAt249]

I've had sex with girls I find below average looking but under different circumstances. I was going through a tough transition in my life regarding my body. Namely I was a little bit overweight, and I never searched for girls of whatever appearance, but then I started losing weight but was very insecure about my appearance so ofc I tried to score with less attractive girls, and I did it several times, then I had my first girlfriend which was gorgeous looking, then we broke up, hooked up with one good looking chick, had another girlfriend which was maybe slightly above average looking, and after we broke up I hooked up with a couple of average looking girls and one below average, judging from my criteria for attractiveness. I've been off sex and relationships for some time now, but if I wanted to get some, I'd not be picky. I believe everyone should be happy, and if someone can be happy to spend a noght with me, and I have nothing against it. Let it happen. Reflecting from your case, my first girlfriend was my best friend also, we grew up together. We were always together. She'd call me ugly, fat, but not in an evil way I believe, because ultimately she fell for me. In your case, whatever the case, if the two of you are comfortable with each other does it even matter what he really thinks? Obv, he cares for you, don't stress yourself over it. If you're having a good time, just go with the flow.

[Nigjt]

Well let me say this to u I as a man have never had a mother man tell me that he has had sex with someone that really thought was really ugly so what I think is this u an he are friends an he just don't want to miss thing's up between u two ok so hold on for this one now okay here we are I on the other hand have had sex with an ugly girl b4 an it was a lot better then some pretty girl with all that make up on for real so it's just not always about the sex its how u make it feel to him.
God Bless

[devilish-cutie]

he is attracted to you in some way or else he wouldn't sleep with you unless he is like total slut that sticks it anywhere
also, i dubt he thinks you are ugly as people are more attractive to you if you form bond with them even on a friendly base

[Apope16]

True. But there are different versions of that. Guys would say there are some girls that are "fuckable". This means avg looking but not disgusting. Then there is "unfuckable" which is so disgusting youd never sleep with. Id say a good 80% of girls are fuckable, 10% not fuckable. Then there's 10% who are omg wish i could sleep with hot. Looks are status in the dating world for women. Look hot or above avg and you get a boyfriend. For guys its money. Have wealth and status. Its not cool. I dont like it. But I want the truth our there to help her.

[devilish-cutie]

@Apope16 I never said he is in love with her, but being her friend he likes her as a person, and sleeping with her means he at least finds her attractive enough to want to sleep with her id disagree that if a girl is pretty you will find a boyfriend. Personally i am good looking and had no luck in love. So LUCK is a big factor to find a person for you. Sure I could get a boyfriend who only or mostly care about my looks, there's no real happiness for me there. You are happy when you find someone attractive and actually get along w them as a person. I have seen couples that may be terrible people id never date but they can be both terrible and just perfect fit for each other in their "terrible" world. At least terrible to me. Same applies for money of men. Yeah, i think its ok for a guy to want attractive woman. Plenty of women want an attractive man. In the same sense its ok for a woman to want a guy that is giving her some security and is capable enough to earn his own money cause women want protection being fragile and having to go trough pregnancy and taking care of babies. But wanting guy just for money is wrong unless he wants you only for looks than thats kind of "terrible" i spoke before of.

[MrOracle]

It seems to me that he's just been teasing you this whole time - if he really thought you were ugly, it's pretty unlikely that he'd have been such a close friend all this time.

[cavmanier]

^ding ding ding

[MrOracle]

@cavmanier

[MrOracle]

And congratulations!

[Asker]

hahaha thank you!

[AbleLearner]

I was looking at some Japanese porn yesterday, and they had a chubby girl thrown in with all the thin and average sized models, and she was attractive enough too.

I'm pretty unselfish about the way I think about sex. If a woman showed enough interest in me, I'd have sex with her just to be nice to her I guess.

[GayLoner]

WEAK.

[AbleLearner]

@GayLoner What's weak about that? I love women. I think that's an unselfish attitude!

[GayLoner]

I personally see it as weak to simply have sex with an unattractive girl just to be nice to her and spare her feelings. Thats weak.

[AbleLearner]

@GayLoner H ow is that weak? Isn't that love? If the only reason you have sex with an attractive woman is because of lust, that's pretty weak. Real love is unselfish.

[GayLoner]

To hookup with a girl that you personally find unattractive just to be nice to her you guess is love to you? Bro what? No you have sex with women that you are attracted to, she doesn't necessarily have to be attractive in the general sense of the term Also you dont have to be in a relationship to have sex im sure you're aware

[AbleLearner]

@GayLoner I wouldn't have sex with anyone EXCEPT as an expression of love. I experience lust, obviously, but I do my best not to act on lust. I believe lust to be a sin, or at least acting on lust is a sin, in my opinion, but lust itself might not be a sin if you aren't controlled by it (contrary to Jesus of Nazareth claiming lust was the same as adultery itself).

