Why is it seen as slutty thing if a girl wants to casually explore her sexuality after a breakup?

[_uck_uckGoose]

[Anonymous]

I think it can be totally natural for both guys and girls to explore their sexuality some while they’re young. So long as you’re enjoying it and not hurting yourself it’s fine, ignore stigmas, it’s YOUR life at the end of the day, not theirs! Often the slut shaming comes from insecurity of other guys and girls, nothing more.

But, it’s fair to say that just like with guys, someone who sleeps around a lot is less likely to be trusted as relationship material. We just have a fear of trusting the most vulnerable parts of ourselves with someone who hasn’t shown to place as much value on that part. There is no intended hurtful judgment in what I say here, I think it’s just a natural protective thought process we all have when weighing up the options.

We have to look at all angles to make smart decisions and do what is best for us from then on. There is no right and wrong answers as we’re all different. You do what will make you happy (if you’re not hurting anyone, including yourself, then it’s nobody else’s business!), that’s literally all that matters.

[katiesmuff]

Guess it all depends on who you ask! Some think a girl is a slut if she spreads her legs for anyone but a husband, many others don't think any amount of sex makes you a slut, that slut revolves around a girls all around life.

[hellionthesagereborn]

because she is having a lot of causal sex? Why else would it be viewed in that way? You can explore your sexuality in a relationship you know. Its not like every person decided to whore it up so they could understand themselves better (in fact that usually has the opposite effect on people), so acting like your "exploring yourself" is not going to alter the reality that your just sleeping around because its easier then making the attempt at getting into a relationship again and potentially risking getting hurt. I mean its your/her life she can do with it as she sees fit, but lets not pretend like their is some pure and wise reason she is sleeping around, their isn't, its just lazyiness and fear.

[Jjpayne]

It's something in line with a girls modesty. Honestly, if you are not holding to any Christian vows of celibacy, I don't see the problem with it. But I will say, something like "f" buddies does not always rub all girls or guys the right way. So not everyone will support the practice. But it's your body and your choice.

[Duckysback]

Jealousy maybe. Few things make a more powerful statement than a woman who completely owns her own sexuality.

[Weston_PhD]

Just to play the devils advocate... but can you "completely own" something that your "casually exploring"?

[Duckysback]

@Weston_PhD Absolutely. By deciding for yourself who you share your body with and how you do it. Without regard for what anyone else thinks.

[Red_Arrow]

Why is it seen as a slutty thing if a girl wants to casually explore her sexuality? What does it matter if it was after a breakup or not?

[ohshee]

First of all it's know ones business second of all I'm jealous that I don't live by you or know u there's not to many people I would say this to but I am an experienced explorer lmao.. or wait maybe it's I want to experience exploring with you lol,, but 500 million miles away , so wait a min what do people say if u did it on line ,, huhhhh lol.. they can't say anything can they ,, so there's your answer lol explore on line with me the great explorer Steve,,

[markscott]

It's a double standard, but it is also reality. A woman with a high number is more easily considered a slut than is a guy with the same number.

[TazWax]

Because we live in a world of double standards and most people still view women as property so they believe that women should save themselves for that "one special" person

[thatguy1559]

Is that a real thing? Cause I see no problem with it. Only reason people calling it slutty is the ex and his friends.

[BonnieM]

It's not slutty in the slightest. Don't listen to other people's opinions. If I makes you happy that's all that matters. I for one applaud you for exploring your sexuality ❤️

[normalice]

Same reason it's ever considered slutty: guys are jealous of the other guys you randomly bang, and girls are jealous of how easy it is for you to attract male attention.

[InfobotsMom]

Fuck what people think. They have the option of fucking off and living their own lives.

[WhiteShoulder]

Because guys (and some girls) are assholes

[R4vedave]

Because people like to pass judgement on other to make themselves feel superior, and better about their own lives

[Shiver]

It's not, people are just close minded cunts basically.

[Haelaeix123]

No idea, she is so entitled to if she wishes

[MannySimms]

You are free to do as you wish.

[FakeName123]

Sexual market value theory.

Women have the supply of sex, men the demand. For men to have sex, they need to prove themselves. For women to have sex they need to either find someone up to their standards or lower their own. Someone lowering their standards is generally not seen as attractive - hence why people look down on promiscuous women.

[AngelLily]

I think in general it's seen as sluty for women to do that even before a relationship.

[leonidas69]

Because it's slutty. Guys are slutty too but we don't have stigma behind it unless we're dishonest.

[Danny_dan92]

Women are held to a higher standard

[worldscolide]

Because it shows she never cared about the person she was with in the first place. Guys suffer this stigma too. Guy breaks up and immediately moves on is seen as a player, or a male slut..

[AynonOMouse]

Casual sex is is exactly the actions of a slut/player. That is why.