Steadfastly opposed. In fact, when my girlfriend and I have sex it makes resolving our differences easier. You suddenly just want the other person and you hold them in your arms and she is warm and all the other stuff does not seem to matter quite so much.
In that, a "sex strike," which I confess I had never heard of before this question, would seem to be counterproductive. Sex with my girlfriend is the deepest and most intimate form of communication. We are both naked and are reduced to our most base animal instincts.
There is nothing else but us, naked and open and vulnerable. Raw and animal and yet deeply intimate and connected. That lends itself to understanding and not only does it reduce arguments, it can even head them off.
Forget about the absolutely ludicrous idea of withholding sex for political reasons. As Disraeli said, "Finality is not in the vocabulary of politics." By that standard no one would ever have sex again.
My girlfriend and I have been in politics - in different capacities - for over 20 years. Our political views, suffice to say, are important to us. However, knowing the limits matters to a sensible politics. If you are using sex as a tool of politics, your political principles are, almost by definition, askew. Moreover you are sacrificing the deepest intimacy and thus abridging the things that bind us to each other and that make resolving conflict possible.
The fine idea Alyssa Milano had six months ago. What these stupid women achieve with their sex strikes is to show men how they like to use sex in order to manipulate men. The number of men who stay away from relationships and catering to women just so they can ejaculate into a vagina only increases. It also shows that women are incapable of love. If a woman loves you then why not give you sex? Why use it as a bargaining tool? This is all assuming that women will indeed ever do a sex strike. That's like saying that drug addicts will suddenly stop buying their drugs just to send a message. Why would any woman start a sex strike when she makes money out of it? The only women who will ever do that are ugly females who can't get laid anyway. I encourage as many women as possible to go into a sex strike. Two things will increase. 1. Men who don't give a fuck anymore about women and 2. Prostitutes and high class escorts making more money since they are the primary way for a man to satisfy himself sexually today. Every study that has been made showed that the vast majority of the male population fulfils its sexual desires with sex workers since women have the most unrealistic expectations ever in the history of mankind.
and as expected all women answering here are against it. Of course they are. Because that's what they use in order to get money and special favours. They know that a sex strike shows crystal clear how women use sex for manipulation. They don't want men to know this truth.
Alyssa milano's always been a cunt a mean and nasty cunt much like rose mcgowan and kristen bell who creates constant and endless drama and problems for everyone. Why do you think shannen Doherty got fired from charmed because her and that cunt alyssa were always fighting on set
Hypocritical manwhores. If you love a woman that much, why is sex more important than her? If you can't love, why should he?
Withholding sex to try to influence a partner's opinion or win them to your side is like threatening to hold your own breath until they agree with you.
Childish, ineffective, breeds resentment, and neither of you win.
A partnership is not like a workplace. You don't get to "strike" against your partner.
You do what normal, well-adjusted people (and indeed this even includes well-adjusted unions and management) do and you use your fucking words to come to an understanding.
Don't be a child in your serious relationships. If there's a serious philosophical or value difference between the partners, then the relationship should come to a healthy end - live and let live.
Withholding sex for reasons like this is a form of domestic abuse so I do not support it. It's not funny or cute it's a form of punishment to correct your partner's behaviour. That is controlling. It also lowers the self-esteem and worth of the other.
Although I don’t support sex strikes, I don’t agree that it’s a form of abuse.
i’d say it’s manipulative, but withholding is not even close to “abuse”
@bubbles328 Thank you for seeing it this way. And thank "you" that I was never refused sex in a form of strike.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I tried it once on my live-in boyfriend. Can't remember what the reason was for refusing him (some argument about something), but he woke up with a massive erection, I told him he wasn't getting anything, then just to wind him up more I decided to put on a really short skirt. He just got out of bed, stood up, wanked himself off right in front of me and laughed his head off at me. After that I decided the withholding-sex tactic just doesn't work.
Never weaponize communication or sex.
Well and short said! And very precisely.
@roland77 Thanks!
Welcome! :-)
First and foremost why am I gonna punish myself like that? Thats when I feel the most connected to my SO.🤗
here's some more food for thought...🤔🤔
Never let your SO leave the house hungry for food or sex.. there is always some slut willing to feed them!!😛
When workers go on strike.. the 1st thing the company does is hire new workers..👷♀️
Finale thought..
You can't cut them off when you dont know where they are getting it!!😏
I think sex strikes are damaging to relationships. You can not want to have sex with somebody because you’re upset with them, but deciding you’re going to withhold sex for x amount of time is petty and manipulative.
Isn’t it more manipulative to withhold sex from your partner because you’re upset with them and want to punish them then deciding not to have sex with your partner because you don’t want to risk getting pregnant?
Yes.
So your point is wrong...
