I had sex with two guys at the same time and don't know how to tell one of them. What should I do?
I met a guy on Tinder a few months ago. Let's call him Julien. We met and ended up liking eachother. We had sex a few times after that. But we never talked about where the thing between us was going. So I assumed it was casual sex even if I had started getting attached to him and liking him a bit more than a casual sex partner should. He went away for a week, and it became a mess since then. While he was away, we texted and talked to eachother. At some point, I realized I missed him and went on Tinder to look at his photos. I then noticed that his profile had changed, and immediately thought he was seeing other people. It freaked me out because I had started developing feelings for him. Thus, I decided to meet other people as well. And I told him about it. His reaction was not what I had expected it to be. He said I hurt him. Well, that made me change my mind for a while and I didn't see anyone else. When he came back from his trip, we still did not meet even though we live in the same town and text every day. I felt confused and disappointed. I decided to see someone else after all. And I had sex with that someone else. Julien asked me where I was that day and I lied. I said I was meeting a friend outside of town. I couldn't tell him the truth. Even now, I can't. And he knows actually. He always tells me that messed up. And I can't own my mistake. Now we still talk sometimes and I still think about him all the time. Today I decided to let him know about how i felt during these last months, and confessed my huge crush on him. He said he likes me too, and that I messed up when I fucked the other guy.
How can I deal with this? I try to be as honest as I can normally. And I wasn't planning on lying to him. I don't know why I lied... I guess I knew I had made a mistake and the consequence would be losing him. And I really care a lot about him and don't want to lose him. How can I fix my mistake? And how can I tell him?
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