Honestly, I am not sure that there is a double standard. Sometimes with some people, but as a general rule I think people just more or less accept what other people do in their sex lives as personal and not a matter for discussion.
True story, but in the early days of my relationship with my girlfriend - we have now been living together for 12 years and have three children - we went through what we now half-humorously call our "wild and crazy days." Those early days we had sex in public - on a beach in the Caribbean while on vacation - had sex in the same room with another couple we knew, sex with other people, and one thing that turned my girlfriend on was the idea of watching me have sex with another guy.
Very long story short - I'll spare you the details - my girlfriend had a gay friend who thought I was good looking and he agreed to have sex with me in front of her, so long as we also spent time just the two of us. At first I was not thrilled at the idea but - after much back and forth I agreed and for about the next 5 months I was having a gay relationship, including some threesomes.
My girlfriend didn't think less of me. It turned her on and made her horny. Frankly, although it felt good to me, interestingly enough and I actually enjoyed the sex, thinking about it made - and makes - me cringe more than anything my girlfriend thinks about it even now. (Though we both came to a point where we realized that the best sex is the sex that we share with each other.)
Frankly, I grant that is - in many ways - an atypical experience. Still, I have to think that while many people would not want that experience for themselves, it will vary according to tolerances and tastes and not some generic double standard.
Frankly, I found it harder to see my girlfriend having sex with another guy. At one level it turned me on, but at another level it was like, "No, she's mine!! Only I get to do that with her!!!" For the longest time I kept that to myself - the irony being that when I finally admitted it to my girlfriend it is when we both realized how much sex between just the two of us meant to each other.
Could be wrong, I guess - and maybe responses to this posting will prove me wrong. However, I think most people, at most, shrug and think to themselves, "Well, it is not for me, but if it works for them, I'm okay with that."
It isn't threatening to society, not at all, and the assumption that most men will be pleased by a MFF threesome and no keep wanting more is a fallacy as well. I know one woman who is poly, her husband is not, but he wanted to try it, and is supportive of her sleeping with other people.
Well, she had a girlfriend one time and wanted to give him a treat, they start having threesomes together, and within a couple weeks he's in love with the girlfriend, who leans much more towards women. She tells wifey, and they decide husband can't be in that picture anymore. He's jealous, angry, and it almost led to them getting a divorce.
She still has girlfriends and occasional boyfriends... but no more sharing.
I think most guys who have that fantasy haven't had many threesomes, and especially not a 3-way relationship, that jealousy, or situation I described can happen regardless of another penis, or vagina being involved.
I know another guy who if he is going to have a threesome, anything short of an orgy he only wants another guy involved, and laments that I'm not into anal lol. Look around, it's a lot easier to find a guy to get in on a threesome than another girl, like, ten minutes as opposed to ten hours.
Eh, society just has double standards, always have, always will, just deal with it. Men want fmf threesomes cause the porn industry has overglorified it even though most men have trouble lasting long enough to statify one woman, let alone two. Women have been granted sexual freedom not so long ago and some stigma remains which is understandable, plus we are the ones running the risk of pregnancy and are associated with the holy image of a mother and there is just no place in that image for mfm threesomes. At the end of the day - people should just do as they please with their sex lives without putting them on public display.
I don't believe you are correct. I stopped reading it because how far off you were. Men wanting threesomes with two women really has nothing to do with porn industry. I will say it didn't hurt the urge but it comes from long before the "industry". And it's simple, the more boobs the better.
"I don't believe you are correct so I just didn't read it"
I'm curious what you think sufficient stamina would be. For me though it's got nothing to do you porn I just like making girls compete for my affection haha. Well that and I'd like to harem for practical reasons.
My boyfriends bi but I'm not
He wants a fmf because he has a harem complex. He's insecure in his own reality and wants to be flooded with love and attention. This Is due mainly to childhood trauma.
I don't want a female with us though. One, I'm straight. Two, I don't want any other woman near us.
