Why can't I accept homosexual people particularly gay men?

Question

I don't understand their business doesn't affect my life , but for some reason I'm just every disgusted by their existence

I feel this same disgust with pedophiles and child molesters which is understandable but I don't know why with gay people

I particularly can't stand gay men , lesbians are a bit tolerable

I don't know why

Answer 1

CallMeDave | 561 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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My first guess would be that you were raised in an environment that was rigid and not accepting of people that are different than you. Perhaps it was your parents, your church, your friends or maybe all of them.

How do you feel about people of a different race or religion or ethnicity? If you don't really like those people either, then maybe it's a general dislike of anyone that's not like you. Sadly, that's a widespread problem.

People like different things. We like different foods, we like different kinds of jobs, we like different cars, we like our homes decorated in different ways, and we like different activities. We're different in many ways, so isn't it reasonable that people have different sexual interests as well?

I wouldn't want someone telling me that I can't eat the food that I like or that I can't work at a job that I like or can't have the car that I like or can't decorate my home the way that I like or do the kinds of things that I like to do on my free time or that I can't have sex with the woman that I love, so it certainly wouldn't be fair for me to deny someone else the right to any of those things.

As a 100% heterosexual man, I personally find the idea of two men having sex very unappealing, but I am accepting of guys that choose to do that. People can have different interests and desires and that's fine.

I'm a firm believer in "live and let live" and that anyone should be able to do whatever they want as long as it doesn't harm anyone else. I think that if everyone had that attitude the world would be a much happier place with a lot less conflict.

It's good that you seem to recognize that your feelings are unreasonable. That puts you ahead of a lot of people. Perhaps if you try to focus on the fact that sexual preference is just one of many ways that humans differ and that everyone should be allowed to do the things that make them happy (as long as they don't hurt anyone else), maybe in time you'll be able to overcome whatever has led you to feel the way you do and be more accepting of everyone, including people that have a different sexual preference than you do.

It also would be good if you can see that gay men in a mutually desired relationship are completely different than pedophiles and child molesters. Pedophiles and child molesters are hurting other people. Gay men that love each other are not. In fact, they're doing just the opposite - making each other happy. Can you really hate people for making each other happy?

Asker

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Not exactly how would consider making other people happy

It's like walking on the street naked , your not hurting anyone but it's not right

I only have a firm disgust towards people with different sexualities even though I shouldn't

I'm very much comfortable around women , black people , hindus and muslims

My parents thought me that they are human beings that need to be respected

My parents however thought me that homosexuality is an mental illness , they said it's harmless but not right

Even if it's two consensual adults trying to make each other happy

And even if my parents didn't teach , I still feel that homosexuality is a deviation from the natural biological design

Men and women are literally designed to be mate with each other

I'm not forcing anything but it's just how I feel
CallMeDave

1 y
I think you have your answer right here:

"My parents however thought me that homosexuality is an mental illness , they said it's harmless but not right"

It's often difficult to overcome attitudes that are taught by parents. Some people are able to, but it can be difficult even if they realize that what their parents taught them wasn't right. And then there are many that don't even try to overcome it and don't even question what they were taught.

I respect you for recognizing the situation for what it is and hopefully working on overcoming that. A lot of people don't do that.

Here's a question I have for you and your parents. If all the other groups of people you mentioned "are human beings that need to be respected" (which I agree with), why are homosexuals different? They're human beings too. Why should they be hated rather than respected?

As long as the sexual activity is between consenting adults and isn't hurting anyone why is that so bad?
Asker

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Like I said before it's like walking naked on the street , it's harmless because your seeing a human body but it's not right is it? To walk naked?

That's how I see homosexuals

I see them as humans but just broken ones

I genuinely respect my parents and my parents are respectful to others even they have a different view

Also my parents are doctors so I guess they have a sense of it

But I just.. you know can't make myself accept homosexuals

They can do whatever it is there are doing but not in public

For some reason I'm more comfortable with lesbians than gay men

Answer 2

Asker

Not exactly how would consider making other people happy

It's like walking on the street naked , your not hurting anyone but it's not right

I only have a firm disgust towards people with different sexualities even though I shouldn't

I'm very much comfortable around women , black people , hindus and muslims

My parents thought me that they are human beings that need to be respected

My parents however thought me that homosexuality is an mental illness , they said it's harmless but not right

Even if it's two consensual adults trying to make each other happy

And even if my parents didn't teach , I still feel that homosexuality is a deviation from the natural biological design

Men and women are literally designed to be mate with each other

I'm not forcing anything but it's just how I feel

Answer 3

CallMeDave

I think you have your answer right here:

"My parents however thought me that homosexuality is an mental illness , they said it's harmless but not right"

It's often difficult to overcome attitudes that are taught by parents. Some people are able to, but it can be difficult even if they realize that what their parents taught them wasn't right. And then there are many that don't even try to overcome it and don't even question what they were taught.

