Girls, what would you do if you discovered that your bf/guy thought you were mediocre in bed?

What would you change/do differently, if anything? How do you think you would learn such a thing?
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If he did tell you that, what do you think the reason would be? What would you be lacking?
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  • I guess, try to figure out what works best for us, accommodate for how he's feeling and please him how he'd want, but if it's still jarringly bad for him, then I think we'd have to break up. If you really can't get over a sexual impasse (or any impasse for that matter), there's not much that can be done, everything will circle back to that main problem. If you try, try and try but it doesn't work, then you have to let it go. Clearly you're not meant for each other sexually and that's fine. Different strokes for different folks, and just because the guy is displeased it doesn't mean that every guy will be. So I think the best is if each went their separate ways. Maybe after being apart for sometime and having other partners they'll get a new perspective.

    • Not a bad perspective. Unless you're in love with the person and don't want to break up with them, of course.

  • I'd try to meet their expectations and get better

    • Great attitude! We can all do better :)

Most Helpful Guy

  • Women will go tell all their friends you're not a man and possibly spread false rumors of you have a small dick.

    Most Men who are disappointed in bed will try to teach or approach it gently. The rest will cheat.

    • There is unfortunately a lot of truth to this.

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  • Sad thing is my boyfriend actually said this but in a different way.
    He was like " i think we can do more, we do the same things"
    Now i was hurt and could of told him he doesn't know how to fuck missionary or eat my pussy how i like cuz i know he's not thats experienced and i didn't want to hurt him but i was being nice and just became more sexual. Like now i suck him off without him asking. I fuck him harder, i make him cum 2x everytime we do it sometimes e if we have time. He is at the point where he want to please me more as i do him, although it bothered me about what he said. I wanted to show him i can give it how he wants it.
    We are better now because we're more vocal on what we want in bed.

    • haha nice quite the positive feedback loop eh?

  • Ask him what he likes and what would make it better for him, and do as much of that as I am comfortable and happy with.

    • What if that still isn't good enough?

    • What would you do, if anything?

  • Guess I'd just ask him what he'd rather I do and adapt a little to suit him - I'm not going to fake shit or do things I'm not comfortable with though.

    • Fake? What do you mean?

    • Like I'm not going to fake over the top porn moaning and do really cheesy dirty talk and stuff like that.

    • Oh sure. Well that stuff isn't attractive anyway.

  • Go crazy on a random night and see his reaction

    • What do you mean?

    • Just get really freaky

    • Why not just do that all the time?

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  • Hopefully he wouldn't use that word-- which insinuates that he has a lot to compare to. If he talks about spicing things up or trying new things, I'd be a little selfconcious of course, but is be open to it. If he uses "mediocre" then he need to learn tact.

    • I have mixed feelings about it, honestly. I've never had (consensual) sex that I wasn't 100% into. If he wants more, it's possible that his kinks are out of my boundary zone.

  • well if he’s willing to teach me, I’m down for a few classes in bed😂

    • Universal sex classes for all!!! #BERNIE2020

    • Not sure what #bernie2020 stands for but yeah lol

    • oh he's the baddest bald boi to run for prez and he's leading in the dem primaries!!!

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  • Be sad but ask him what would he want to change.

  • Move on

    • Not try to change?

    • Some women have nothing else to offer and practically wrap entire relationships around sex. Without fucking to people like that there really is nothing and they're too self-centered to sit and learn to develop a sexual connection.

    • Nope better things to come

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  • Ask him why.

  • I’d want him to tell me what I’m missing. What aren’t I doing for him?