Boyfriend not satisfying me in bed... What to do?

[Anonymous]

Not only not satisfying me in bed, but also with love languages in general... Like he will ask me to rub his back yet he will never just volunteer to rub mine... And I dont feel good asking him to do that the way he clearly doesn't mind asking me- It's been a long time since he has been satisfying to me... He never makes me come anymore, not nearly as much as he used to and I hate having sex the majority of the time without finishing too...

[collegestudent96]

Take it from me, I had the same problem. You just need to communicate. You should tell him what you like and what makes you cum. If I makes you uncomfortable or you feel bad telling/asking him directly.
You can sext him and be like 'I was thinking about you... you were doing xyz and it made me so wet... I'm so horny now'. They love it when you send them texts like this especially when they are at work.
You can tell him what you like as foreplay prior to sex and be like 'I like it when you do xyz'.
You can show him, put his hand on yours and guide him. He'll probably think it's hot touching you while you're touching yourself.
Hopefully he'll take the hint this way.

[BillieJean1070]

Did things turn out okay with him?

[collegestudent96]

@BillieJean1070 yes, he's learnt what I like and has realized that not all girls like the same things

[HedwigInABox]

On the one hand I think you created this situation by not communicating your needs but on the other hand I'm thinking who would be fine with their partner not being sexually satisfied for so long? I'd feel like as ass in his situation. I mean he musst have noticed you didn't come.

[Asker]

Of knowns he knows... because I can only come with fingers and usually we have intercourse and then he will finger me... or at least thats what we used to do and now he hardly ever does...

[HedwigInABox]

I'd say ask him why he doesn't care wheter you come or not anymore. But If he doesn't change get another boyfriend. There are enough who will care enough about your needs.

[markscott]

You definitely need to be enjoying sex, and him at least understanding the basics of your love language. It's ridiculous that he doesn't make you cum anymore. If you want to keep the relationship, have a serious talk with him about this. If he won't talk, or won't change, then find another guy.

[Shiver]

Clear communication. Communicate clearly that you might also want a back rub when he asks for one. Tell him what he should do to make you cum. Be a little assertive.
If that doesn't work, I guess you should just leave him. Cuck him if you're both into that, but I doubt it.

[Neroyamato2]

1. This is a relationship, you guys need communication. So when he asks for a massage you can ask him to give you one back. Yes I understand it would be nice if he just did it without having to ask but some guys are kinda slow
2. You need to tell him what you want sexually. I mean like where, how, and what. To the right, more tongue, etc.
3. You should try to focus on the sex. Remember get out of your head. Be in the moment. Have fun with sex and be in the present with him

[Zorrak]

True

[Asker]

@Zorrak Thank you for your advice, I have a really hard time talking to him

[Neroyamato2]

Uhh wrong guy lmao

[Asker]

lol whoop hahaha was talking to you lol

[Neroyamato2]

No problem, good luck with your boyfriend

[Asker]

Thank youuuuuu

[Zorrak]

Lmao

[Lliam]

That's easy. Find another boyfriend.

[NightFlirt]

Go get yourself a real man who will treat you right.

[JessieLo]

Communication is key

[kimmieomally]

You need to find a way to communicate with him. Let him know how you are feeling.

[ecfresh]

One difference I see is that he asks for what he wants and you don’t. Why not ask him for your requirements? Sounds like it can’t get worse if you speak up and ask for your own back rub or ask him to eat you out.

[msss98]

Talk to him about it

[Asker]

I have like 3 times... spread out over the last several months. and now it makes me conscious because I want him to want to finish me, not me talking to him and then him just just doing it because feeling obligated or something...

[boggboss]

So talk to him do you think the wizard of oz will fix your relationship probloms

[foxrider77]

Maybe buy some toys, Im getting some plugs to spice things, maybe even a dildo.

[Dargil]

It is time to make your exit. You are not a good fit. Politely withdraw and don't explain too much because he will plead and lie.

[reptocarl]

Tell him he’s a piss poor selfish lover and he will improve or you’re going elsewhere

[Ripper_E]

have you talked to him about it or are just here to complain about it?

[brigfrey25]

Wow... Even a chiropractor will do a better job at giving you orgasm than this guy. Seriously leave him 😂😂

[Phoenix98]

Have you communicated any of this to him at all? Because communication and honestly are like one of the most important things in a relationship.

I know it may not be easy for you but you need to communicate how you feel and what you want. You can't put the blame a 100% on your boyfriend if you can't communicate how you feel to him. He probably thinks everything is fine and has no clue how you feel, you can't expect him to try and fix a problem he isn't aware exists.

[Nessygurl]

Tell him exactly what works for you and what doesn't, communication is so important.

[Browneye57]

You're really too young for this. Mature adults have no trouble communicating with their love interest. You know, adult conversation?

[Asker]

I have difficulty communicating

[Seekay]

Is he cumming To quick? Is it a size issue? If he cumming before you do try a lot of fore play hands fingers toys tongue to get u going or buy a cock ring it will help him hold back on getting off longer, if it’s size there are cock sleeves or strap ons, My wife and I been married and we have great sex we use toys strap ons cock sleeves and she squirts most every time with or with out toys

[Browneye57]

Yes, that's obvious. And why you should consider allowing yourself a little more time to actually grow fully into adulthood.

[Asker]

Yeah, thats why I told him no more sex cause its mentally and emotionally a lot when I can communicate about it for one and for two I should be able to communicate first and that will also make us feel a lot closer because right now I dont feel emotionally close

[Browneye57]

Good for you. Yes, take your time, analyze, contemplate, make a determination whether it's in your best interest or not. It's hard to tell your actual range at 18-24, but either way, if you're boyfriend is anywhere in this range he's likely just looking to get his rocks off, without regard to you or your needs. And why you need a commitment from him, and an emotional connection, if you're going to have a successful and satisfying sex life with him. Women are the keepers of sex. Guys are the keepers of commitment. Don't be giving up yours without at least a little of his.

[Asker]

Thank you

[BobbyC65]

Get a new boyfriend or start satisfying your self sexually.

[Pejtu]

Change boyfriend

[loveslongnails]

Why are you wasting time asking people what to do? You KNOW what to do. The thing is dead, and you're wasting time. Say good bye and find someone else. It's DONE !! Now wake up.

[MysteryZee]

New boyfriend