[GayLoner]

Lust is a sin, but if you are hooking up with women outside of relations then that is 'lust' even if you aren't drawn to her persay. As you said, you would sleep with a woman just to be nice to her if she showed you interest. That seems to be a lacking of love and im simply holding you to what you have stated previously

[rudude]

I've done it a few times when we were having lots of fun anyway and decided to try sex. A couple of girls I thought weren't very attractive with their clothes on turned out to be very, very attractive with all their clothes off. Sometimes, though, unattractive girls can make the sex fantastic - it just depends on what inside the girl's head.

[MuffinBoi]

Nope. I wouldn't mind if in the same room but please not the same bed

[Mr_Potatoman]

He was just teasing you, he doesn't think you're ugly or unattractive

[Apope16]

I already have had sex with women who were unattractive or fat or annoying. Being inside a pussy feels good. It can make you orgasm. But unattractive women can have attractive personality. A girl you like personally can create chemistry that results in amazing sex. Possibly love.

[Phoenix98]

I'd say he's probably just been teasing you the whole time. And while alcohol can make people normally unattractive look more attractive I doubt that happened. Especially if he was as turned on as you say.

[Ayer93]

I would not. I personally feel it's an absolute necessity for me to sleep with someone I find attractive.

[ssj10hey]

He more then likely thinks you're beautiful and simply calls you ugly in a joking manner. Possibly it's a way to keep his feelings at bay and simply stay friends

[jman2020]

That's what I'm seeing as well lol

[bmhisastud87]

Yes if the women and I have a connection to each other and an understanding that plays a big part of what I include in attractiveness. Also I am not shallow and think that everyone is beautiful in their own way and that's all I have to say about that. Life is like a box of chocolates...

[fueledbythc]

haha he's in love with you.

[Adrian2306]

yes just to clean the pipe... dick move

[fearlessby19]

If I'm not attracted to somebody I wouldn't be able to have sex with them

[Xwtxx]

I made a decision to have sex for love. I mean when I am in love. This lust is no longer good. Therefore, if I am in love and in a commitment the answer is yes.

[I_Am_Sazerac]

Oh he's into you. If a girl gets to the point where he trusts her he will treat her like a woman but joke with her like she's one of the guys. It's one if those "if I'm not mean to you then you know there is an issue." Sort of things. Honestly, just talk to him, test the waters and ignore the ugly comments because that's just joking

[Asker]

yep you totally nailed it with your comment

[I_Am_Sazerac]

Saw your update. I say go for it. The compatibility seems there since you two joke like that and have known each other

[I_Am_Sazerac]

If he kissed you passionately, that wasn't just a "thanks for the ego boost," that was a "I'm really grateful for that and want you to know it" type of kiss. You can't fake a kiss like that no matter how hard a man may try.

[RebornFrmA5h5]

For myself, if the body language shows hesitation, reluctance, or dis-interest; then it wouldn't happen. My body wouldn't allow me to get fully aroused or stay aroused for nearly long enough

[OpenWine]

ehm I think he might be just really inconfident because why push someones ego down unless it's for the sake of looking better in the whole situation or to make someone feel bad.
if he doesn't want you to feel bad it's because he is insecure.
this isn't about fun, I didn't laugh.

[Asker]

nah that's not his purpose we have a sibling like relationship we insult each other jokingly not just looks wise and it's just our way of bonding it's funny and fun for us doesn't have to be funny for others ofcourse

[OpenWine]

well you know the answer then

[Xylem1992]

Im sorry to say i did have sex with someone i wasn't attracted to. Getting hard doesn't mean attraction, means arousal and though the two can overlap, they are different.
Therefore him being into it could have different reasons.
You could ask him right?

[Xylem1992]

Also I know its a running joke between you two and you're supposed to get the humor not us, but its not a very healthy joke.

[soleil2666]

That sounds like an agreement not to be overimpressed by each other's looks. If he was turned on, chances are REALLY slim he finds you ugly. But it is possible he just finds you hot, rather than beautiful (though the line gets a bit blurred there)
How good looking are you, though - you'd know that?

[Asker]

I'm pretty confident in my looks and he's the only person to make such comments about my looks usually people call me attractive so i just thought I'm not his type look wise but now I'm not so sure

[soleil2666]

It could easily be a way to be in a relationship. You already know each other well/lived together. Maybe not, but he might just be tentative because you might be (kind of thing). I'd ask you for a photo but you're unlikely to post it. Feel free to dm if you want my opinion.

[Asker]

oh no dw I'm confident in my looks and I know that I'm pretty i just dunno his opinion

[soleil2666]

How would his opinion be any different to how you look?

[DylanJonesss]

Guy's are usually joking. Especially if they have sex with you. If he didn't then obviously he would think you were either ugly or nasty.