Had sex on the first date, now he wants me to sleep over on the 2nd date? is it a booty call?

[Anonymous]

I've had sex with girls on the first/second date and have stayed with them. Including my girlfriend of 7 years who I'm still with now. I'll explain to you the reason why, because I think that people here are telling you things that will only fuck it up.

It doesn't necessarily mean that you're a booty call. If I knew that all I wanted with a girl was something casual, the last thing I'd tell her was that I really liked her. I wouldn't want her to get the wrong idea and try to pressure me into a relationship. I'm not saying that this is definitely the case for him, but that's why I think that it's likely not to be that.

I wouldn't advise sleeping with a guy early most of the time, but you already have. jgirl99 says that if you want to spend the night don't have sex with him. I know that for me, that would be enough for me not to bother meeting the girl again. In fact some did try that and I never saw them again. Acting that way is ok before you have sex to make sure that he isn't only in it for the sex. It's no good afterwards.

The girls who I decided to stay with, it wasn't because they made me wait for sex. That's a failing strategy that only attracts guys who struggle to get laid, whose only strategy to get laid is to convince a girl that he wants to be her boyfriend. If this guy can get laid easily elsewhere, there's no point doing that anyway. If anything it makes getting laid more hard work than it's worth for him, and if he can get laid elsewhere with less effort that's why it doesn't work for the woman. Those girls I never saw again, that's because I could get laid elsewhere easily without having to play that game and deal with that, especially since I knew I didn't see them as girlfriend material. That probably makes me sound like an asshole however I did tell them beforehand too, there was no trickery there. They just decided to try to play bait and switch. Didn't work.

What makes such a guy choose a girl is just her, her personality, the way she acts. That's why I'd choose to get into a relationship with a girl. These girls would usually just do something nice for me, like cook me a meal on the second date in reciprocation for me taking them out in the first. Little things like that are what made the difference. Not trying to play hard to get. So if you're aiming for a relationship with the guy, I'd go against the advice here and try that.

[bklynbadboy1]

Listen I have to be honest with you at this point your a booty call you have to be careful what you do on your first date cause that first date is gonna determine what he expects of you. You sleep with him on the first date that's a door that once you open it you can't close now he expects sex from you and he's probably not gonna make you anything else other than a booty call. I'm not saying you can't flip it but you have to be very careful what you do from this point on. Inbox me if you need more advice

[spuitkaas]

Why would you wait for a guy you don't know till midnight. Is that really what you want? You should set your standards straight and don't do stuff so he will like you.
Say something like 'I like how you' re trying to make time for me, but I don't want to come over at midnight. I'd rather be taken out on another date another time'.
Don't cut your needs short.

[Porcelaine]

A booty call is when you come over for sex only. It could simply be another date, a nice evening that ends in sex. If you don't like the idea of him expecting sex everytime you see eachother from now on and feel things have moved too fast, just tell him you'd like to slow down a bit and get to know eachother before you go back to that

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I don't think you're gonna have a solid answer until after you've been on a few more dates. You can either fuck him or confront him about how you feel and let him know things need to slow down.

Personally every serious relationship I ever had started out in my eyes at least as a casual thing. And they were all good ones.

[AndyOh]

Well, if all you do is wait for him to come home and have sex... yup, a booty call.
If you two start doing things together, go out, have real dates, see shows, travel, etc., then yes he does like you and wants a relationship.
See how the next week or so goes.
Good luck.

[PrimalInstinct]

Course it's a booty call. Why should he bother himself with a real date or anything else when he already thinks you're "easy"?

Never understand women (or occasionally men) who complain when this happens. If you're dull enough to act a certain way you really shouldn't be surprised when the person treats you a certain way.

[honestGUY45]

I don't know this situation other than what you described but I would think it's a booty call. If he slept with you on the 1st date, who's to say he's not sleeping with anyone else when he's out of town or 'banking' till midnight. Banking work till midnight? Not saying there's no such position but what would that be other than security guard? Either way, everyone is different. There are some guys out there that are genuine and honest and this may be the case.

