Does the way you behave toward someone who turns you on change after you’ve had an orgasm and you’re fully satisfied?

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Like before you finish you’re all flirty and maybe even a little sexual and afterward you’re like “Stop it, I wanna read for a while.”

Stazz76 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely behavior will change!

Our human brains are built on top of prime-evil animal brains. We can control a lot of our behavior, but have to service our animal instincts, one way or another, and many times without approval of our cultured human brain’s better judgement.

Our lust is so strong because it’s one of those things that gets bred into us by evolution (After all, any species that doesn’t have enough lust to pass on its genes to the next generation will go extinct pretty quickly.)

Sometimes, when our human brain would rather we behave differently, we make allowances to our animal brain only until we get that ‘O’ and the endorphin hit that act as a reward just like from any other drug, but then if we’re not actually trying to build a relationship, why continue? Pointless! Mission accomplished. Particularly when servicing our animal instincts is an unwanted distraction from our goals, time management, or we’re unwell and it’s a big a drain on our energy or physiological resources.

I totally understand your friend preferring to masturbate over having sex. I think many of us prefer masturbation when we’re not actually trying to have a baby or aren’t in a committed relationship. Why be any riskier than you have to be with STI’s, risk of pregnancies, risk of being used and shamed, and other social complications?

It’s no surprise internet video chat sex in the privacy of the home has become so popular. All the fun of a quick ‘O’ at your own convenience with another person, but without so many risks. There’s no better example of a ‘change of behavior after sex’ than when people hit the ‘next’ button without even a 'goodbye'. :-P

Passinggas · Accepted Answer

It really depends on both. After an orgasm/s sexual tension is gone. Most women want to remain emotionally connected afterwards but not all. A couple women were wired different, and I will track their personalities and sexual aggression back to their 2D:4D ratio. These women had larger clts and they would orgasm completely then be out and lie dead, or they wanted no more connection and took their side of the bed. The more typical women have still desired to hug and snug afterwards. Therefore, I speculate that degree or orgasm completeness that a woman experiences drives her “behavior” afterwards. Usually, If I am not rushed say, outside a bar in a car, and I have all night, then I will not o the first round at least, so it will build for next time say within 20min. That way while she is still having all this emotional connection energy, so do I.

Moonchild714 · Accepted Answer

Not like that. For me it would be after we had sex I would be like ok I'm goid now and go watch TV and fall askeep on the couch if we were in a Relationship or leave if it was a hook-up. But not I go take care of things and then be like no thank you... But I get it she was a virgin and wasn't ready for anything else.

msss98 · Accepted Answer

Not really, maybe in a small degree where i would be a lot less sexual in my cuddling if im satisfied but i wouldn't just stop ahahahah

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Not me lol Usually stayed wrapped up in each other till round 2😉

Lliam · Answer

That example was hilarious.
It never happened to me, but I can understand being super lovey dovey when your horny and then, after you orgasm, completely switching modes and going, "Yeah, I'm hungry. Ya want to get some snacks?"

MikeGaveO · Answer

Yes! I get all flirty and romantic, however, as soon as post-nut clarity kicks in, I'm back at my old self

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah I'm the type to go in for seconds

tjkyle316197 · Answer

If there is an instant sexual chemistry but nothing more than that to be had then the answer is of course going to be yes because even if it transitions to a fling there is nothing to prevent that person from feeling as if it's strictly intimate in the most primal of ways. A deeper connection is substantially going to change the course of their outlook on that partnership and affirm the reality of how close they want to be with the other person and how strongly they wish to hold onto the relationship, thus affecting their action or inaction, sexually or otherwise.

Vanessa_Reyes · Answer

I think it depends, if I was only looking for an orgasm then probably, if I was looking for a relationship then no.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

Not me, but a woman I frequented dropped all the smiles and eyes in the eyes gazes after I yielded and went to bed with her.

SydneySentinel · Answer

I've almost always just wanted to go to sleep after. Haha

ecfresh · Answer

Nope, still want to be connected to them and I see the opportunity to build for the next time

Girther10 · Answer

Bigtime. Your so bad.

NorthShoreCalling · Answer

That sounds like he just wanted sex (unless his partner is being excessively needy, which would probably kill the chemistry).

Avicenna · Answer

There is an effect for men due to biochemistry. Don't remember the details, though.

LiamSawyer · Answer

That would be true if all you want at that moment is instant satisfaction, but it shouldn't be true if you have real true feelings for the other person.

Dargil · Answer

When the adrenaline and testosterone subside after orgasm, passion fades. My reading is that this can be different for women who remain aroused after orgasm.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes , i believe after i got a handjob , i was done and didn't want anything else.

TCredo · Answer

It can change my mood especially if was a long overdue pent up situation with some crazy long and intense sex... mood go from want and need to time to sleep lol :)

Laozi · Answer

Yup. It was happened once or twice.

Nik1hil · Answer

Yeah that's natural..  When we think with our genitals even ugly people look attractive... But once we have jerked off.. We see things clearly

LonewolfMeme · Answer

No. Not really

ThatGuy133 · Answer

Sometimes in the moment it sounds like a good idea. Then after the fireworks you've realized what happened.  Maybe she just wanted to enjoy the moment?