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Why do some guys avidly ask how many times did you cum *sigh*?

My ex faithfully asked after Every time how many times did you cum and it was annoying because sometimes I didn’t and sometimes I did and he should be able to pick up on that. It’s really not that hard. He’d get mad when I didn’t tell him how many times because I honestly didn’t want to hurt his feelings. He didn’t really know how to please me which is why I’d do it myself half the time. I’ve told him what I liked and stuff but he took things too personal so I ended it because I can’t have sucky sex then on top of it you get offended when I communicate what may work better... nope. He bite my clit by accident if that helps to understand why he needs to take some advice.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I think he's wanting to know how many times because he is trying to grade himself on how great he may be at sex. Wanting to know that, if you give him pointers on what he may be doing wrong that works against him thinking he's great in his own mind. He may not be intrested in improving for you as much as intrested in his score count. Maybe his priorities are out of whack and he lacks the experience or skill because no one else tried to point him in the right direction before you.

  • Girls are fucking weird. You're all different. This one girl I used to fuck would cum so hard, that you could feel the discharge against your dick and it felt CRAZY

    Most girls it's pretty easy to tell because the muscles kinda convulse or some girls will practically have a seizure lol

    But my last girlfriend it was so hard to tell because she always looked like she came and she either didn't or she only "sorta" had an orgasm

Most Helpful Girls

  • Because he apparently doesn't know you well enough so that he can notice himself when you're having an orgasm. And when he is hurt and gets mad when you tell him you didn't came, that's not your problem. I mean, shouldn't sex be enjoyable for both? It only means you guys need to change things so that you will also get your orgasm.

    • We ended it he’s not willing to listen so I’m not willing to stay

    • I understand. Best of luck to you. I hope you’ll find someone better 😊👍

  • Some guys dont really have a clue. You should tell him its rude to ask.

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  • "Why do some guys avidly ask how many times did you cum *sigh*?"

    Because he cares.

    My boss told me a joke a few days ago:

    Boss: How can you tell if a girl has an orgasm?
    Me: I don't know, how can you tell?
    Boss: Who gives a shit? LOL

    I guess you're damned if you do and damned if you don't...

  • insecurity

    • Lol That not why

  • I don't have to ask. I know

  • If i was going go ask the question at all i would probably just ask did you cum not the amount you came. I just care that you did cum at all and if you didn't then i got some more work to do lol

  • You're dealing with BOYZ. They're pretty much lost yet. ;)
    Just explain that you love what you have and to just leave it at that. And if you don't, show and tell what you DO need. This is how adults communicate their needs and wants.

  • Some form of validation

  • He was concerned

    • No he wasn’t it was him keeping score if I didn’t pass the number say 2 from last night he got annoyed it’s not really a game.

    • No hun, he was concerned

    • Well I don’t like how he wasn’t listening to me

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  • Well if the asking they have no idea if given one i spose

  • Some guys ask. thay cause there unsure and some guys ask that cause the want to please you I ask cause I want to be that best and I'm constantly looking for was to make the experience better for my partner

  • He bite your clit? A soft bite wouldn't do any harm...

  • Jesus, he should certainly know how many times you were cumming. Move on to someone else!

  • Often it is hard for a guy to know for sure if a woman has came. It’s not as easy to tell like when a guy blows a load, and the fact that women can have multiple, plays into the part a little harder.

  • I trained my girlfriend to say a certain phrase when she has an orgasm but that's because we do BDSM things and sometimes I make her hold it until she can't and then she just blows up and go crazy

  • Why doesn't your boyfriend only have sex with you twice a month and wants you to have sex with another guy but gets angry when you do sex the other guy

    • What?

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