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Why is it ok to tell lonely straight people who struggle romantically to become gay, but not tell a gay person to become straight?

As I'm sure a lot of you will start blaring that rainbow colored horn at my direction just think for a moment about the hypocrisy of telling a straight person to be gay and not the gay person to be straight.

Let's put this in a relatable scenerio on both sides and examine both sides at some uncomfortable angles.

Scenerio 1: A straight man who is a virgin and has gone through life wondering why no woman has wanted him and when he pours his heart out, most of the time he is told to go gay and anytime he says he isn't gay and refuses to be gay he will be lectured on topics such as having the prostates In the anus or other, ridiculed in a number of ways, shouted down for being homophobic, etc,
Scenerio 2: A gay virgin man lost in a sea of heterosexuality. Anytime he pours his heart out he gains some sympathy and coddling but also ridicule and even death threats from others.

Both men have done nothing wrong yet there is a glaring difference. Why is the straight man told go gay and the gay man to not to go straight?

No cowards allowed, I switched off the anon option off.
If you insist on using your victim status as an excuse to not answer or not show any relevancy then leave.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • It isn't okay to tell anyone to be a sexuality they are not - especially if it's because they're struggling to find an SO.

    Scenario A is cruel and not okay. Also totally false. Someone saying they're straight and not wanting to be called gay when they aren't isn't the straight person being homophobic. If anything, people using that logic are being homophobic, or at least using homosexuality in a way to justify their cruel treatment of the straight guy. It isn't right, any of it.

    Scenario B is likewise cruel and not okay (the death threat parts).

    People's sexuality is their business. It is never okay to try to convince them to swing one way or the other. Straight, gay, asexual, bi, queer - anything.

    It's about being who you are. As a bisexual, I will never support anyone telling anyone else what they "should" be. Sexuality is individual, and complex. That must be respected.

    • I have faced scenario 1 many times

    • I'm so sorry you've had to go through that. That isn't right. Being straight is nothing to be ashamed of, and it certainly doesn't make you homophobic. Sadly, crazy will do what crazy does. I've been called homophobic for being bisexual, too. It makes no sense with those kinds of people. Ignore em. They know not what they do.

  • It's not okay to anyone to change their sexuality. I believe you come out of the womb straight, gay, or bi. I don't think you can change it.

    • And yet it happens, and from I could tell it's the most blatantly hardcore homosexual men and meanest women that tell straight men to go gay. One even told me that it was just another person and it was no big deal, she didn't like it when I told her to say to a gay person to go straight. Oh the screeching and irony.

    • Just because it happens doesn't mean it's okay. It's unfortunate that you experienced that.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Its not ok, many Times i would say something like "maybe you are gay" and then if you say no i would ask ypu if you are shure but i would never flat out tell you that you are gay

  • Good question. This just shows the sickness of society, allowing the reign of Satan to rule the morality of the world. Right has become wrong... and wrong has become right

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  • It is not ok, non of those are

  • Really it's because your friends and family think you are strong and want to see you happy, and they have some ideas that it might make you happy to be with a guy.

    Nobody is going to suggest a person who sees themselves as part of a minority to affirm the patriarchy and suggest they "change" to heterosexual. (Yes it seems like a contradiction but it's two different thought processes)

    My brother never thought he was gay until his ex girlfriend set him up with her brother and both him and her brother have been extremely happy ever sense.

    It won't hurt you to be open minded, but if you don't like some guy then don't stress, just wait til you find a girl you like

  • I don't know does not work that way I think

    • It does, pretend to be a guy online and watch as you will be told to go gay from entitled homosexuals and crybullies.

    • Oh :(

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