I respect you for recognizing the situation for what it is and hopefully working on overcoming that. A lot of people don't do that.

Here's a question I have for you and your parents. If all the other groups of people you mentioned "are human beings that need to be respected" (which I agree with), why are homosexuals different? They're human beings too. Why should they be hated rather than respected?

As long as the sexual activity is between consenting adults and isn't hurting anyone why is that so bad?

Answer 4

Asker

Like I said before it's like walking naked on the street , it's harmless because your seeing a human body but it's not right is it? To walk naked?

That's how I see homosexuals

I see them as humans but just broken ones

I genuinely respect my parents and my parents are respectful to others even they have a different view

Also my parents are doctors so I guess they have a sense of it

But I just.. you know can't make myself accept homosexuals

They can do whatever it is there are doing but not in public

For some reason I'm more comfortable with lesbians than gay men

Answer 5

alandoffun

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I'm guessing you were brought up when that life style was not accepted. Like myself I'm not a big fan of most gay huys. The whole im gay look at me show they put on and there close minded political views makes me really annoyed. With all that said I do have a few gay friends. They are decent people. The are not flamers. They keep there politics to them selfs. I actually enjoy them. So I guess I'm saying thatI don't dislike gay people. I don't agree with there lifestyle. I DISLIKE RUDE BIG MOUTH ATTENTION GRABBING gay people..
I also ask you to focus your anger more on these Pedophiles. Most gay people are good people. All Pedopiles are Evil. There is not near enough being done to protect are kids

Asker

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Yes but for some reason I have the same disgust for homosexuals just slightly lower than Pedophiles
alandoffun

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Do you not like or wish your feelings were different.
Asker

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At least a bit tolerant I honestly don't think homosexualities is normal but it's ok for them be like that

One of the things I'm scared is that pedophilia might be a sexual orientation like homosexualities

Which is why I'm a bit hesitant even tho their both different
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Asker

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Also my parents taught me that homosexuality is a mental illness but it's ok for them be like that much like autism
alandoffun

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Who knows. Its not normal but it'
shouldn't be compared to Pedophiles.. They are monsters
Asker

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The reason I compared them is because I started to notice or hear that there are pedophiles who haven't hurt any children but keep themselves from interacting with them because they can't help who their attracted to

"Can't help who they are attracted to " much like gay men

Answer 6

Asker

Yes but for some reason I have the same disgust for homosexuals just slightly lower than Pedophiles

Answer 7

alandoffun

Do you not like or wish your feelings were different.

Answer 8

Asker

At least a bit tolerant I honestly don't think homosexualities is normal but it's ok for them be like that

One of the things I'm scared is that pedophilia might be a sexual orientation like homosexualities

Which is why I'm a bit hesitant even tho their both different

Answer 9

Asker

Also my parents taught me that homosexuality is a mental illness but it's ok for them be like that much like autism

Answer 10

alandoffun

Who knows. Its not normal but it'
shouldn't be compared to Pedophiles.. They are monsters

Answer 11

Asker

The reason I compared them is because I started to notice or hear that there are pedophiles who haven't hurt any children but keep themselves from interacting with them because they can't help who their attracted to

"Can't help who they are attracted to " much like gay men

Answer 12

Anonymous

That's the definition of homophobia. i. e, ACTUAL homophobia, where you have an irrational fear of homosexuals. But since it's an actual phobia, you're perfectly entitled to state that you can't help it, any more than an arachnophobe can help being afraid of spiders. It's just the way you are...

Asker

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More like an urge to kill them but yes some what yea

I never killed anyone by the way

Answer 13

Asker

More like an urge to kill them but yes some what yea

I never killed anyone by the way

Answer 14

Astarlessnightsky | 719 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

Maybe because you were raised that way? Parents? Church? other Family members? ...

But as you said, they don't affect your life in any way.

