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Is my boyfriend gay?

my boyfriend and I had an open discussion & he disclosed that when he was a child him and his childhood friend use to preform oral sex on each other and jack each other off and this was also his first sexual encounter. He also disclosed that 2 years ago he received oral sex from an openly gay male. He said it was some of the best head he’s ever gotten he came twice back to back. However he stated that he isn’t attracted to men and wouldn’t bottom with a man or really have sex with one. Also , My boyfriend told me that his freshman year in college (7 years ago) he received oral sex from a transsexual. He also stated that she ate his butt and he didn’t really enjoy that part. I asked him did he do anything to her he said he played with her penis by jacking it a little then stopped Bc he didn’t like it. He described her as being feminine but not taking hormones. He also said he tried to have sex with her and couldn’t because he couldn't stay hard. they met online and had been talking for a while and made plans for her to preform oral on him. The trying to have sex part just came when he got there. He said that the oral sex was “alright” which is something he says about everything. I’m just wondering is my boyfriend into men , does he have sexual desires to be with a man. This makes me wonder because she hadn’t transitioned and she still had her male parts. Which he was aware of and touched on her male parts , and attempted to have anal sex with her while being able to see her male part. I asked did he kiss her he said no but I don’t really believe that.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Trying the range of sex doesn't make a person gay. It's trying different things to see what they're like. Not really different from eating Chinese, Thai, Indian, or Mexican food.

    When something feels good tend to try it. When something is just ok it's whatever.

    Good for him being honest and upfront. Respect for that.

    I don't think you have anything to worry about him being gay. Leaves you open to new possibilities with sex because he's at least comfortable around such things.

    • I wouldn’t say he was honest and upfront , we’ve been dating for two years and this was only told to me Bc I was persistent & I studied psychology, so I could tell there was more to the story than what he was saying.. I opened up to him about my sexual curiosity & it took me walking away for him to tell me about the tranny , and a entire different day and conversation for me to tell me about the additional man & his bestfriend

  • At the start of your post I thought he was just young and experimenting, but as I read on that doesn't seem to be the case as he's done it in recent years. I would imagine he has gay tendencies or urges to do things with men.

    I would suggest flat out asking the question. As it's a sensitive subject, I would say "off the back of yesterdays talk, I feel a little conflicted and just want to ask..."

    He might answer this for you.

    • He said he isn’t into men , but I can’t understand how a straight male can let another gay male preform oral sex on you... i understand the childhood part in a sense Bc that’s considered to be experimenting. . It just makes me feel a little weird knowing that him and his best friend did that to each other.. he just came out and said to me “ well I sucked some dick before “ ... again this was when he was a kid , but he’s also did things as an adult so I wonder does he still have these sexual desires

    • From what you've said, I would say he does. It's one thing to experiment as a kid and another to do it as an adult. You've already tried it, that is normally enough to decide if it's for you or not. Your concerns are valid and completely rational. He might just swing both ways, the question is, are you comfortable with that?

Most Helpful Girl

  • He might be bi or that could just be a preference because he was exposed to it first. Besides I think it's only oral from a man that he likes so actually taking it further or developing feelings for a man seems unlikely

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Maybe he's bisexual.

  • Gay. I have sex w women. Even oral... women. He is bi sexually labeled or more due to his actions

  • He's not gay, he's super gay.

  • He likes guys. No doubt about it

  • Get out while you can or at least get him tested!

  • he's gay or bi. as i said-some trans girls look great-a straight guy can be attracted to them... though, though, i feel like that depends on how far along they are-but the guys? no-sorry-that twice-one-he blew.

    • how is the sex with you? gay guys-from what little i've read and heard-aren't generally attracted to trans girls-if at all.

  • Bisexual

  • Stop spamming these posts, no one cares, reported

    • If you don’t care why bother to respond? Or read?

    • So I can confirm it's a spam post before I notify an admin

  • I don't know because i didn't fuck him.

  • Which of the various versions of this story you have posted here over the last several days is true, if any?

  • Seems like he has love for penis

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