I love you but I'm not "in love" with YOU?

Question

Is this even possible? Like 2 people are dating, having sex, going out frequently and posting their relationship online to friends and family. Yet , this is possible? That I love you but not in love with you?

Answer 1

Gabriel007

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No no no...
This is just everything wrong with love these days or sorry that's not right, the perception of love these days...
Love is Love and nothing else,, all these other shit people put around love really gets under my collar, cause it is just false, it is other emotions that people mistake for love (emotions like Lust, infatuation, extreme admiration, adoration etc etc etc), love is an state that takes time to cultivate and is something that you make sure that you are certain of and not just throw around everywhere or just cheaply say to someone...
If anything his statment is in reverse,,, but no it isn't, it is just wrong, you love someone or you don't, there is no gradient or other phrasing you can use in it's place,,, what he should have said is I ^insert emotion here^ after you (for example, I lust after you,, I am infatuated with you,, I adore you), but I don't love you...

Answer 2

PrudentGuy | 3.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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Yes. In the Bible, God loves man, bit it never said God in love with men.

In fact, why God flooded the Earth was because fallen angels fell "in love" with women and had sex with them and produced giants.

So "love" is a principle we can live by. We can love anyone, male or female, younger old. Its unselfish, patience and forgiving.

To be "In love" is to have a romantic feeling for another. It's all about chemicals and feelings. It could be selfish and often associated with lust.

So yes, he can "love" you but not fall "in love" for you.

Answer 3

thomual | 58 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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Of course. The problem is with the word, "love". In English we only have one word to describe 3-7 different things. LOVE has many meanings, and its impossible to communicate without explaination. However, "in-love" refers specifically to an emotional feeling and chemical dependency. And this is what he is referring to.

The feeling can come and go. Which most English speakers dont understand. Emotions can be manipulated and nurtured. However it is difficult if the feeling was never there in the first place. Good luck getting him to understand that concept. 😅

Answer 4

Mexicvn

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Yes it's possible. You can love someone for being them. But being IN love is different, in sense of you cannot live without that person, and your deep feelings towards them make you feel so loved. If that makes sense? Its kind of like that saying "I'll never need you, but I will forever WANT you".

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How does being IN LOVE differ from a relationship that's based on sex, leftist politics and hanging out/posting relationship pics on facebook or whatsapp?
Mexicvn

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I think it's more so, he likes the idea of loving you. Being in love is more than just the stuff you mentioned. Being in love is like owning a dog. It drives you crazy sometimes, they makes messes, they are lazy at times. But at the same time, the dog will never stop loving you when you're down, upset, happy, ecstatic. The dog is so loyal to you no matter what. Who is always happy to see you, who takes your breath away everytime you see them. That to me, is being in love.
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If someone is in a relationship like this would you think its love? Especially since the guy is Jewish and part Israeli but the girl believes in Israel's destruction and is a fan of leaders who are antisemitic. The girl also shows no inclination of having any support for his Jewish religion and whatever he does but likes a ton of pages SHE IS PASSIONATE about.
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Helloo?

Answer 5

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How does being IN LOVE differ from a relationship that's based on sex, leftist politics and hanging out/posting relationship pics on facebook or whatsapp?

Answer 6

Mexicvn

I think it's more so, he likes the idea of loving you. Being in love is more than just the stuff you mentioned. Being in love is like owning a dog. It drives you crazy sometimes, they makes messes, they are lazy at times. But at the same time, the dog will never stop loving you when you're down, upset, happy, ecstatic. The dog is so loyal to you no matter what. Who is always happy to see you, who takes your breath away everytime you see them. That to me, is being in love.

Answer 7

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If someone is in a relationship like this would you think its love? Especially since the guy is Jewish and part Israeli but the girl believes in Israel's destruction and is a fan of leaders who are antisemitic. The girl also shows no inclination of having any support for his Jewish religion and whatever he does but likes a ton of pages SHE IS PASSIONATE about.

Answer 8

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Helloo?

Answer 9

Purpleronnie | 381 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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I’ve heard that statement banded about before and to be honest literally speaking I don’t think it is possible but what I take it to mean is that I care very deeply about you but I’m not in love with you. It’s like anything that’s breakup language though isn’t it. In the end it’s just blah blah blah I don’t want to be with you anymore. Course it doesn’t feel like that at the time and I don’t mean to be unsympathetic, it’s just a really bad attempt at letting a person down gently

Answer 10

vedgtn

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Yes, love for a person does not necessarily encompass being what is called "in love" with them. Which is a nebulous term, I'll grant, but you can always ask the person what they mean.

Answer 11

loveslongnails | 3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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Have you asked the person who said it for a definition, or what the difference is, according to them? I'd be really curious to hear it.

Answer 12

-alexander_delarge-

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That means 'he loves you but he doesn't want to take responsibility.

I love you but I'm not "in love" with YOU?

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