[Pipeliner87]

huh... Hard to say, first time sex it's pretty much well... Now you dont have any medium to base his feelings off of. Booty call or you going to do it just to entice him to like you? Women give their bodies up to men who in hopes will love them. When they love the pussy not the woman.

[PapaD]

If you have doubts about what he is telling you than that’s a trust issue. If that’s the case than I would say don’t do it for that reason.
My opinion is that there should be trust before anything else because without that you will always have doubt and that takes all the fun out of it right?

[LeoTheCar]

Could go either way. Just be safe and don't let yourself get hurt. I would love if a girl came over just to eat dinner, watch a movie, and then sleep for the night even if we didn't have sex.

[Rob19777]

Omfg dont confuse love with sex. He's just using you for a booty call and nothing more. And his business trip he's flying out to do business AND fuck some other girl while he's there. Then he'll come back home and call you up acting like nothing's happened and will either want you to come over to his place for sex or to meet up for sex

[Shamalien]

da na da DA DA DA !

Youuuuuu're a stupid cumdumpster, yes OH yes you are!

Youuuuuu're gunna mop up all that jizz at master's beck and call!

And once those balls are nice and dry after a few years of abuse!

He'll drive you off and dump you home right on your lonely kaboose!

OHHHHHH you'll be a lovely emotional wreck, a real confident gal! (I'm kidding)

Youuuu'll take that baggage and run to the bar and DO IT ALL AGAIN, OHHHHH, BAGGAGE, FOR EVERY MAN!

[loveslongnails]

I wouldn't do it. Too much, too soon. What's in it for you? Late night sex with a tired guy who has expressed he "reallllllly likes you"? If that's true, he'll stick around.

[rjroy3]

He may be more romantic about it and break out the wine and what not. But yes, it's a booty call

[0112358]

Normally I'd say yes, but given his career and schedule, it's plausible that it's not.

[Daniela1982]

Seems like you already set the precedent for having sex on the first date. You can't change it now and ask "What kind of a girl do you think I am?" He will tell you that we have already established that, now we are haggling over frequency.

[DonCachondo]

Who cares? If you like having sex with him, feel free to continue having sex with him. If you don't like having sex with him, nobody can make you have sex with him.

[jgirl99]

I think it probably is. If u wanna spend the night don't sleep with him

[OlderAndWiser]

1. You fucked him on the first date. What are the odds on what he expects?

2. Bankers do not work until midnight.

3. Yes, you have made yourself a booty call.

[Insightfull]

No. That's a good sign. Do it.
He likes you.
He's trying to make time for you.

[chriscdi]

probably, just do it if you want and avoid it if you dont 🤷🏻‍♂️

[andy530]

It could be but if you talk about it and make your expectations and boundaries known it can be whatever you want it to be.

[Usernamesrdumb]

Um. If he didn’t want to sleep over after sex, would you consider it a one night stand? Its a self defeating question.

[Twalli]

It could be since you had sex so early. It's impossible to tell.

[Liam_Hayden]

Yes, it's a booty call. You put out on the first date, so this is what you should expect.

[bamesjond0069]

Whenever you have sex on the first date its usually a booty call. Sorry. Men dont respect sluts.

[Plitty-Tank]

If he knows you desire premarital sex, then he will keep coming to you.

[meesegoMoo]

It's definitely a booty-call. You just have to decide if that's fine with you.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you are the mistress and he has a family in another house lol. I've heard this happen to many ladies

[Anonymous]

That the mistake he probably doesn’t take you seriously. Especially on the first date and action does speak louder then you say.

[donrengle]

No. If it were a booty call, he wouldn't need you to spend the whole night.

[KrakenAttackin]

I was a banker for six years, I never got home at midnight unless I was out drinking with the troops.

[Cassie094]

You action says different.

[Lunatic1]

It depends on how he reacts to being turned down.

[BasicBad]

Who cares you are already a loose slut

[Dr_Latex_McPeggin]

It’s a Boooooooooty Call...

[wildirisheart66]

Sounds like good hook up a lot of attraction

[SweetDisaster]

Yes a bootie call.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[COMMODOREII]

It could be.

[EleanorRigby]

He 100% does.