I used to think I'd be okay with another guy too since I enjoy male on maps, but in all honesty I would be uncomfortable and unnattracted, as well as jealous of him as well.
My boyfriend is MINE
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I actually think it's becoming a much more sought after trendy fantasy! I hear about it all the time. Guys who have made pacts that if they find the right girl they both like. Girls who make deals with their guy friends who would be willing. So I'm not really seeing a whole lot of negativity surrounding the issues. If you are after that and feeling those ignorant voices just tune them out. Your life your body and as long as everyone directly involved in the deed is happy who cares? Do as you please!
Women are expected to be "dainty" and "pure", so we often get treated like whores for having the same desires as men.
Ironically, I think it would be easier to obtain an MFM threesome than an FMF threesome.
You're 100% correct. A couple looking to add an additional female to the mix, has a very difficult time in finding a willing participant. But that same couple can find a parade of guys willing to partake in the threesome.
would you go for MFM or MMF if your boyfriend suggested that?
Probably not. I really like him and him alone.
Yes mfm is threatening cause society looks at a woman. Meaning she should be in a mf only. If she with another woman like mff. Then that's not as bad mfm. Reason being many people think if a woman is with 2 men. Then she want be faithful. I say let her do what she wants. By letting a woman have her way in sexual needs. Then if things don't workout between u and her. She can't say it was all ur fault. Society should just accept some things for the way. By not accepting it makes men / women more likely 2 want 2 do it. Cause everything that gets hated on. Then most of the time. That's just makes them want 2 go do it. 2 prove a point that they can.
One of the last strongholds of gender based stereotyping...
I don't know how to answer the question other than it is an interesting question,, I for one support the idea that, what you expect from other's you should expect from yourself and should have them expect from you and what you don't expect from other's they should not expect from you,,, so I don't want a threesome for instance, so that means that it is both ways...
I don't think it should be judged the way it is though...
I guess people are holding on to the saying: "a key that opens many locks is a good key, but a lock that is opened by many keys is not a good lock" ,,,, complete bullshit that it is,, it is a double standard and I guess to some people there will always be...
Are women and men biologically identical? Do women carry away genetic material from sexual encounters? Be honest for a woman to initiate sex she in most instances simply have to be willing. For a man it takes work and resources. You are right, there are double standard, but there are reasons for it and what I listed are only a few. The adage about the lock and the key certainly points to a double standard, but highlights in a descriptive way a reason for it. It is a truism and certainly not BS.
EDIT: "Be honest for a woman to initiate sex she in most instances simply have to be willing. For a man it takes work and resources." Should have read: Be honest for a woman to initiate sex she in most instances simply has to be willing. For a man it takes work and resources.
Oooohhhkaayy... So let me just get this right,, you are saying because of biological differences men and women should be held to different standards pertaining to people's view of their behavior? So just because a woman can get sex whenever she wants she then shouldn't and should be judged differently (more strictly and negatively) than a man exhibiting the same behavior and because a man has to "work" for it, it is okay if his behaviour is then viewed and judged with more lead way, leniency if you wil? You see I think you have summarized the mindset I am referring to in your comment,, the simple fact that a woman can get it whenever she wants is exactly the problem, you saying that just says that men in general will go for it given the slightest opportunity and a woman doesn't have to do a damn thing except be willing (what does that say about men in general?), just because he is a man and she is a woman, if the script was flipped and the man wanted he would have to work for it and for that reason it has to be viewed differently if a woman behaves that way as opposed to a man, sooooo what that then basically says is that if a man could get it anytime he wants and then does, he would not be viewed the same as a woman doing the exact same thing, so it is okay for a man to be whoring around, because it is harder to do... Now to my point, all people should be accountable for their actions, sexual or otherwise, if a woman wants to be irresponsible it should not be viewed differently than a man who is irresponsible, irresponsibility is irresponsibility
Probably because some men are very sensitive when it comes to their sexuality, are super close-minded or super insecure about their performance.
