Should I tell my girlfriend that I like someone else?

[Alper94]

My girlfriend is so sweet and nice with me.. She say she likes my face a lot. and she always lean on me and kiss and smell my hair. she wouldn't let me go out without wearing a jacket she thinks I might catch a cold.. Lol I think she is obsessed with me. now she is calling me baby Yoda which is really embarrassingl lol. I love her sweetheart and all her love towards me.. But I'm more into another girl in my work place. She has gorgeous eyes and when she looks at me I feel I'm having a heart attack lol. I don't want my girlfriend to know that becuz iwould never want to hurt her.. I haven't have sex with her even though she asked wanted that many times.. I'm more sexually attracted to that girl. i want to tell her but do you girls think that will make her hate me.. Because I don't want to lose her.

[Flower7]

You most likely are going to lose your girlfriend if you tell her you like someone else. Do you even still want to be in a relationship with her or would you rather try with the new girl or someone you're more attracted to than your girlfriend?

And I'm not sure if you would ever do this or not, but it's always much better to break up with someone than to cheat on them. So even if you're worried about hurting your girlfriend's feelings, please don't let that stop you from ending things with her if you ever feel too tempted to have sex with someone else.

[sejla]

Got to make a choice. You can't have the sweetheart at "home" and the other woman you are sexually attracted to. It's just not fair to your girlfriend. I"m reading your girlfriend is really in love with you but do you feel the same toward her? Temptations are always going to be there. Maybe you are just not ready to be in a committed relationship yet. If that is true it is probably better that you break up with your girlfriend so she can find a man who is willing to give the same amount of energy back to her.

[SueShe]

That is the least you can do to a person that truly loves you.

Have the decency to tell her that you are already mentally cheating on her before you actually do cheat on her physically.

If you have an atom of personality and character in you, then you tell her that you are infatuated in somebody that is half as good as her. You owe it not only to her but to yourself if you want to be able to look at yourself in a mirror and like what you see.

[Alper94]

Honesty.. I don't want to let her go I would never do that to her.. But its just a sexual matter which as a man I need to satisfy myself of being with a girl i m attracted to. but I don't want to sacrifice be with a girl who loves me over being with a more beautiful girl. its just im telling myself I'm handsome enough to be with a hotter girl.

[PondyPand]

@Alper94 as a man? Sexual matter? Fuck right off. You're just being trash and trying to justify cheating and keeping the girlfriend because you like her routine and the love she has for you. You don't care for her at all.

[Alper94]

@PondyPand please don't say those things.. I do care about her and a lot.. what u said is I want to be with a girl that I like I deserve that.. But at the same time I want to be with a girl who take care of me.. Its my choice at the end I'm just asking for a tip to tell that to my girlfriend without hurting her.. Tbh i think I'm not gonna do that because at the end relashionships aren't just about sex.

[Alper94]

Pondy and you should watch your language.. I've seen a lot of your comments where you swear a lot to people. You need to take some pills.

[PondyPand]

@Alper98 oh so my language offends you but you cheating on your girlfriend and thinking with your dick doesn't? She deserves so much better and like I said you do not care for her. Only yourself. You're a fucking piece of trash and I hope a lorry runs you the fuck over.

[Alper94]

@PondyPand lol omg.. You seriously need a pill right now!!!

[PondyPand]

Do I? Or do you need a cyanide pill so such a waste of air can finally fuck off.

[unknown9987]

@pondypand tries to say he's not a cheater yet he's flirting lol double standard much? Even my younger boyfriend is more mature than THIS and knows what loyalty means. I hope the girlfriend finds much better. How can you say you're not a cheater when your fucken flirting? What kind of crap is this? lmao. Flirting is cheating. Emotionally or physically makes no difference.

[Alper94]

@unknown9987 i wasn't flirting I was being kind someone who lacks attention from men.. It doesn't take much to be kind to this kind of people. lol

[unknown9987]

Maybe your view is different than mine and I dont have to agree with yours certainly and neither do you have to agree with my view but I definitely wouldn't be okay one bit if my boyfriend felt sexually attracted to anyone other than me. I feel like that is cheating because your giving that attention to someone else other than your partner and it's disrespectful in a lot of ways. I don't care honestly how much someone has needs, you just won't do it ever if your in a relationship. Your girlfriend sounds like a sweet girl and you shouldn't lead her on at all. I don't think it's love either if you have to choose between two people. If you love someone, then your mind wouldn't even cross with anyone else. Just what I think. I'm not gonna keep arguing but I wish more people would see the light and see those types of things are not okay.

[Alper94]

@unknown9987 words of gold I totally agree with you.. But please look at her comments in a neutral stance.. I wasn't flirting or anything with her I was responding very politely then she said i am a cheater and I only think about my dick? Seriously she doesn't even know me to say that.. Then she proceeds to say I hope I get run over by a lorry ! Lol.. Wtf that's why I said that to her trying to know what she really was about.. And about my girlfriend nobody can judge how much love and respect I have for her.. I didn't have sex with her although she wanted becuz I know she is still young. I was just trying to get some tips from you ladies on what I should consider doing.. And everybody is calling me a cheater ffs.. That's ridiculous.!

