Girlfriend won't help me cum?

[Carpenter_Bee]

me and this girl have been boyfriend and girlfriend for several months now. Whenever we have time alone we'll make out then I eat her out. But after she cums from that she's done, I've asked her for a handjob or something and she doesn't want to, so I always have to do it myself.

I'm lucky that any girl would like me I'm in no position to be demanding of her, and obviously I love her and wanna spend my whole life with her, but I feel like she's being selfish by not doing any favors for me when I do anything she wants in bed.
Do you think I should talk to her about it or am I just being stupid again?

[Purpleronnie]

You say your lucky that any girl would like you, so straight away your in the mind set where you are not her equal so that’s not really a great place to start a relationship. There is just no way you should feel like your lucky for a girl to like you as I’m sure you have a lot to offer and you need to believe that. This relationship as it stands will do nothing for your self image and self belief if you thinks ok for a girl or anyone to treat you the way she is , it’s completely selfish of her and more than a little suspect that she never wants to do anything sexual for you. I would withhold on her for a while just to see what she does. That will show you what kind of a person she is.

[Carpenter_Bee]

She is a wonderful person and I can't even describe how attracted to her I am all the time, this is just one thing that Im upset about so please dont think she's a bad person. I see what you're saying though I should make sure that it's not one sided I should talk to her about it!

[Purpleronnie]

Yeah talking is a given, and to be honest I kinda assumed that already happened but that’s my bad for assuming. Just dint be thinking your indebted to any girl regardless of how attracted you might be to them and believe in who you are and what you have to offer a little more :)

[Carpenter_Bee]

I'm really not very smart I study probably twice as much as other students but I'm only getting B's while they're getting A's, that and I tend to go silent or studder a lot when in groups... Ik it's a little off topic but that's some of the reasons I have low self esteem... My girlfriend tells me I look hot so that's one of my qualities, Im good at 1 on 1 conversations too and my parents raised me to be respectful so when it's just me and her we have a great time!

[razzamatazzp01]

You love her, and she won't even help you bust a nut? TBH it sounds like you need to get away from her, because you're just going to end up being hurt. She doesn't like u. as soon as she finds somebody she likes she's going to help them cum and it's going to break your heart.

[Justacatlady]

You should absolutely talk with her. She decided to be in a relationship with you which is not one sided. Next time you two start to mess around, ask to be first.
Or address the issue before sexy time and let her know you are feeling left out. It’s not fair for her to be the only part of the relationship getting sexual gratification

[Carpenter_Bee]

ok I will but I've gotta be really careful how should I say it? I dont want her to think I'm mad at her and I dont want to come off as super demanding... Like, ''Can I please cum too this time?''?

[Justacatlady]

Could be: I love giving you orgasms, it makes me happy, but I feel left out when you don’t want to touch me Or It’s so sexy watching you reach your peak, I’d love for you to do the same for me. I want us to be more intimate and I feel like I’m missing out

[Justacatlady]

Just realized your age. While I still think you should talk to her, I also think the two of you should decide if your really ready for this type of relationship. Sex changes a lot of things and for people your age it can be very confusing. It should never be used against you and if that’s the only reason she is with you, that’s very unhealthy

[Carpenter_Bee]

Thank you so much I'll use the second line! Plus yeah Ik we're young but like, we know what we're doing we're not THAT young. Thank you for your advice!

[Justacatlady]

You are that young honey. If you think about the lifespan of a human, you’ve only lived 1/8th of your life. It doesn’t all have to happen so fast. Just make sure you use protection. Always listen to each other. And be safe

[just_a_potato]

Definitely talk to her about it, she is being selfish and if it bothers you she's got to know

[pinky_kitty]

and i guess u can't have sex with her?

[Carpenter_Bee]

I can't it could get her pregnant and our parents would know what we're doing and we'd have to raise the baby and it would ruin everything for both of us! I know I'm lucky to have her, I'm really not very smart I study probably twice as much as other students but I'm only getting B's while they're getting A's, that and I tend to freeze up or studder a lot when in groups. I dont have any friends so if I lose her I'll be alone and I love her and I dont want her to feel guilty or pressured which is why I haven't mentioned it to her yet... Actually, I think I just answered my own question I should just leave it alone and not say anything

[dudeinohio]

Don't do anything to her until she does to you first.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

"I'm lucky that any girl would like me" dude you're 14, be patient.

[Anonymous]

Is she your age? You two might be a bit too young... Maybe she's just not ready

[Carpenter_Bee]

Yeah she's about my age, I'm 14 she's 16. ''maybe she's just not ready'' that's my worry, I dont wanna pressure her into something she doesn't wanna do, but I want it so bad X_X agh it's so frustrating! maybe I shouldn't mention it after all