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Would you rather have sex for the first time with someone who's virgin as well or do you prefer someone with more experience and why?

I mean, I don't know about this. This is just my point of view but I don't know:

There are pros and cons.

Pros if you have sex with someone with experience:
1. You might enjoy more
2. Perhaps you can learn
3. It will be fun

Cons:
1. You might think you're not as good as the people they have had sex with so of course you'll be nervous
2. You will enjoy it, yeah, but after that you might feel a bit down because you'd be overthinking "What if I didn't the way he/she likes it? What if his/her ex is better than me at this? What if he/she breaks up with me because I couldn't do what he/she wanted me to do?" Etc
3. You can't experiment a lot since the other person already knows what they really like
4. In some cases, you won't be able to try again as they know it didn't work with you

Pros if you have sex with someone who's virgin just like you:

1. You will learn from each other
2. You will get to know more about each other
3. You're more confident
4. You know both of you are nervous so it doesn't matter
5. You can experiment a lot and see what you and them like
6. You don't have to worry about STD's (that much) because you know this is their first time as well
7. You can try again and again until both feel naturally comfortable and so you can "master" it
8. They won't judge you

Cons:
1. It might take you a while to understand and find out what your partner likes and dislikes
2. You're not that comfortable the first times as you still nervous
3. You're not sure if you're good at it even though they said they enjoy it
Would you rather have sex for the first time with someone whos virgin as well or do you prefer someone with more experience and why?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I don’t want a woman who is promiscuous, nor do I want one that is necessarily experienced. If she’s a virgin, she can still know what to do and if she doesn’t, she can learn from books or online sources. If I like or love her, any touch from her will feel good to me. It’s easy to know what to do, doesn’t take long. How hard is it for her to learn how to give a blowjob? Not long and even if she doesn’t know anything then it will still feel good to me.
    How hard is it for her to learn how to kiss, ride me, etc? Not long and not hard. The important thing is that I love this woman and she’s the right woman for me, that’s all I care about. Anyone can get good at sex, it’s supposed to be natural. Our ancestors have been having sex without guidance or manuals for the majority of our existence. Biologically speaking, as a man, I don’t want a woman who has slept with a lot of men. So, a virgin is the ideal but not always practical. The ideal for me is having a woman who I am physically attracted to, have a lot of moral, political, philosophical, and spiritual commonality with, and is a virgin. I want her all to myself and don’t want anyone in her memory that has also had sex with her. I think pair bonding is important and after a certain number of sexual partners, every other future partner is just a number; it won’t be romantic or unique anymore in my opinion. Ideally, I want it to be just me and her. I believe this fosters a stronger and longer relationship, healthier communication, and better family households.

    This is my opinion and take.

  • Virgin, but only if feeling really affectionate. Just because they didn't get to be traumatised by it yet. And there are no memories of previous times involved (I can sense the thinking during sex, every thought and/or picture in the other person's mind)

    • So you agree with what I said?

    • Pretty much

Most Helpful Girls

  • Not sure. I enjoy it when people know what they’re doing, but I love seeing a fresh faces first reaction.

  • Not a virgin based of my experience, at least if u are a girl

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • It wouldn't matter to me but in some way a virgin would be extra nice. Just to be the first to give her more pleasure then she could imagine.

  • My first time was with a more experienced girl, which I liked. I doubt I would've enjoyed it as much if she was a virgin tbh.

  • More experience to teach me how to pleasure future partners

  • Regardless of skill, being the only person they cared about enough to do that with would make it more special in my opinion. I know I'd like it if I knew she wasn't ever as emotionally attached to someone else as much as she was to me. That is just my thoughts though because I am more the type to want a mushy lovey dovey kind of relationship. :)

  • Since I usually have to do most of the work in bed anyway, I'll take the girl who's pure.

  • For me it's definitely the virgin; I prefer to consort with my own kind.

  • Ok im not a virgin. And i have you debunk some of this.

    2. (You will enjoy it, yeah, but after that you might feel a bit down because you'd be overthinking "What if I didn't the way he/she likes it? ) ok so here if i was having sex with a virgin and i was teaching her i would she her exactly how to make me feel good but i would allow her to try her own thoughts too. She may discover something i never tried.

    (What if his/her ex is better than me at this? ) i might have experience but that doesn't mean im better. Plus she is learning and within time she will get better.

    (What if he/she breaks up with me because I couldn't do what he/she wanted me to do?" Etc) first of all i prefer a monogamous relationship. If we are actively seeking to be together i would work with her and we would make our relationship strong. It takes communication and trust in both sides. Plus im loyal so i would never cheat on her or seek someone "better" .

    (3. You can't experiment a lot since the other person already knows what they really like) on the contrary we can experiment a lot. On both sides. I might have done a lot but i have not done everything. There are things that my former lovers never did that she might be willing try.

    (4. In some cases, you won't be able to try again as they know it didn't work with you) i love sex. Being with a virgin or a girl who is now exploring her sexuality guarantees me to have more sex than i could have with an experience lover.

    So i do respect your opinion but disagree with much of it. I would date a virgin and hope to provide her with a great experience and great relationship.

  • Virgin

    • For what I said or have you got different ideas?

    • Usually I do have different ideas, but this time , I think you’ve hit the nail right on the head. How’s your weekend going?

    • Oh, so you agree with what I said! 😌 Perfect. My weekend is going well, thanks. Yours?

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  • Both are same to me

  • my first time i was 22, she had been taken so many times. I could have fit a leg all the way in here LOL

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