Welcome to the queer community! We're glad to have you!
It's awesome that you were ready to come out, and that you have a supportive friend!
The self hatred, unfortunately, is a pretty common thing in people who are just beginning to explore their own same sex attraction, as is the confusion about the way you're attracted to same gender individuals. Fortunately, I can tell you with confidence that it eventually passes. When you first begin exploring same sex attraction, it can be hard to separate you own sexual wants and desires from your romantic and emotional needs, and even harder to disentangle those two concepts from what you feel is expected of you by your family, your peers, and society.
My advice? Talk about it. Talk with anyone who you feel safe and comfortable talking with. Go online and reach out to people like you in the Queer Community, and ask about their similar experiences. Talking with others is often a great way to understand yourself. Look at articles and pages on queer theory. I personally would look up the phrase "comp-het". That helped me understand my own issues with same sex attraction!
Good luck!! And feel free to message me if you have questions or want to talk! I'm always here for young queer people in the self discovery phase!!0 0 0 0Thank you, does feel good to know there are people who have been in the same situation as me, and I will try what you have suggested
This is completely normal. Don't push yourself to come out to people when you aren't comfortable yet. You decide who you tell and don't tell, nothing bad about it. What's important is that you feel safe enough to share, if you don't feel like it, then it's not something you have to share.
And being attracted to the same gender can really feel confusing and even bad once you realize. Your feelings are valid. I am here to say that it's nothing bad with liking guys and girls. Don't worry about your attraction towards girls being stronger/bigger than to guys. Some prefer girls 80% and men 20% and so on, it don't have to be an even scale. Sexuality is flexible and we are all different.
I also want to say it was brave of you to come out to your friend, it is nerve wrecking. The fear of rejection or even violence can be overwhelming. So that you waited til you felt more comfortable and then sharing is awesome0 1 0 0Thank you this has helped a lot.
No problem, keep going at your own pace, and keep being you
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I'm straight and I'm telling u rn that there's nothing wrong with being bi
0 0 0 0Thank you. Dunno why it affects me so much.
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0 1There is no help your not bi stupid.
0 0 0 0I mean if I enjoy watching gay porn, apart looking at their faces I would say that I'm fairly bi 😂
No just like the sexyalality of makes and wish you had it. Go get a girl not resport to changing
If your really gay let's sex and I'll breed your sorry ass
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