I mean, I've asked my ex friends with benefits to have a MFM threesome since he wanted a FMF and he told me no since he didn't want to compete with another guy 🤦🏽🤦🏽
But anyways, I don't really care about double standards. If I want a threesome, then I'll have one. Don't care what society thinks or if people call me a slut for it. At least I'm having fun, I'm happy, healthy and enjoying my life. Remember, you live for yourself not for random strangers :)
I thought u were happily engaged lol
I am, but my fiancé and I would want to try a threesome someday for fun. We are both into it so why not. But will have to wait until we've been together for many years lol
Ok so I'm going to try to give you a males perspective on this seeing as the obvious is so impossible for you to see.
Men don't like looking at other men, unless gay most men don't find other men attractive, don't get me wrong we can see a good looking man and say so but that doesn't mean we want to look at him nor find him attractive. So then seeing him sweaty and ploughing a woman that your both tag teaming is actually a huge turn off.
That's different with women then because men like to look at women and having two is twice the fun.
Where you've gone wrong in your assertion is that society will reward a man for this behaviour but chastise a woman, it won't, a slut is a slut no matter the gender. If a woman wants to be spit roasted by two men then fine have at it but don't think your the girl who gets taken home to meet my mother, your a toy nothing more. If a guy wants to bed two women then he's a douchebag and probably a walking sti and not somebody any woman can have a real relationship with.
"If a guy wants to bed two women then he's a douchebag" Every red-blooded, heterosexual guy I've ever met, has wanted the dream of two women at once. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Buy there's a difference between wanting something as a fantasy and doing it. There's a world of difference between the two. There's a world of difference between doing it and then consuming when you get treated like a toy by women. When you behave in a particular way you get treated that way, you get what you deserve then, what you earn. If you want to be treated with respect then you first have to have respect for yourself. It's really that simple. I fail to see why this is something people seem unable or unwilling to accept.
Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. The difference between the FMF fantasy and the FMF reality, is that it's VERY difficult to pull that off. But if you can pull that off, then my hat's off to you. Most women don't want a FMF... that's a porn thing. Most women (outside of GAG) want MFM. All you have to do is ask them, and they'll tell you that. And there's nothing wrong with threesomes, just as long as all participants are on the same page. I've never had a FMF, but I've had many MFMs back in high school. Some of the girls called back and wanted more. THEY were the driving force behind them. That doesn't make the girls or guys, douchebags. It was all just fun, and I have no regrets at all. But, I can see where this bothers some, and I get that.
Two reasons, firstly women don't tend to find other naked women utterly repulsive. Most have fantasised or experimented with other girls for fun so there is still enjoyment being in a ffm threesome as a girl.
Secondly women get called sluts because to be a slut all you have to do is spread your legs, you can be the fattest, ugliest girl in the room and still find many desperate guys willing to fuck you. To be a stud you need to work out, be handsome, be charming, be rich and confident and somehow talk two girls into sharing your dick. So yes it's totally fair to have slut vs stud.
What a crock of shit. You avoided the main question and went on with your rant about how easy it is for women to get laid.
I thought I was answering your question with two reasons. What did I miss?
There is a common misconception about the role of the male in reproduction and their ability to take care of the biological process with more than one woman at a time where women can only reproduce with one man at a time.
However, this completely ignores the fact that sperm competition evolved because a woman can have more mates at a single session than men can have. It's even believed by some anthropologists that the moaning during sex evolved to attract more mates.
Of course we have evolved beyond sex for reproduction alone and I say if a woman wants to have a couple of dudes at once more power to her. Hell, she can have a dozen of she can find the right number of guys to fulfill her desires.
Um, I don't have that fantasy. As for why the taboo, its simple, sex is physical for men its not for women, on top of that in a relationship the man does all the work (he asks her out and risks rejection, then he pays for dates, he protects her he providers for her etc. etc.) and in exchange she gives him sex and intimacy so when she asks to have sex with another guy she is telling her SO that she wants him to take care of her and invest in her but she wants to give away the one thing she gives him, to some one else. That's probably why most men are against it.
