My boyfriend wants to take sexual relationship slow , what does that mean and when is the right time?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone, my boyfriend and I used to be best friends for about 3 years and after that we decided to date. Everything is phenomenal and I'm very happy with him but, in our sexual relationship we sleep with each other but there is just foreplay and no intercourse. In the first month of our relationship he asked me if I'm ok with proper sex and I said we should wait until we feel comfortable and committed. He accepted and said I would not do anything that you don't like. It has been 6 months and I asked him if he wants to have intercourse then he replied "are you sure" and I said I don't know but I want to , and he said we can wait a little bit more there is no rush. Although, I really want to have sex with him but I don't know when is the right time and how to ask him AGAIN and why he is not approaching!!! PS: I'm virgin so sometimes I think maybe he is afraid and doesn't want to be in a committed relationship Or he is scared of losing me.

[abc3643]

You wrote:
" It has been 6 months and I asked him if he wants to have intercourse then he replied "are you sure" and I said ____I don't know____ but I want to , and he said we can wait a little bit more there is no rush. Although, I really want to have sex with him but ____I don't know when is the right time____"

The right time is when you KNOW it is the right time - you will not have any doubts. Believe me on this.

When the time comes, fondle his genitals - you don't need to talk at all - and it will just happen.

You have a very very good boyfriend.
He's a keeper and I am saying that as if I was your father.
He's doing what I did.

[774hejd23r]

There might be other issues at play here, but regardless, everyone has a different speed they open up, especially intimately. Now, let's think about the rest of the relationship. Is it mostly platonic? More friend than lover? He may simply not be ready for that move yet. There will be a point where you have to ask yourself what you want in a relationship. If you need intimacy in the form of physical affection and sexual contact, the odds are when he is ready it may be too late for you. 6 months is a long time to abstain for two healthy young adults depending on your culture.

[Anonymous]

he's keeping his options open at this stage in a polite and respectful way, you're good enough for him to be with you but he feels it is possible to get more from a relationship with someone else but if he doesn't find that person he's happy to settle with you. I'm not exactly sure of both your situations or what it is he wants out of a relationship but he needs to talk to you about what he wants out of a relationship and you need to ask yourself if your goals are inline or you're willing to compromise or whether to just leave him

[Opinion Owner]

He could possibly be a virgin, and thats ok. Need to lose it someday and you could help him with this

[Opinion Owner]

Does he know you're a virgin? Maybe he assumes you're not and is embarrassed that he is lol sounds like me when i was 17, anyway it sounds like you both need to sit down and have a chat.