[unknown9987]

Im sorry if I also offended you. I just take loyalty very seriously and I've had many friends and family whom have been in unhealthy relationships and so have I myself. That's okay if you see it as something only physical not everyone thinks the same like I said but if you really like the other girl, you should break up with her because this is gonna shatter her heart more than anything and it definitely has an impact on women. I get it, sometimes we don't plan our feelings or expect things but maybe you don't really love her and it's just making you feel worse to lead her on. I think with love you have to feel all the aspects especially sexual and if that's missing, then it's not. Maybe taking time for yourself and thinking things through is the best thing so nobody gets hurt. I just couldn't ever imagine my boyfriend feeling this way. That would break me into pieces but we'd be over in a heartbeat sadly because I don't wanna feel like I'm a second choice. It's hurtful in a lot of ways.

[Alper94]

@unknown9987 i understand that.. I guess its my fault that I didn't tell her that long before.. Until I saw that girl at work everything was fine.. But if I did say it to her long ago she wouldn't be very connected to me.. But I now what o should do now... I will ask to marry her if she say she is not ready I will tell her to be my friend and I will go for that girl.. But if she agrees I will put a bullet in my head 😂 lol.

[Alper94]

@unknown9987 I was just kidding.. Tbh I don't think I will ever find a girl who loves me as much as her.. I'm not gonna lose her over my sexual interest that would be a serious mistake. thats my final decision.

[Screenwriter]

If you have some kind of open relationship that's OK with her, I don't see the hate scenario. But if it's just the two of you and you prefer someone else, you're going to have to let her go. Be kind. Sometimes you have to lose someone to get to a better relationship elsewhere. There's nothing you can do about it.

[Alper94]

Thanks I appreciate that.. Some young ladies in the comments here are misunderstanding what I'm saying.. I'm not a cheater if I was I wouldn't bother myself about it and just do it straight away.

[jennifer_bloom]

If you break up with your girlfriend - don't tell her why you did it until she is over you - just tell her you don't have the same feelings for her that she has for you and you view her more as a friend than a lover and you don't think you can give her the kind of relationship she wants in the long run

[Alper94]

I will think about it.. Thanks though 👍

[505error]

If you want to leave her then tell her. It’s best to be honest with her.

[Alper94]

Its not that easy though.. That's why I asked you girls what's the best way to say it !.

[505error]

Don’t ever tell a girl that you’re attracted to someone else unless you’re planning to break up.

[505error]

But if you want to break up be honest with why you do that

[Alper94]

But what if the other girl wouldn't be as sweet with me as she was.. Its complicated abit.!

[505error]

It’s not complicated. If you want your relationship to succeed, then leave the girl you’re attracted to alone!

[Alper94]

Let me put it this way.. I'm happy with a girl who loves me.. But I'm not sexually into her the way I am into the other girl.. It like choosing pleasure or comfort lol. It is not easy being to choose.

[505error]

Are you ready to settle down for a longterm happy relationship? If so, choose for the personality and compatibility of the girl. If you’re not and only looking for a fun time, go ahead and go for the more sexually attractive one.

[Alper94]

That's smart actually I haven't thought about it this way.. I think I need a girl who takes care of me which my girlfriend is already doing. but I need to avoid looking at that girl lol she mixes everything in my head.

[505error]

Yeah then choose your current relationship. There might always be girls who are sexually more attractive to you but if you’re happy with who you’re with, you shouldn’t lose your head over those other ladies.

[Alper94]

Yeah I would take them both. lol but that's not possible my girlfriend would know about it and I get in trouble.. Thanks babe 👍

[505error]

You’re welcome!

[pleasestopthis]

Question is: do you love your partner? If you don't know or the answer is no, just tell her the truth. Put yourself in her shoes; would you like to be with someone who fancies someone else, or would you prefer to be free to find someone who really loves you?

[Alper94]

I don't think I can find someone else who would love me like her.. Its only a sexual thing I have towards that other girl.. But tbh there is always a girl who's more beautiful than the other.. So I'm not gonna try to have them all.

[LoveInfect]

I think you might loose her. Break up with her and give up what you have or forget that girl in your workplace. Anything else would be a lie.

[Alper94]

I hate to choose btwen them.. If I could I would jeep them both but I'm sure my girlfriend wouldn't like that.

[Lizacat]

She will hate you and tell her now it's really unfair to waste more of her time

[LuWe22]

Yes tell her. Be honest and don't waste her time

[Anonymous]

That's up to you.

[Anonymous]

That's pretty fucked up you should be ashamed of yourself cheater

[Alper94]

Calm down please.. You should understand that I'm a man with values I would never hurt anybody who loves me. that's why I'm asking for some advise.