Is it stupid or childish that a guy stopped contacting a lady just because she told him she needed more time to get used to sex with him?
Both are in their mid 40´s and they alreayd had sex twice some months before. Let me point out they were not a couple or in a serious relationship or even dating often, they were just... friends. The guy did have sex before (before they met each other) but the lady was not experienced, in fact she lost her virginity wit this guy. The guy im sure was aware the lack of experience the lady had when they first had sex as like one year before she lost it with him, she told him about it and he told her "I dont mind". They know each other for 5 yrs!! and in some way they had the hots for each other since they first met for the way they exchange texts in those 5 years and in other dates they both had (when they did nto have sex yet).
But it seemed the guy was a bit impatient with the lady as he was more impulsive in his urges to have sex but the lady was not like that, especially when she lack of sex experience. The lady was not that bold, enthiuastic enough or impulsive as this sex stuff was new for her so it is natural she may be nervous, she had fear, she was not a pro either, while the guy im sure did have sex before so he did know what he wanted. They had sex twice but it was not like the best sex ever mostly for her in both occasion. The 1st time it was when she lost her virginity and she bled, and the guy was even surprised she did as he told her "With the ladies I was before they did not bled".
Every women is different anyway and each body reacts differently. Also the lady got jumpy and uneasy the first time as well when he wanted to fukc her. The guy did not enjoy it that much becuse being jumpy he could nto enjoy sex well. For her it was also uncomfortable as she try to do her best with him. The second time they had sex it was a bad day for her, or bad luck she got her period and she was not expecting it. So the guy did nto enjoy fuck her with her period on, but also the lady did not like it either she felt uncomfortable as well. So there was not enjoyment.
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in the sex moment, no oral from him to her, and he fuck her quickly to get it over it. and also one more time the lady got jumpy and once again the guy dislike her jumpyness. There was a chance the guy still wanted to get laid with her again (the 3rd time) even after those 2 kinda of failed sex before. The guy texted her one day and told her "I feel like fucking you but then it is boredom because you get all jumpy" The lady responded to him 3 weeks late because she did nto want to act like
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easy to get in touch with him and she replied him with this " Sometimes I feel like makng out with you heavily but lets go out and have some drinks first. Me jumpy? You know this is all new to me, I have to get used to it so I can enjoy it more each time. Lets talk about it in January. Happy Holidays" After this answer the guy simply stopped talking to her. I mean he seem he did not like a mature woman acting like a teenager, afraid as to wait for sex or get used to it after just the 2nd time.
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