Wife wants Wife wants to spice up sex life. What do you think would be a better option threesomes or open relationship?

[Anonymous]

[englisc]

If your wife is looking for new dick as you say, your marriage is dead. A woman who genuinely respects you, which is linked to how attracted to you she is, will not want other men. In fact you've already fucked up even further by simply accepting it and allowing her to cuck you. Now she think you're a pussy.

You might reject what I'm saying here, and many others have, but I've seen this happen multiple times. Rarely does it work out. You might argue that it's not a cuckold thing, but you've already said that you're not gonna have sex with other women. You might say that it's about threesomes, but it's all about her getting new dick. It's the same thing.

One guy used to post here all the time about being a cuckold, letting his wife get banged by other men, claiming that it showed how secure he was in his masculinity. I told him that it would fuck up and that she'd lose respect for him, he didn't listen.

Over time, I noticed that he changed his tune. He didn't back off on the cuckold thing, but he started to complain that his wife wasn't having much sex with him anymore. She was always "too tired" or she had a headache or something. That's what happens.

Other women, if you do a search, you'll see will talk about their experiences with this too. They'll openly say that eventually while they loved their husbands they lost attraction to them and started to see them more like brothers. That's what happens when they stay. Other times they just up and leave with one of the new guys.

[Asker]

Yes, you're right. Basically she will be cuckolding me.

[AustinMan]

Neither. What have you tried so far? Group sex is really fraught with emotional and relational peril.

[Emily_R]

Threesome for sure. It would mean that you are there too which should be better than jumping straight into an open relationship. If you have one you can see how you feel about it and then decide if you want to do more.

[Asker]

Yeah on what's a threesome I would could still be involved some what then. I don't plan on having sex with any other women.

[Emily_R]

Well if you're comfortable with it you can try a MFM threesome and go from there.

[Asker]

Yeah, I'd be fine with that. And she said there's no way that she would ever do a fmf only mfm

[Emily_R]

Then there you go :)

[Asker]

I mean the more I think about it actually kind of turned on thinking about her getting it from someone else.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Try BDSM, roleplaying, toys etc?

[Asker]

Ya but she also wants some new dick

[Warmapplecrumble]

Try wearing a strap on on something 😂

[Asker]

Ya but that's not the same

[Warmapplecrumble]

What if new guy has similar or same penis as you 🤣😂😅

[Asker]

I think she'd want something a little bigger.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Why did she tell you?

[Asker]

Ya she did

[Warmapplecrumble]

Try different positions where it goes deeper

[Asker]

A lot of the problem is I have erection problems.

[Warmapplecrumble]

You should go to the doctor. They will check your blood work and do semen analysis. This will help you.

[Asker]

I've tried Viagra, but it didn't really do anything.

[Warmapplecrumble]

They should check your testosterone levels and sperm count. It could be many things like maybe a deficiency in a vitamin or being too slim or big etc etc. You should go to another doctor if Viagra is the only option they gave you.

[Asker]

Yeah, maybe but I figured I'd still just let her do what she wants until I get it figured out.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Maybe take her to a toy store and let her explore some other things. And you could spice things up with oral and toy play while youfigure things out? Seems more healthy to me.

[Asker]

I don't know maybe but she hasn't gotten good hard dick in a long time and she deserves it.

[Warmapplecrumble]

I suggest not involving other people and maybe checking out forums and the negatives of this situation. You shouldn't jump into fires like that. I'm sure your situation will improve.

[Asker]

I think it should work out fine. I'm not really the jealous type.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Alright but think about what the negative consequences could be.

[Asker]

I mean, yes, there is some negative that could come from it, but they're all souls are some good.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Alrighty 😊

[Asker]

I know it may sound weird, but I actually want her to do it.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Alright then just stay safe

[Warmapplecrumble]

Thanks for MHO 😊

[CapricornHoney]

I would think a threesome would be the appropriate option here. She said she wants to spice up your sex life, not change the dynamic of the relationship.

[Asker]

I think she just wants to have sex with other guys.

[spartan55]

Neither, try the Lifestyle.

[iamdesperate]

Both options are open, it depends upon you.

[Asker]

Probably threesome, so then I can be involved to

[iamdesperate]

To start with, it is good.

[Asker]

If you ever done one

[iamdesperate]

3some only.

[boggboss]

Depends on what u want

[TadCurious]

So this is a same sex marriage ("Wife wants Wife to spice up sex life.") Maybe if the second wife agrees they could bring another woman into the relationship to have 3-way lesbian sex.

[Asker]

Oops, I don't know why it said wife wants twice.

[Anpu23]

Both will kill your relationship. I have yet to have a relationship survive any form of multiple.

[Browneye57]

She's bored as fuck man, and she's getting ready to bolt.
BOTH will implode your relationship. I guarantee it.

You need a man makeover and up your game, or she's gonna dump your sorry ass.

[VictorBhere]

Why does it have to be something disgusting?

[bangyourhead]

Neither. You're asking for trouble with that.

[Twalli]

Threesomes, between the two

[ultimatecatfish]

Threesome or get her a gangbang

[Kriskringle69]

Um tryin this as well... but not tge open marriage just 3 way... depends on how much trust u have..

[Anonymous]

Like someone else said it's whatever your more comfortable with, tbh if your not comfortable with either than you shouldn't

[Anonymous]

Whatever you both are comfortable with.
If either of have problem with sharing than it could lead to some serious trouble in that case try any other method there are many trust me.

[Anonymous]

Go for the threesomes. Make it a team sport. If you each go off on your own, one of you might not come back.

[SandyStormy]

Do you think that threesomes can also be playing with fire?

[Asker]

@SandyStormy Yeah, but at least then I'd be involved instead of her doing things on her own.

[SandyStormy]

Yes, that seems like the lesser of the two evils.

[Opinion Owner]

@SandyStormy Yes, but with a lot of communication, threesomes don't have to have an unhappy ending. Just set a lot of rules and then abide by them.

[SandyStormy]

What rules?

[Opinion Owner]

@SandyStormy If it's a MFM, then what is the F allowed to do with the other M? If it's a FMF, then what is the M allowed to do with the other F? It can't just be a free for all, or you're going to ruin the whole thing.

[Anonymous]

Start with 3some for a couple of times. If she still wants more spicy sex, go for open relationship. (my own experience with wife, she is now happy and in fact more adventurous in sex with me).

[Asker]

Yeah, and if we do a threesome at least then I'll be involved. Because I do not plan on having sex with any other women.

[Opinion Owner]

You must be one of the guys to feel and encourage your wife. It will boost up her confidence, enabling her to show vigor and adventure.

[Asker]

Encourage her how

[Opinion Owner]

Your involvement will itself be encouraging as she plays with open mind without any inhibition and reservation.

[Asker]

Okay, I'll I'm actually getting kind of excited thinking about her getting it from someone else.

[Opinion Owner]

In case you don't want to involve yourself, sit and watch.

[Asker]

Yeah, that's pretty much what I plan on doing.

[Opinion Owner]

It's good idea as watching your wife to have sex with other (guy or girl) enlighten you what does she desire in sex.