Asker

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Yea but I don't like how they show affection in public

It's like people walking naked on the street

Your not hurting anyone but it's still wrong

Answer 15

Asker

Yea but I don't like how they show affection in public

It's like people walking naked on the street

Your not hurting anyone but it's still wrong

Answer 16

Dchrls78104 | 3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

You're not alone. Homosexuality is unnatural yet some try to force feed us with it like it's something good. Paedos are pathetic individuals. Both homosexuality and paedophilia are acts of wickedness and things to be disgusted with, not proud of.

Asker

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I agree with you

Answer 17

Asker

I agree with you

Answer 18

4mazing

Xper 5

Maybe you could work that out with a therapist. Don't see how it is relevant to the rest of us.

Answer 19

nirraddog

Xper 2

You were raised in a society that that isn't used to gays. If you were brought up Greece back in the day you would be sucking cock and loving it.

Answer 20

stormbreaker06 | 1.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

you don't have to accept anyone... but politically keep your views to yourself and be fake. That's what society wants. Fake acceptance and fake love.

Answer 21

Suhailadil89

Xper 5

Because they are a disgusting breed.. abomination of humans

Answer 22

Jmmmfi4 | 3.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

Get over it & don't worry about how someone else lives their life.

Asker

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They can do whatever they want indoors but if I'm in a restaurant and they kiss each other is what makes me uncomfortable

Answer 23

Asker

They can do whatever they want indoors but if I'm in a restaurant and they kiss each other is what makes me uncomfortable

Answer 24

Agape93 | 4.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Seems like it’s just how you are

Asker

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But I hate pedophiles and child molester

Everyone does

But I also seen to hate homosexuals in a slightly lower passion of hate
Agape93

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I read that and as I said, it seems to be just how you are.
Asker

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Is this bad?
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Agape93

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I don’t frankly care to be honest. The morality of this is subjective by nature.

Answer 25

Asker

But I hate pedophiles and child molester

Everyone does

But I also seen to hate homosexuals in a slightly lower passion of hate

Answer 26

Agape93

I read that and as I said, it seems to be just how you are.

Answer 27

Asker

Is this bad?

Answer 28

Agape93

I don’t frankly care to be honest. The morality of this is subjective by nature.

Answer 29

Anonymous

Obviously you know that you have strong homosexual tendencies. Thinking about gay men brings out your innermost desire to suck a cock

Asker

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I understand where come from most people who are homophobic are caught doing gay stuff

I'm the exception I have no desire to even look at a man sexually , even majority of my porn collection is lesbian porn

So don't assume things , just to justify my hatred
mohawk3283

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didn't youu say that lesbians were barely tolerable in your question and now you say thats mostly what you wack off to?
Asker

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@mohawk3283 yes for some reason I enjoy them in porn knowing that they don't really mean it or are just doing it for the sake of entertainment
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Asker

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I said I could tolerate them more than gay men

Read the question properly

Answer 30

Asker

I understand where come from most people who are homophobic are caught doing gay stuff

I'm the exception I have no desire to even look at a man sexually , even majority of my porn collection is lesbian porn

So don't assume things , just to justify my hatred

Answer 31

mohawk3283

didn't youu say that lesbians were barely tolerable in your question and now you say thats mostly what you wack off to?

Answer 32

Asker

@mohawk3283 yes for some reason I enjoy them in porn knowing that they don't really mean it or are just doing it for the sake of entertainment

Answer 33

Asker

I said I could tolerate them more than gay men

Read the question properly

Answer 34

Usernamesrdumb | 261 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

You’re older. Its a generational thing.

Answer 35

UncleJessieRabbit | 91 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

I don't know, maybe evolution?

Answer 36

Ronnie43

Xper 1

No way... not at all interested.

Answer 37

Rippersavage | 909 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

Ur homophobic

Asker

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Bite me
Rippersavage

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Dude, u said u can't stand them and that u r disgusted by their very existence.

U r literally the textbook definition of homophobia (and u know it)
Asker

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Homophobia ain't the right word

Anti homosexuality is more appropriate

Ok so you called me a homophobe , good accomplishment

Feel better about yourself now

Answer 38

Asker

Bite me

Answer 39

Rippersavage

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Dude, u said u can't stand them and that u r disgusted by their very existence.

U r literally the textbook definition of homophobia (and u know it)

Answer 40

Asker

Homophobia ain't the right word

Anti homosexuality is more appropriate

Ok so you called me a homophobe , good accomplishment

Feel better about yourself now

Why can't I accept homosexual people particularly gay men?

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