3 months into a relationship, feelings start to dwindle because biologically, the woman has to already be pregnant and the man out with another woman?

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Love is a quick hormonal response, that is to facilitate baby-making within a quick time period. It’s a biological response, which is why LOVE lasts rather quick because it’s supposed to facilitate love-making and then pregnancy. Evolutionarily speaking, women were to supposed to have been pregnant within a few months and the man out finding another woman to impregnate. The reason why this feeling or hormonal love lasts brief is because of the threat of predators, starvation, and other dangers that can kill a man or woman before successful offspring making.

Another reason why men just want sex and why they do not get attached while women do. Women invest more into sex, pregnancy being the main factor. Also why women are pickier.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

No. That's laziness. Hormones get you to interact and couple up, work keeps you together. It boggles my mind the excuses people make when it comes to relationships, as if we have not had monogamous marriages for literally a MINIMUM of 1500 YEARS. If we managed to do this for this long, clearly CLEARLY, we must be pretty damn good at it. The problem isn't with monogamous relationships, its with how we view each other and society. Before we depended on each other, we worked together, now we argue for why we don't need any one and don't need to put any effort into relationships. We don't need them, that is what men and women say so naturally once the hormones wear off and you need to actually start trying to make things work your going to walk away because relationships are hard and if their is one thing that people hate the most its having to do hard work. Love is not a feeling, that is passion, love is an action so no one ever falls out of love, they give up on it, they refuse to maintain it but they don't fall out of it, its a choice not an inevitability.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

---------------------I mean some of this is very true. Most of it is hogwash though.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

So not true. This is a common myth some people think about men, they aren't suppose to impregnate as many women as possible. Mens brains change while a women is pregnant and his testosterone drops so he won't feel this need to go around having sex with anyone else so he can focus on mama and new baby. I noticed this very early on with my husband when I was pregnant, he basically wanted to treat me like a queen while I was pregnant. My sex drive shot up and his dropped. But obviously all men are different so can't speak for them.

https://www.mother.ly/news/what-happens-to-a-mans-brain-when-he-becomes-a-dad
Here is a article that explains how mens brain changes when he becomes a dad

archiz · Accepted Answer

The last paragraph I agree on the most.
The rest, so/so simply because the human nature has evolved to adapt to the new conditions so their behaviour has changed even though some characteristics are still intrinsic with human nature.
Your philosophy really doesn't apply to queer people like me because there is no baby making happening with us. And since I consider sexuality to be fluid and everyone has a certain % of each attraction then love and sexuality isn't just restricted to baby making and survival.
Finally before sex was mainly just to have kids but now we do it more for the pleasure, hence we evolve.

Daniela1982 · Answer

As I believe in creation and not evolution I call the threat of predators bull shirt! Evolution? What in thunder is that?

BlackRoseFairy · Answer

I disagree with this. If a man wants to fuck around it's his problem. Impregnating women on his way and not taking up his responsibilities makes him an asshole. It has nothing to do with biology, it is a stupid way to make excuses for not being able to finish what you start.

Ellie-V · Answer

My take is that I don’t give a damn. Love isn’t love till it stands the test of time.

CarpetDenim · Answer

This is a bruh moment

alice55 · Answer

Weird considering men are know to love stronger than women (women feel in love quicker but men fell in love deeper) and when a woman have a kid she love the kid much more than her husband and the husband often feel jealous so I'm quite confused by your explanations here

Iron_Man · Answer

I don't think so that's my take on this subject

soleil2666 · Answer

Erm, no - the initial high wears off - the closeness is still good for a 2-3 year period (in which you get to bond at the very least as human beings anyhow)

TonyTheGuid0 · Answer

I dont feel like reading this shit

Twalli · Answer

I don't see love th in s way. Sexual attraction is this way, but if you follow this logic a guy cannot love his son.

Kenwoodman · Answer

Dont mix fantasies with reality

Clayaya · Answer

I don't know who made us. I don't know why we’re tortured in this way. I feel like this puts men at an advantage in terms of feelings. I think bc of this we should teach girls to love themselves & to prioritize themselves first. I feel like we put so much emphasis on marriage & love & finding Prince Charming when guys just want sex. Love is overrated simply bc men don’t seem to care about it. So we’re put a position where we’re chasing love & they only have us around for sex. This is one reason why I wish I was a guy. I feel like overall you guys enjoy life more bc you prioritize what you enjoy & want & we’re searching for that in others. We’re innately a bit more emotionally driven & are reinforced to be this way at a young age especially through movies, cartoons, family, etc.

abbie_wright · Answer

Seems interesting

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

3months? I give it 3 days and I’m over it.

CT_CD · Answer

I agree

Anonymous · Answer

You should read a book called The Five Love Languages. I agree with what the author says, and it's completely different from what you're saying. Then again, I don't believe in evolution or any of this mumbo jumbo hogwash you're talking about. I don't believe humans are the same as animals and you can't hold them to the same rules.

3 months into a relationship, feelings start to dwindle because biologically, the woman has to already be pregnant and the man out with another woman?

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