Guys, how physically affectionate are you with your SO?

Question

I’m curious to know how physically affectionate you are with your SO. Curious because I find my boyfriend (25) only touches me when he’s horny and turned on. Other than that we don’t snuggle, we don’t touch, other than a quick peck we don’t kiss much either. Am I dreaming wanting a man who wants to grab my ass when he walks by me while I’m cooking dinner or just come up behind me and hug me some of the time? Obviously not expecting this all of the time but I almost feel like he’s not attracted to me sometimes.

So how often do you find yourself needing to touch or wanting to touch your SO?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I give my SO extensive naked physical therapy almost every day. Non-sexual intimacy is as common as the sunrise. I cup and caress her boobs every time during my "boobie breaks". I do it because she likes it and so do I.
I give my SO oral sex and massage/fingering on every sexual occasion. Not just quick rub and jab, a thorough deep erotic massage to all the hot spots.
We cuddle extensively around sex and therapy.
... But I'm not much of a kisser other than Down Under. Ya can't have everything.

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

Ah, the unrealistic expectations. Will always do you in.

Guys get with girls hoping they'll never change.
Girls get with guys thinking if they bug the shit out of them hard enough and long enough she might turn into someone she can stand to be with.

ushagomez · Accepted Answer

Oh we are very tactile. We love to hold and touch when together.

AndyOh · Answer

I, like you, am a 'touchy feely' kind of guy. I like to hold hands, snuggle on the couch; Come up behind my gal and give her a hug and a kiss on the neck. Grab her ass now and then. Even palm her boobs when I can. How about fall asleep in each others arms?

In your case, your guy seems to think that he will touch you only when its time for sex. So you can try and get him to be more touchy, or realize that this is how it is going to be and he ain't going to change.
Good luck.

boggboss · Answer

People are differnt some are vary much affectionate others are not simply talk to him about it but it's not inherently reflect how he sees u

0112358 · Answer

I used to be really affectionate but gave up. But I've always been more affectionate than my partners. Ideally, I want tons, both purely warm, playful like the ass grab, and when horny. Lots of all three.

oldguystillhasit · Answer

A lot more now as we got older. We don't have sex as often as we used to maybe twice a week. After her menopause penetration is difficult for her most of the time when we do have sex it is mostly oral or hand. We still however slap each other on the ass. She still likes a good spanking. We cuddle a lot give each other massages. We still role play.

Coolflow9 · Answer

Physical touch is the most important to me in my relationship with my girlfriend, so we are constantly showing affection at home through flirty touching, cuddling, etc. In public we pretty much hold hands everywhere we go, but that is just us and we match up very well. Not everyone is as "touchy" so to speak.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I'm very tactile, too much maybe. Always hugging, kissing, generally keeping contact most of the time

BillieJean1070 · Answer

We hug, hold hands, give quick kisses a lot.

LeoTheCar · Answer

Look up/research love language. Some prefer to express love by touch, or by acts, or by words, or by gifts, or quality time. The way someone prefers to express their affection isn't always the same as the way they like to receive. If you talk to your partner and let them know what you want they should be accommodating.

worldscolide · Answer

My wife and I cuddle for a few hours after I get off of work.. We both love the closeness. We hold hands all the time in public..

dudeinohio · Answer

I'm very physically affectionate

JamesBlackDragon · Answer

A lot mostly because I know she's what I categorize as a physical lover meaning she needs physical contact to believe that I love her so i mainly do it for her but i also like doing it