During sex, Why do some men ask “Where do you want me to cum”?

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I’m curious.

BrianTG78 · Accepted Answer

I think it depends on the scenario. If it's a fresh relationship I'm wearing a condom, so unless she tells me where she wants it I'm most likely gonna start off cumming in the condom. Depends on a few things though. I'm kinda nasty, and I'm ok with it, so if she's nasty as well (learned through discussion or social media most likely) I'll pull that motherfucker off and bust on her ass if I'm behind her or on her stomach or tits if she's got eyes on it. It's a better nut without the condom cus you can jerk it off better and measure the distance with pride hopefully. Lol. I assume she likes to see me nut if she's a sexual individual. Also, if that's the case (well in and case) I want her to feel free of judgment, and know it's ok to talk shit if she wants to. So I'll tell her that. So hopefully if she wants it somewhere in particular she'll tell me and I'll gladly oblige. It's hot. If I plan on cumming in the condom that's what I'll do and it'll be lame but safe and clean. Safe and clean is good. I'd also take the environment into consideration. If it's a steady relationship and there's no condom, and we're at her house it's definitely going on her instead of the bedspread or pillow. No one wants a full load on their comforter. No one. Lol. If this is the case I'll ask just to hear her participate in the up and cumming nizut. I hope she says it with enthusiasm too. Tells me she's into fucking right now, and can help set the mood. My ex loved it in her face. That was her request. She loved it wherever it ended up. That's hot. I'd try to do her the solid, and bust an enormous nut all over her gullet as much as I could..."you're welcome babe!"
So there's a little breakdown of my thoughts on it. If it's conversation at the bar before the sex, it's to be respectful. If it's just before I'm bout to nut it's so it all ends hot for both of us. If it's in the condom, I hope you have a trash bag in your trash can. Bang Bang.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Maybe they are being considerate in case you don't want them to cum inside you. Just tell them, "I want you to cum inside me." If that's not what you want then tell them.
But if they are asking because they are the kind of guy who has a thing for jerking off and spewing on your face or somewhere on your body, I'd lose them. A guy who wants to jerk off is a joke.

MrOracle · Answer

Because different women have VERY different desires and rules and boundaries when it comes to this, so you can't make any assumptions. Whatever you prefer or insist upon will be wrong and offensive to some other girl, and vice versa.

AustinMan · Answer

Because it can feel different emotionally based on the location. I'm all about cumming in her mouth and watching her happily swallow.

20yearsolder · Answer

He either doesn't want to impregnate you or wants to know where it turns you on the most. Some women want to have the visual experience. Seeing him pump his hot load on your pussy, tummy, tits, face etc. In your mouth if you want to taste his and your juices combined

LiamSawyer · Answer

They watch too much porn the best two places to cum are in the pussy or in her mouth or if you're into anal in the butt. No need to show the money shot like they have to on porn.

Dargil · Answer

Seems like there are only two places. Maybe he can't decide.

reptocarl · Answer

Because some women want it different places

Shiver · Answer

Most women like it a certain place. Some like the feel of cum on their skin, some like it in their mouth and some like the feel of it inside.

lopaDope67 · Answer

So you don't cum somewhere she doesn't want it. Like you if cum inside or on her butt, but she wanted it on her face or in her mouth then she might be disappointed or grossed out

broken_heart_at_48 · Answer

They're wanting you to tell them to blow on your tits or face and actually they're being nice by not just pulling out and spooging all over your face. My question is where do you want them to cum and would you prefer that they just did it without asking first?