My boyfriend won’t go down on me or finger me out?

Question

We’ve been together for a year and a half and I’m 20 and he’s 21 years old. When we first met he only went down on me and fingered me a couple of times and then he stopped completely. For a whole year and a bit I haven’t been fingered or eaten out and it’s sexually frustrating. I’ll ask him why he won’t go down or finger me and he makes excuses like I’m tired or another day! Even cried and argued the point but he says to me he’s sorry and I’ll try harder and he hasn’t done a thing. He makes me feel ashamed of my body which I’ve told him and again he just hugs me, apologies and says I’ll try harder but still hasn’t and still makes excuses! We love each other emotionally but I don’t think he loves me physically. It makes me feel unhappy but again he has many good values like he’s not a lazy person he loves work, wants a future and a home, doesn’t hit or cheat. I’ve never met someone so loyal and emotionally supportive but the sex life is shit! It makes me want to separate love and sex! I want to know everyone’s opinion on that? Am I wrong wanting sexual affection and to be honest there have been times I wanted to fuck someone else, not to be a bad person or to cheat deliberately just the feel of someone appreciating my body and sexual needs, But then I don’t want too! Should I just feel unhappy in a relationship or feel guilty for wanting something that’s missing in my relationship and just fucking someone! It’s not multiple people I want to fuck there is one person who’s single, who I was seeing before being in this relationship (meaning I was single as well) he made me love my body and he loved it too and would sexually please me perfectly but we don’t see each other being in a relationship we don’t click in that way only sexually. Sometimes I feel wrong cause when I don’t get sexual pleasure from my boyfriend I think about this other boy🤦🏻‍♀️

Love2Jackit · Accepted Answer

U are not wrong for wanting 2 be pleasured by another man. Reason being every woman should always have plenty of oral sex. Do u go down on him. I bet u do. The reason he doesn't return the favor. Cause he's self centered. Any man that won't go down on his woman. Thier is either an act of laziness. Worst yet him trying 2 brain wash u in 2 thinking u are not good enough for him. Then when he thinks he's got u where her wants. That's when the real asshole in him comes out. I know he's good 2 u. That's what u think. Really if he was good and cared about u. Then he should go down on u every chance he gets. In all honesty I love 2 go down on a woman. Better than sex. What u need 2 do is tell him it's time for him 2 go down and pleasure u. If he don't then cut him off. That's when u go out and find a man who appreciates u. Meaning one who loves 2 eat pussy. Better yet one who loves 2 eat pussy and suck ur ass. If ever have an assgasm. Then u will be hooked on having ur ass licked and sucked on. Finally do what makes u have all the orgasmic fun u desire. Good luck

pajamasam · Accepted Answer

If you dont it eat, someone else will.

Bargain with him, tell him if he will eat you out, and give you the sex you want, you will give him the sexual things he wants later. If he eats you out, you blow him, basically.

Give him another chance to deliver. But if he still is a baby and won't eat you out like a man. Consider finding leaving him and finding someone who will sexually appreciate you.

Also... I always eat a girl out. I try to think of it like this.

"How would I feel if a girl refused to give me a bj, I'd feel undesired"

I can't have her feeling that way, so I always reciprocate.

abc3643 · Answer

Dump him.

reptocarl · Answer

He’s a piss poor selfish lover and it won’t ever change so you have a decision

Haelaeix123 · Answer

If he's causing you that much emotional pain then just leave him, it ain't worth it

Laozi · Answer

It's not a big deal. Just take him to a counselling and it'll be fine. Don't be afraid of it. And don't cheat.

mandowood · Answer

You have a sexual need not being satisfied, you have asked, he shows no interest in making you happy. You have the option to cut off whatever pleasure you give him Nd hope he gets the hint, otherwise end the relationship. Cheating should never be an option.

hellknight666 · Answer

Do you give him head

Plitty-Tank · Answer

Good. It's best to only have sex within marriage and not give story to Satan by being a fornicator.

Turk288 · Answer

If ur not happy just find someone else that makes you happy. I just can't understand why people dont eat pussy. Its the beat thing ever

CubaPirate · Answer

Simple go find one that will

dc858917 · Answer

Come visit me, I'll show you what you've been missing! Oral sex, to me, is more important than actual intercourse. It shows the other person that you truly enjoy all of them, and not just parts of them