I don’t agree with using sex as currency, a motivator, or a punishment (usually, unless something relationship-threatening occurred)... sex is supposed to come standard in an adult relationship. Like my girlfriend early on tried to persuade me to do something and tried to entice me using sex or a beej or something as a reward, and I wouldn’t take the cheese on it, that sets a terrible precedent. I don’t even think it would’ve turned into that in her specific case, but I just wasn’t going for it lmao. I should be getting all that as long as my overall behavior is in-bounds. That’s how you end up being that guy who only gets blown on his birthday lmfao.
Boy, am I glad she didn't blow it not just on my birthday... But she didn't want to do it "because of cool-down time" after I had an orgasm and wanted me to lick her first... :-(
Could make sense in some scenarios, especially in old times when your wife or husband was someone you didn't marry for love.
Nowadays if it happens usually there's a problem in the relationship, and probably if it'stthat hard to solve the problem it's better to break up than to make a strike to force a solution. In case of beign the starved one, it's better to break up than to cheat too. Don't be stupid and think cheating is ok because of this situation. It's only a logical move, but still not right.
Nah, that's just extremely immature and super unhealthy for your relationship. If you can't deal with your relationship problems with communication instead of having a sex strike, you are better off single at this point. So I personally find it stupid.
I'd much rather talk about the issue than do this. I mean, if we are mad and I'm still max, I'm not gonna have sex when I'm upset, cause I wouldn't be in the mood. Especially if it really hurt me, but I would threaten him with no sex, like taking away an animal's food as punishment.
Sex is something special between couples for me, but I'm not about to be that petty, I'd much rather work what has us upset to begin with. Plus, makeup sex 👌
Yes, I'm open for discussion, if she wants to talk, too.
I mean If she doesn't want to have sex then she is not obligated to, but using this as a tactic to get her way is very immature and manipulative.
Am surprised someone see reason.. But we don't live in 1980 anymore 2020 where the petty child like u rational rule who will do anything to win
If she doesn't want sex with her man, that means she wants it with someone or thing else. Don't be stupid.
Nobody said anything about obligation.
No. It's stupid and doesn't achieve any goals.
If a woman attempted that with me I would kick her out and we would be done. I WILL NOT BE MANIPULATED. I will not be punished because she can't handle boundaries and wants to extort me and use me. I find it despicable. I mean just imagine if a man went "on strike" to get sex out of his wife/girlfriend? Would women be so quick to use this tactic on men? Oh, you don't want to make me a sandwich, okay, we aren't going out tonight. What you don't want to have sex with me? Okay well you have to sleep outside because I don't feel like you living in my house right now, but maybe later. We would NEVER tolerate this with men so why the HELL do we tolerate it with women? It boggles my mind. Sex is intimacy not a tool, your partner is your partner not a fucking prospective victim for you to con. Using the desire for intimacy and love to hurt some one until they give you what you want is disgusting on so many levels I would never be able to respect or trust a woman who did this ever again.
True in all words. :-)
@roland77 Thank you.
Most normal people don't engage in sex strikes, so it doesn't really do much. For those who do, it's pretty dumb since it only really affects their partners, who usually are in agreement with them anyway, rather than affecting the people they're trying to affect which are other people who have nothing to do with them at all. It makes no sense at all.
Well it’s petty, but if you really don’t want to deal with sex strikes, then do not date someone who is a rape victim because they will do it to you because of low self worth, and shame you for trying to live them.
a sex strike between a husband and wife is not right ! the only reason to not have sex is if the woman is pregnant and can not have the man on her do to the baby she is carrying bump ! when she is pregnant and they can not have sex , then they need to ask God to keep him away from others that he can get sex from ! Thanks
or if the woman doesn’t want to.
Having sex while being pregnant is no reason to refuse. I had it with my now-ex wife and she did appreciate it (even oral).
They can still do it doggy style.
That’s some severe, dysfunctional, manipulative shit right there.
That’s one of the stupidest things I’ve ever heard. Are they protesting against their partner’s beliefs or the world’s? So many questions that I don’t care enough to ask.
People who willingly withhold affection to manipulate their partner shouldn't be in a relationship. If I have a problem with him or his belifes that bothers be this much I'd break up wih him.
Well said!
Well, women who don't have sex "as a protest against pro-lifers" are just doing what pro-lifers have said for years: if you don't want a baby, don't have sex.
Because contraception isn't a thing, oral sex isn't a thing, yeah right...
@Belgie that's not the point
Yes it is. Pro Lifers may (stress may) advocate only have p-i-v sex if you intend to get pregnant, but that is a far cry from a complete physical "sex-strike".
Oh I've done that before because my husband was spending way too much time on his phone and ignoring his duties as husband and father. I'll say one thing is that it didn't last very long 😆 good little wake call for him.
To me, it says there are SERIOUS relationship issues, like communication, and what needs aren't being addressed and met on her side and his.
I try to be more open, and discuss things, before they escalate to that level. Sometimes there is nothing you can do, and maybe unreasonable expectations or needs.
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