Is chatting and addiction to porn considered cheating?

[Anonymous]

Regarding Husband

[Anonymous]

I wrote a long comment and before I posted I read some of your additional comments then deleted it. This isn't simple porn watching to sublimate a person's fantasy life not to stray out of a marriage. What activities he's involved in is cheating even if it hasn't materialized with actual physical touching. And this is pretty flagrant cheating with so many women not just one mind sexual cheating person.

Honestly I think you have to decide if this is the kind of partner you want to be with. You can ask him to go to therapy but that only works with someone who wants to change and real porn addiction is really hard to treat. He just might not be a monogamous person by nature and that really sucks for you. With this kind of spouse you could be having sex with him 24/7 and he'd still feel the need to cheat.

1. Go get a good therapist to help you counteract that gaslighting he'd doing on you.

2. Set some goals for yourself that you want to achieve separately from the marriage especially since you don't know if your marriage is going to last. Things you want to achieve for yourself job wise, health wise, socially, etc. You can ask your husband to go get professional help i you want to wait to see if he can fly right but don't put your life on hold.

3. If you are cut off from people join some interest groups like on the site Meetup. Basically go on with your life. Go enjoy your life because right now your husband is not mentally or emotionally with you. I'm not saying go out and date just socialize with other adults in interest groups.

Don't let your husband think you are sitting around waiting for him like your a comfy chair waiting for him to return.

Right now he has the best of both worlds a wife and home to have the wife benefits and the other women he talks to.

4. If you are having sex with him still always wear a condom. You have a right not to have sex with him if you think he's cheating. You might go ahead and gets some labs done at your obgyn just to make sure you didn't catch anything. You won't be the first woman to go in and ask for labs with the suspicion that their spouse might be cheating. Better safe then sorry.

5. Be strong even if it takes some propping up from a close friend. Start giving yourself pep talks in the morning because this is a rough problem. Start exercising, change your diet to a healthier diet if you aren't eating well. You want to be your best self to deal with this and so you won't start getting down.

6. Live your fullest life.

[SueShe]

What is the final purpose or aim to go on a dating site? In this case, it is so that you can get into contact with somebody else than the person you are in a relation. If the chatting is solely on a place like GAG where dating is not allowed, then there is not much cheating done. Therefore, the type of chatting is determining whether this is a type of cheating or not.

An addiction to porn while in a relation and not involving the partner is indeed cheating. Cheating does not start with being physically unfaithful but also emotionally cheating is in a way just as bad since physical cheating always starts with emotional thoughts.

An addict is a person that does not have his desire for the addiction under control. I am almost certain that he is not thinking of you when watching porn and that is mental cheating.

[ChefPapiChulo]

Tf did I just read

[boggboss]

For man being active on a dating site would be cheating as the goal of a dating website is to date otherwise he could be chatting on another app without the expections of dating

[Asker]

I agree. He says he is on dating sites a part of his sexual fantasies but it doesn't go further. I don't buy it. He goes on sites where he can contact locals. And he's addicted to porn. I have nothing against porn, but we have an active sex life, yet he still needs porn. And just to add insult to injury, I saw texts of him flirting with coworkers. He claims nothing has never happened and never will. I don't buy that either. He tries to make me feel like I am a crazy paranoid woman.

[boggboss]

Youbare not as if you did everything he did he would claim you cheat

[wankiam]

chatting or serious flirting and sexting? chatting is just being friendly. as for porn thats just fuel for a wank and has no cheating connections

[Asker]

He's also active on dating sites. Says its only part of the fantasy. And he flirts with coworkers. I saw the texts. He says nothing has or will happen.

[wankiam]

well its not cheating as such but its certainly a breach of trust and is almost as bad as if he had actually slept with someone

[Asker]

Yep. That's how it feels.

[wankiam]

does he realize it was wrong and has promised to stop or is he acting like you are wrong for taking it so seriously?

[Asker]

Sadly, the latter

[wankiam]

well in that case you need to sit down with him once more, stay calm but try to convey to him that its not normal or acceptable behaviour and if he still doesn't say sorry and promise to stop i think you need to re evaluate your relationship with him because you do not deserve to be treated that way

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your support and insights.

[wankiam]

no problem.

[devilish-cutie]

its not cheating but it could be a big issue for your relationship

[Asker]

He is also active on dating sites. He says it's part of the fantasy. And flirts with coworkers. I've seen the texts. He says he has never and will never act on it. Am I being played?

[devilish-cutie]

I mean noone knows are you being played except him the question is can you accept that or not. I personally wouldn't.

[Dargil]

Porn is just another form of performance entertainment. No.
Chatting is interactive. Yes.

[BadAnswers]

why not regarding Wife? , also porn in general nah , sending pics of your shit to other women or men , a mild form

[Asker]

Also sends pics

[BadAnswers]

i feel like it kinda is cheating

[dbr1987]

Chatting Is emotional cheating. It is not superficial like watching porn. He is not a great husband, i always defend men but this is morally wrong

[KrakenAttackin]

No. You need to work harder to keep his attention.

[Asker]

I have an unusually high libido. Sometimes it's just not enough, right? Thank you for your post.

[Anonymous]

Yeah