Casual dating for first time instead of searching for Mr. Right?

[Anonymous]

I am still a virgin, as in never slept with a guy.
I am honstly tired of searching for the one guy. I am on my way of becoming a female wizard for gods sake!
Ideally I would love to find my SO but it just doesn't work out. I think I attract the wrong guys with my introverted personality. And I am tired of having no experince whatsoever and feeling like a kid listening in on their parents when someone talks about sexual stuff.

I really have no idea about how to "do it". Technicalities are known sure but acting on it not so much. I am a really horny person to be honest and I mostly attract "nice guys" but I would actually be into guys with confidence and dominant aura. But these guys mostly seem not interested in serious relationships and I am also not really sure my personality fits with them for a relationship. They might also don't find me attractive since I am the complete opposite to them.

The thing is I want to be treated rough and with confidence and I would need someone who can teach me how it all works. And introverted guys usually don't give off that vibe.
Long story short: I really never thought I was the type of person to get into casual dating and having sex for the first time with someone you don't love has always made me feel bad and I still don't know if I can pull it off without getting too nervous but after such a long time I can't really take it anymore and finding someone I like on a personal level and am attracted to is really hard, never happend untill now.

I don't know I am unsure. I am actually scared of doing it but I feel more miserable by the day.
I also don't want to become a "slut" and I have the fear of immorality but I don't want to wait till I am old. Life doesn't wait for you.
What would you advice?

[Berethor]

Make sense for you to attract nice guys, but even bad boys not necessarily go for sluts when it comes to serious relationship, bad boys go for sluts for a casual relationship. You are in your late 20s? if so then you already should start thinking about children and not only sex, and casual dating would not give you children, in fact casual dating would make you lose your wife material status.

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[DanOh2018]

Sounds pretty relatable. Sorry to hear you haven't had much luck romantically.

It sounds like you are ready to learn, and need a fun confident friends with benefits to help show you the ropes.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to explore your sexuality fully, I think you should do so within reason, just be safe.

Personally I love playing the role of teacher for women in your situation, Shoot me a PM if you like 🙂

[AustinMan]

A female wizard is a witch.

[yuesper]

There is a right guy even in casual dating.
A guy that makes you feel confident and comfortable with yourself.
You have to put yourself out there to find him.

[Browneye57]

Consider actually dating instead of just talking about it.
Living in fear is a complete failure, and quit choosing to be a victim. You're just not.

[rockrewls]

I guess do what you are comfortable doing, and stay safe.

[Anonymous]

I guess they can still sacrifice you to the gods being a virgin that Long , I guess you’re very picky since you’ve been a virgin into your late 20s

[Asker]

Well sometimes you feel like you aren't doing it right eather way. Guys say they don't want hoes but if you look for the one who makes you feel right than you're too picky. I am picky. But you would be too if you had been looking for a relationship which should last for years. That's why I am starting to change my view since eather way is not ideal or wanted does it matter any more? Is what I am catching my self thinking ever so often.

[Opinion Owner]

Everyone has their flaws so you’re not going to find the right person no the matter what but no guy will think you’re a slut if you’re only with a few guys at your age so you’re fine