How do I get my man to fuck me like Christian Grey? dominate me like he owns me? just HOW?

[jades1616]

This one deffo for the boys I need your perspective on how you would want your girl to go about this situation. so BASICALLY, I newly found out that I am a masochist girl and I find myself fantasying about situations where im kidnapped, or tied up and stuff like that. and the thing is I don't even think I so enjoy just the pain part its deffo more of me being controlled. but my personality is contradicting it because I'm very upfront with my boyfriend and you could say I'm dominant sometimes in what I say and do (not sexually). I don't know how to act the shy girl and I really want to. ALSOOO my man is the same height as me and i think that contributes as to why I want to be dominated so much... it's gotten to the point where if I imagine him roleplay raping me I get soo turned on. guys, if your girl asked this, would you freak? I mean I'm freaking right now cuz its like wdh I wanna have forced sex with him but I can't help how I feel!
I'm 19 and he is 24 and I very shy talking about sex still so it's hard for me to say it but id just love some advice and tips from guys and even girls if you will!
I been researching it a lot but. just found this forum and I think I may acc get some answers!!
I'm so happy I found this place.

[englisc]

It's probably best to talk about it with him and ask him to try it.

If you don't want him to freak out though, don't tell him that you want him to "rape" or "kidnap" you. I get what you're saying but I'm a guy who has been into it for years - if he's new that will freak him out.

The best thing to do is start light and work up the intensity. Even if he likes it he won't know what to do or how to do it straight away, it takes time to build up the confidence and to understand it properly.

Suggest a little light bondage - handcuffs and a blindfold. Do that a little a bit. Then once he's comfortable with that, add in some LIGHT spanking. Do that a little bit. Then go heavier. Maybe try being gagged. Then maybe him being a little more rough etc. Gradual steps.

It's also important to do that for yourself, to figure out what you really enjoy, not to go too far. Read up on safe-words and things like that too, how to do this safely. If done the wrong way it can very wrong.

[jades1616]

this really helped me. tank you so much... i did exactly what you said and right now we have already used a gag. of course it takes time to perfect and starting was the hardest. thank youuuuuu

[AustinMan]

An interesting paradox. The first step is to find out about his darkest, kinkiest fantasies. A lot of guys who think they're with vanilla women hide their "dark" side. I suggest you find out if he has a dark side that he's hidden. Once we know that, we can formulate a way to get you what you want.

[jades1616]

interestinggg. ill deffo try and get it out of him. thank youuu

[AustinMan]

You might offer to exchange fantasies with him and start vanilla and work up to the very kinky.

[jades1616]

i will deffo try this. thank you so muchhh

[AustinMan]

Let me know how it goes. I have some other ideas if this doesn't work.

[jades1616]

something tells me i will be coming back to you 😂 thank you a lot austin

[AustinMan]

My pleasure. We can PM if you like. Just remind me about this question.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't have a hard time finding someone on one of those kinky sex sites.

[jades1616]

yes but i dont think my boyfriend would like that

[danman27]

Communication. You should only do this kind of thing with someone you truly trust. You need to talk to him about it all and tell him what you want

[jades1616]

i do trust him a lot we been together for almost 2 years now. yeah a lot of people say that but what i find happens is that i say something or give hints and he takes it but it doesn't stick unfortunately... and im one where when i has to say it i get put off

[danman27]

Hints don't usually work on us guys. We need to be told exactly what you want

[R4vedave]

Just be upfront and ask him to try it with you. But make sure you both have a detailed conversation about limits, consent, and what you're expecting. If you're going to try something like this, you need to absolutely make sure you're on the same page, and you know what you're expecting.

[jades1616]

yeah definitely! i wouldn't ever do it without conversating on limits and stuff. the thing is when i do tell him little things or give hints he does it a little but it never sticks... he doesn't even roleplay

[R4vedave]

But have you made it clear just how interested you are? Little hints and suggestions only go so far, if you're upfront and tell him "No I want you to fuck me extremely hard. Choke me, push me, just take me", that's a different story. Sometimes guys air on the side of caution, not really picking up hints, which is why it's better to spell out exactly what you want.

[jades1616]

you righttt. i just feel so stupid to ask for something like that. and im usually very confident. your only stating facts tho.. i need to get over myself

[R4vedave]

Yeah, if you're comfortable with your partner, then there's nothing to be embarrassed about! The most important part of a good sex life is good communication 👍

[jades1616]

thank you !!!

[sahil8799]

can u please follow me and message me

[jades1616]

it says i need 2XP or sum to message

[sahil8799]

how can we chat?

[Plitty-Tank]

Maybe woo him with a red dress and talk very sexy.

[jagra6702_ismykik]

Just call him 'Sir' and pretend to be weak... 😋

[jades1616]

good thought actually

[Anonymous]

Get him mad and tell him to rape you.