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Why do guys only want sex from me?

Im usually described as that shy girl who is nice and gets along with most people. I think im a pretty likeable person who loves to have a good conversation. Im in medschool and pretty career-focused. People tell me im beautiful all the time which i never really believe 100%. I dont dress in any way nor do i go looking for sex. Somehow, guys will always send me inappropriate DM's about wanting to get in my pants or even im real life they never believe i only has sex once.(i'm 20). Guys on the street will always make dirty comments which make me really uncomfortable. Even when i meet a nice guy after a while they start to think its okay to make nasty/sexual comments.

I dont know what im doing wrong and i'd like it to stop because i honestly think i have so much more to offer (personality wise)

And no im not full of myself, im just trying to explain the situation as it is.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • So, in other words, you experience what every reasonably-attractive (or better) woman experiences. This doesn't make you unique or special, but rather completely normal.

    In order for guys to want to DATE you or have romantic feelings for you, you have to actually get to know them. That takes time and it takes actively engaging with them. It doesn't sound like you're doing a whole lot of that. Also, that's something that largely needs to be done IN PERSON - forget about trying to find guys online.

    Even then, both men and women only have romantic feelings for roughly 3-5% of the single, age-appropriate people they meet, which means that you might have to spend some time talking with 20+ individual guys (on average) before you find a guy who has feelings for you. This is normal and it's true for guys as well.

    What you don't seem to understand, though, is that SEX is a completely separate subject for men - the only thing necessary for a man to want to have sex with you is that he finds you physically attractive. And obviously lots of guys are finding you physically attractive. That's great, but since you aren't looking for casual sex, it doesn't help you - I get that.

    What YOU need to do is realize that you can't be a passive participant in this process - waiting for guys do come up to you wanting to date. As I said, guys can't know if they have those feelings for you until they interact with you a little while, so you're going to have to be more outgoing, get into conversations with guys, do activities in mixed company, make jokes and laugh, and show guys that you are fun to be around. Once you do THAT, you're going to get some ROMANTIC interest mixed in with the sexual-only interest, and your next task will be filtering that interest so you only have the Romantic interest remaining. Note that the sexual-only interest isn't going to stop, but it will decrease significantly as you get older (and you'll wish you had it back).

  • You are not relationship material most modern women are not. Most women are superficial social media obsessed, liberal feminist, high maintenance entitled and have victim mentality. Newflash guys don’t want that. Look at what modern women beliefs and values are why would a guy want to commit to that

    • I dont think im any of the things you described

Most Helpful Girl

  • I'm not a guy but if guys only go to you for sex and not for a relationship

    I would describe it like this

    If you offer a chocolate lover vanilla ice cream and he does not have chocolate near by he will eat the vanilla

    But if you offer a chocolate lover both vanilla ice cream and also chocolate ice cream

    He will eat the chocolate ice cream

    Then when you ask him if he wants vanilla too - he will tell you - he is too full to eat more ice cream

    So he will eat vanilla ice cream later

    by the time he comes for more vanilla ice cream

    The ice cream parlour has increased their prices

    So he goes to a different ice cream parlour to get his cheap vanilla ice cream

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  • A lot of guys your age are still exploring life and themselves and not ready to settle down for a relationship. They want to had sex without any attachment and don’t want to feel ‘trapped’ by a girlfriend. If you prefer a relationship with one person, I would suggest you expand your age range to older men who are more mature

  • Yes, you're trying to be a normal person.

    • Not many of us normal persons left it seems. Ages ago people didn't have time to brew coffee they wanted instant coffee and it came to be. Albeit no where as good as brewed coffee but it did the trick. Now they want instant sex, no relationship and instant satisfaction. Unfortunately there really is no such thing as truly instant satisfaction. True pure satisfaction requires a relationship and working out differences, learning to both take and give, and when that process is worked through then you can find eternal satisfaction. In every sense of the word sexually, emotionally and in every way. Sorry to write a dissertation. Take care.

    • Beautiful answer💕

    • I hope so, it's just what I know and feel.

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  • Just start approaching the guys you think are good yourself. It's not that difficult. Guys and girls in this age group are mostly just fucking around and having fun. It is what it is, best you can do is avoid those.

  • Seems like you're living in a really bad aria.

  • We live in the age of female empowerment and female sexual liberation. Women are DTF these days. I guess you're the exception.

  • Thats just creepy.

  • you're not doing anything wrong, they're just nasty perverts and you shouldn't have to deal with them.

  • Guys are creeps, maybe you’re farther developed than most women your age?

    • Could be. I find myself not really interested in relationships that i dont see a serious potential in. Also I've never been into one night stands or things like that. If i see something serious happening ill give it my all but if it not headed anywhere id rather not waste too much time on it.. m

  • It's true. Now a days getting a good guy is hardest (so is good girl ) . Most women consider guys who wants more than sex as weak and beta. It's what it is. You can't change that. You can only wait or continue to search for right guy for you.

    • Damn. Nailed it. Damned if we do damned if we don’t. I say go with the guy who doesn’t just want to nail you, but make sure that desire is there HEAVY after a while. I didn’t bang my wife for 6 months after we started dating now I do something every single day. She loves it, I obviously love it. It’s important but should never be the first thing.

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