Guys, do you wish you got more compliments? How often do you compliment guys?

[whipitout]

This is something I’ve noticed in general. It seems, at least from my perspective, that guys don’t get as many compliments as girls.

Now, I know that we could get started on a discussion about how modern day dating seems to work (at least according to what seems to be the majority of people on this website), but that’s not what I’ve asked this question for. I’m thinking once you’re already at the point of openly flirting with someone. Or even when you’re already dating or together. So, let's not discuss that tricky phase where it's subtle flirting or one sided.

I’ve also found that in writing*, whether that’s romance, erotic fiction or just a bit of smut, the guys seem to spend a lot of time in awe of how ‘hot’ the girl is, and will openly say so. Whereas it’s much less common for the girl to say something similar to the guy. And if she does it tends to be along the lines of handsome as opposed to the variety that girls receive, ranging from beautiful to hot to sexy.

*I do recognise that the majority of this writing is by girls and that may be a factor, I’m not sure 🤷‍♀️ But I always appreciate when the guy gets complimented too.

Come on girls, shower your men with some compliments 😜 Or do you already do a good job of that?

[Insightfull]

Yes, give me compliments.
I agree that guys don't get enough.
Also, by all means make the compliments sexually charged. The kind of thing that a woman might find to be a sexually objectifying compliment would go over very well with me. Don't call me "handsome" call me "hot."
In the case that you describe when it's a relationship, I have found that girlfriends like compliments that feel hot, but it's generally not appropriate (I think?) to compliments women that I just meet that way. Maybe I'm wrong? but seems like the consensus is that I should compliment her on a feature besides physical beauty (her personality, style, etc). While I appreciate those kinds of compliments, I would rather her call me hot.
Call me smart (a compliment I'm too used to) and I'll be like: thanks
Call me handsome and I'll be like: thank you :)
Call me hot and mean it and my knees might buckle

[whipitout]

Dang, ok I appreciate that perspective. And I think you’re right. Women seem to be more used to be harassed straight up so I guess an overtly sexual comment is usually not so great immediately. Do you think men get many of these compliments in general?

[Brett99]

It's nice to hear them but I think we're used to it lmao. I'd also prefer genuine compliments from the one I want/with, rather than random people.

[whipitout]

Assuming you’re with them though? Would you want compliments regularly?

[Brett99]

I'd rather have honest compliments, not really keen on over-the-top or too frequent compliments. But feeling loved is important. So meh, tough balance

[whipitout]

Have a look at the answer from insightfull - would you agree?

[Brett99]

No, completely disagree

[whipitout]

That's interesting!! Would you say you wouldn't like more sexual compliments (e. g. you're hot)? Or just that you'd prefer the other kind?

[Brett99]

I'm not really that keen on "hot" personally, I'd prefer "handsome" or something related to personality

[MrOracle]

Unless you're a 9+ hot guy, as a guy, you get compliments on what you DO, but there can be years between compliments on what you look like.

[whipitout]

And is that a good or a bad thing do you think?

[MrOracle]

Obviously tons of men would appreciate those kinds of compliments more than once a decade (and coming from someone other than their great-aunt or whatever), and it would certainly improve the confidence and self-image of a LOT of guys who could desperately use more of it.

[R4vedave]

Yes, most men are starving for this kind of attention.

[elite665]

I like compliments but at the same time I feel awkward hearing people call me handsome or attractive in public

[parjacpar]

Yes I would but know when I do get them I mean something to that person

[COMMODOREII]

Tbh i do get compliments from women. It often involves them touching my arm or running their hand through my hair but yeah.

[Lionboy79]

A smile , a touch is enough if the relationship is lasting longer. Only if fresh, it's brings some spice, after a while it's bit of boring. And if I am fishing for compliment, I just post a picture of myself in Instagram and wait for. my followers to spoil me
... ;)

[Guardian45]

I'm a 'Giver'. I like to be generous with my compliments. And I crave the same honesty from my closest family, friends and GFs.

[grega239]

I don't know. I grew cynical about compliments BCS they always came across a manipulation tactic to get me to do things

[B2281]

It's good to hear compliments.