Why won't she just admit that she's bisexual too?

[CamilaP]

Last week I went to a friend's house to do our homework and we ended up making out on her bed after a while (don't worry, we finished the homework first). We had already kissed a couple of times before, so it wasn't something out of nowhere. I'm pretty sure she was very much into it, I was too.

Yesterday we were talking to our friends about boys, love, etc. Everyone knows I'm bisexual, when the conversation moved towards 'are you attracted to other girls?' I was pretty sure she'd admit that she was bisexual too, instead she said she's "100% straight".

Why would she lie like that? I don't think it's because of her parents, they're really nice. Very liberal and not religious either. It can't be fear of discrimination, our country doesn't really have that. It's not a big deal but I just wish she'd be more honest about her sexuality.

[Jackelray]

You gotta remember that it’s hard for some people to come out. People have to do it in their own time. It could be fear of not being accepted, or just of being seen differently.
Also just because she made out with you doesn’t necessarily mean she identifies as bisexual. She might still think of herself as straight and just see the kissing you as experimentation. Now that doesn’t necessarily mean she is straight but maybe she’s figuring it out. There is also a possibility that she’s not sure she’s straight or bi or gay.
I know that when she said that it was probably hurtful to you it may be even seems like a rejection of you or your sexuality.
But it’s almost certainly not about you in this situation, it’s a very personal thing and a difficult thing to figure out your sexuality let alone announce it to people.
My advice is not to push too hard with it, if she is into girls like you think you might be then shell figure it out, if she’s into you she’ll figure it out. Do keep in mind that it is possible that she is straight and still enjoyed kissing you. Just because she enjoyed kissing a girl doesn’t mean she wants to take that further.

But either way pushing her before she’s ready will probably just push her away, if you are hoping that she is interested in you physically better to play it by ear. More than likely these make out sessions will continue and may blossom into something more,

[CamilaP]

we didn't have sex, but we've done way more than just kissing

[Jackelray]

Ah fair enough I miss understood. Most of what I said I’ll still stand by man. I had a mate who did a lot of stuff with guys and when we talked to him about it he still claimed to be straight, now you could argue he was lying to himself but hey who can say. I imagine it would be pretty hurtful after you guys doing more than kissing. I mean if you haven’t already you could talk to her about it. Maybe she’s just not willing to make that sort of her public yet. My buddy John said he was bi for like 5 years before he was confident enough to admit he was gay, that seems like a fine line but he felt he needed to be thought of as finding women attractive to be a man, people are complicated man. I hope it works out

[Anonymous]

If she was really bi, she'd have made out with you before finishing the homework.

Eh, in all seriousness, it's possible she's in denial, also possible, and I have spoken to women like this, she likes the idea of kissing a girl, but dislikes the idea of some other sex acts with women. It's also possible that she finds it neat to kiss a girl, but doesn't get crushes on girls.

[CamilaP]

we didn't have sex but we touched each other in a very sexual way, it was way more than just kissing

[pineapple_999]

She's probably either needing time to come to terms with her sexuality, or she's experimenting. Don't try and force her to come out if she is actually bisexual, because that will get you nowhere and she might become distant.

[Agape93]

She may not know, she’s still young. Probably just experimenting.

[TJFreshman22]

She's probably shy or doesn't want to be judged for some strange reason. Personally I wouldn't care if someone was gay, straight, or bi at all. It's all good

[cntrytbm]

As others have said, it may just be hard for her to come to terms with who she is, she may be experimenting and currently confused, or she just might really like kissing you! I touch the guys dick once and enjoyed it, but it actually does not make me buy. I don't like guys, I would never kiss a guy, I would never have anal sex with a guy but we were all sitting on the couch with his wife and my girlfriend and they encouraged me to so I did it and I did not mind it at all. It was a curiosity thing, not the start of a new lifestyle.

[itsmeamy]

I dont consider myself bisexual but i do want to try being with a girl at least once

[yofuknutz]

Just leave it ALONE, let things play out.

[I_love_Jaguar]

Something better to be secret otherwise people start judging you and question your personality

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Lot of girls say they're straight despite getting off with other girls. There's no logic to it

[brigfrey25]

She can be straight while still having fun with you. ✌️

[dublin_sexyeyes0]

Maybe she has an internal battle happening with herself. Or she could be simply enjoy being physically sexual with you but wouldn't date a girl. I see bisexual as youd not only sleep with same sex but also have a proper full on relationship too. Maybe she enjoys the physical side but thats all

[chriscdi]

maybe she is crazy and considers herself straight

[Rippersavage]

Maybe she's not ready to come out
Maybe there r other things in the background that u don't know about making her hesitant
Maybe she doesn't consider herself bi and she was just experimenting

[dthomas89]

Because you can't just say who someone is. You don't know that at all

[DreamCatchcer]

Did you actually have sex that day?

[Rob19777]

Because she's not comfortable with coming out with her sexuality yet and you can't force or push someone to come out when they're not ready yet for other people to know

[howlinsilently]

Maybe she likes to be private, she is still in curious phase. There is the possibility that you are bad lover and sent her str8. Lol. Have not met many wimen who could love, some that wouldn't. Everyone has right to privacy, give her a chance. Xx

[HeadCase1]

Just be there for her. Tell if she is straight or Bi it doesn't really matter. If she was comfortable to fool around with you would you be willing to give her an option of having sex with you? Maybe that will help her understand what she is.

Whatever you talk about or do sexually keep between the two of you. I never tell people about who I had sex with. Sex is between two people. No one needs to know about it.

You sound like a good friend.

[COMMODOREII]

She could be just curious.

[Twalli]

Maybe she doesn't see what you did as a homosexual act. Maybe she's ashamed of her homosexual feelings. Maybe she is just experimenting with you.

[Meatboy02]

The biggest thing is just that it's more difficult for people to come out than others honestly

[NightOwl8801]

She's either too shy and or embarrassed to admit that she is bisexual or is just trying to explore her sexuality...
Give her time , talk with her and I'm sure she'll open up to you

[bklynbadboy1]

Honestly your young but you pretty sure about what you sexual preference is but some people aren't strong enough to admit something like that and some people have an experience with girls and be like okay that was nice and never do it again for some people it's just a phase they go through