Guys if you're into anal sex but she isn't will you still try your luck when you get her in all fours?

Say she tells you she is not into anal sex, you say ok but still ask her to go doggy with the promise that you won't try anything on the anus. Would you be able to keep your promise while having her face down ass up super into whatever you were doing - not anal though. Yes or no?
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  • I'd be lying if I said I wouldn't WANT to, but I would respect her wishes (and I've been in this situation a few times).

    I approach it this way: when I start dating/sleeping with a girl, we inevitably talk about what we like in bed, and anal always comes up, and I just mention that I have plenty of experience and that I enjoy it, and then I stop talking about it (unless she wants to know more) and move on. I specifically never ask her for it - I just let her know it's on the table.

    Then, I build trust with her. I respect her boundaries and focus on the things that she really enjoys. Sooner or later, SHE will bring up anal again, and we usually talk about it, and by this time, she feels more comfortable talking about it or being curious about it or whatever, and this usually leads to her wanting to try it, as she knows she can trust me to put her first and to respect her wishes. But, while most of those women ended up liking it, a couple of them tried it and decided it wasn't for her, and I respected that and didn't bring it up again, and wasn't upset about it at all.

    As much as I enjoy it, it's IMPORTANT to me that she enjoys it to, so I work hard to make sure she does - but if in the end she simply doesn't enjoy it, then that's that and I'm perfectly okay with that being the final answer. She has every right to make that call.

  • Maybe I'm 'old fashioned' but I still figure no means no.

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  • Be careful of the oops it slipped.

  • I think you just do doggy style, if he wants it so bad put on the strap on and tell him he can do anal. Get to it Ms. Peggy.

  • No way should a guy do that.

  • I keep my promise. That’s a trust issue

  • Nooo

  • You can play with your finger around the hole and a lot of time they end up liking it and tell you to put your finger in which if you're gentle and use plenty of lube and take it slow will lead to them giving it a try but never just act like you slipped or just go for it. That's just lame and you're going to scare her and hurt her then it's for sure a done deal and you might of ruined it for her to ever try something that if done right she would love.

  • If she is not interested in oral sex, I would certainly not insist her to do so.

  • No, that's very selfish. I will understand any women who says she doesn't desire anal sex. I can't blame her for that.

    It's a health concern.

  • Any decent person would honor her wishes... those who say otherwise, well you know what type of person they are

  • No. Especially if she never done anal. Both person has to be agreed and get ready for anal. I personally enjoy anal sex. But never done it wothout her willing

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