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Boyfriend wouldn’t stop fingering me?

He kept fingering me even though I kept saying stop! and almost cried for him to stop. It made him go even harder and he became harder as well. Is he a rapist?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • If you you kept telling him to stop fingering you, and he continued, then yes, he is a rapist. It's not different than if he had his dick in you, or had an object in you. When you say stop, and make it clear you mean stop, and he continues, then he is raping you. That's true if any part of him, or any object he is in control of, is in you, and he continues to be in you, have it in you, or continues to manipulate it in you. It's all rape.

  • Lol.. well your squirming made him think you were enjoying.. have a serious talk with him that when you say stop he should stop.. end of discussion.

    If he still doesn't understand. 🤷 Time to get single.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Time to trade him in for a better one. Unacceptable.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • You could have kicked him away if you really didn't like it that much.

    • I tried!!

  • That is not rape since it was not his penis. But it clearly was sexual assault. He could go to jail for that. But I am sure that you will not turn him in and you will continue to have sexual sessions with him, even though he does not respect you or stop when you tell him to.

    • So true. Sadly very true.

  • This doesn't qualify rape but sexual assault.

  • I would say controlling. However a possible rapist in the future.

  • Meh sounds like a retard but I guess it was rape if you made it clear for him to stop so what are u going to do about it

    • Correction it was not rape but would class sexual assault

  • He rape you. :(

  • Why didn't you grab his hands or slap him instead of just saying no like a child

    • He’s a strong man and he wouldn’t even let me move

    • Yikes, well we dont know your boyfriend maybe he was just livin the moment and is good boyfriend to you at other times? Hard to give good advice when we dont know him

    • He’s a good person but he gets very sexually aggressive with me

  • Maybe not a rapist but sure is a sadist.

  • I don't know about raoe, but definitely sexual assault. Unless it was roleplaying, some people have a roleplay thing where no and stop add to the fantasy and a safe word is the signal of it going too far.

    • He was getting into it the more I said no!

  • The second you say no and he kept going is the second it became rape

  • Omg really?
    And you didn’t like whst was happening?
    That is a bit weird !
    Have ylu told him u didn’t like it

  • Kick him in the nuts and teach him a lesson. I don't care if it hurts him. He ought to learn how to stop when no is said.

  • Unacceptable behavior, you shouldn't tolerate it.

  • That's rape, by definition

  • Did you establish a clear verbal word for stop before? If not, he might think you are playing a game. That stuff should always be discussed with your partner before. He is only a rapist if you discussed that before and still continues after that.

    • I nearly cried and he didn’t care! He had a very scary predatory look in his eyes

    • Sorry to hear that, but make sure next time you talk about boundaries before. I do not know the full context of your relationship.

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