Personally I'm against both, its a good way of completely destroying a relationship and removes any real meaning behind said relationship.
I honestly think the idea of a threesome is a dumb idea no matter what gender you are. Though that's just me, I don't like to share.
So no double standard with me for I think it's both equally weird no matter what. :D
It's taboo because it doesn't benefit cooperations. So they brainwash people in a way that benefits them.
2 guys one woman = more money and protection and controlled population with higher testosterone in men.
I think you're exhagerating the amount of guys that want a threesome. Then again some had it and only after that didn't like it.
They are annoying as hell. There will always be some form of third wheel. It's always exhausting for the lonely sex. There's so many things people are more into then threesomes. The reason there's a double standard is because girls are usually the ones seeking it out. Either wanting to peek into someone else's relationship or wanting to be the center of attention.
FFM is the thing with my bi wife. The whole adding a man thing is sort of understood between us... that men equal trouble.
Let me put this into perspective. Long ago my friend and I would always bang the same girl. We'd pick up 2 girls and swap them like it was no big deal. But we were friends first.
Back to me and the wife. There is always one particular person that encourages deception and usually against me. Guess who he is? He's just not my friend, and we become opposition very quickly. Deception or the encouragement of it between my wife and I becomes apparent pretty fast. So over the past decade my wife and I just sort of agree. Men equal some bullshit. Everyone seems to be able to control themselves except that one person that's trying to text on the DL. It causes problems for them as well as us dealing with it. It doesn't matter if his chick is hotter either, it's just a recognized pattern at this point.
I’m not familiar with this “double standard” If a girl wants a threesome, calling her guy;
“faggot, cuckold, sissy, beta boi”
seems counterproductive.
As for any outsider commenting about someones private sex life, it’s none of their business.
There really isn't. It's what a person chooses to focus on. I know a lot of guys who have shared a woman in a threesome. It's common. There are also a lot of guys that like that area serviced, but would never want a romantic or intimate relationship with a man. It's literally like a service.
There is no double standard here. I don't believe in any three way, of any kind.
One of the fundamental laws of physics is this:
"No two or more naked penis shall exist in the same room unless:
CASE 1) All penises belong to homosexuals.
OR
CASE 2) The men are in a public shower.
Otherwise, the universe will explode within 15 minutes."
I dislike people who are into threesomes equally; no double standards here.
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here a qestion,. why is there a dubled standed for wemon. FGM is not allowed,. but MGM is. like what fuck is that about. cut boys dicks off. 20 thousand nevers gone. with chronic ptsd and permennent brain damage from shock.
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i just got into your mind. ur a femininst. more that your dumb. sadly that ok i will enlighten you make smart
only takes 1 man to pregnate wemon thus reason why wemon are more populated then men are by ratio.
two men and one weoman. lols plase. you female only fuck 3 times a week or less. so how you going handle 2 horrney men every day. they will dump your ass and cheat.
but for a 2 female one male thats easy to blance. 3 is a bit extreamly hard
2 is max limit i say. 1 kid per female.
1 woman is a work and the other a stay at home, or partime work moms that rotate job sechuals. w/e it works out ethire or
sexy is quit easy to. man always horrny everyday. expect for the blue moons. then one day after 4 day of not doing it. he will b e fucking la marathon. 2 wemon 6 days of sex. man is easy to do that. wemon 3 days. each. that 6 days. also 3 some.
and hmmm 2 females one 1 male. i see no problem i thinks actually logical. 2 men one woman, all i see is a gold digger that s takeing advatge of 2 men. and no sex. you will to have sex 7 days a week. . and keep good at. id ont think so.
so there i made u smarter. at lest my reason why hate the duble standered is actually actul cuase. your is just pettyness and pethatic, so grow up or no man will ever date you i feel like your a woman that would he raped me. while i was sleeping with him
Because the vast majority of men are insecure douchebags that use double standards to their own advantage.
I'm all for equality. If women want equal pay, then you better be able to walk the walk.
But the threesome thing should be equal, I agree.
Thank you. You hit the nail on the head.
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