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My girlfriend of 10 years knows I like the idea of anal, she won't put out, am I wrong to keep asking?

She got the tip in and said it felt like she wanted to poop, so won't try again. What can I do ha? 😅 Will the sensation change?
My girlfriend of 10 years knows I like the idea of anal, she wont put out, am I wrong to keep asking?
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  • Probably not. Some fun stats...
    About 75-80% of long term couples try this.
    About 35% of women will tolerate it occasionally.
    About 10-15% like it and do it frequently.
    About half of guys like it, the other half thinks it's gross.
    It can be messy. It is not for casual encounters. If it hurts you're doing it wrong.

    It can be an acquired taste - there are a bazillion never endings there and once associated with pleasure can produce giant orgasms, especially with simultaneous and direct clitoral stimulation. Some women simply think it's dirty.

    Consider assessing whether the rest of your sexual relationship together is satisfying, and whether it's worth losing all of it for another hole.

    If you have a really big dick you're probly never getting any butt-sex.
    :)

    • I personally don't see any value to anal sex myself. What point is there in it? I want to procreate myself! "Go forth and procreate", as it says somewhere in the Bible (No, I haven't memorized bible verses to any sizable extent -- I know the Bible encourages procreation nonetheless!)

    • @1828ToastyTimothy - Humans are one of the few species that have sex for 'fun'. :)

  • Dude, she has been with you for 10 years. She tried it and said "no." It really doesn't matter if she is "just afraid," you know it won't hurt, etc. She made a decision. If you don't respect that, she needs to find a guy whose primary goal in life is not to fuck her in the ass.

    • I'll point you to the same answer I've given to Agape93, what are your thoughts?

    • You agreed to do something that you really don't want to do; what could possibly go wrong with that plan? And because you agreed to do something that you don't want to do, she should do the same. Are you building a relationship or a business deal?

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  • Some people don't want to take the risk even of causing damage to the area. . It might not be a high risk but there is a small risk plus the whole bacteria thing. There are two other holes that are completely fine for sex so don't pressure her. Maybe there is something else she would be willing to do instead. I mean even 25% of gay men never do anal sex so she's isn't alone.

    • Every type of sex has risks. The risks of anal are virtually nonexistent. I mean people get colonoscopies from 50 onward and those are safe. This isn't me just repeating something I read this is me repeating the words of a practicing doctor whose job is giving colonoscopies

    • @Twalli Anal has the highest risk for HIV for non monogamous people and gay men who engage in it. It has to do when tearing takes place. Colonoscopies are generally safe but tearing can happen to with it too.

    • I meant partners who haven't been tested. Shouldn't have said specifically non monogamous.

  • Respect her choice and stop asking

    • I'm not saying this to cause a reaction, but in our relationship I've always adheared not to get married. However she is constantly asking about marriage. Is it not the same? This is also a trend I've seen with my friends etc. Yes my request is more perverse but still valid, no?

    • If you don’t want marriage and she knows that, she should stop asking. Same concept, different topic. Valid or not, one needs to respect the choices of their partner.

    • So I've agreed to marry to make her happy. I love her and want her to be happy, is this not a similar choice?

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  • I’d get her used to plugs first. Once she’s done the plug or two for a few rounds then try anal. I’d also only do it on an empty stomach.

    • Done it at different times, never gotten shit on my dick.

  • Yes, you are. If you want "full service", go out and buy it. She is not your sexual servant.

    • I'll point you to the same answer I've given to Agape93, what are your thoughts? I'm after a life experience, would I be guilty if I did what you suggested? Yolo and all that.

    • The guy wanting anal or the girl wanting marriage have to decide if the relationship is sufficient without them. But I will say that wanting a life commitment and twanting to drive on the Hershey Highway do not have equal weight.

    • Not all offers are equivalent. If I was to put this in vulger terms, people do worse for less. As you've already mentioned by joking about full service work. Where do we draw the line, should I just stop asking and hope as someone has mentioned; if she changes her mind, she will let me know. Or do I continue my harmless pursuit. I both respect and challange decisions every day, how is this different? When did I loose my right to challange?

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  • You're not "wrong" to keep asking, just like she's not "wrong" to keep saying no if she really wants to. Now, it's a shame that she feels that way and perhaps there's a way you could talk to her about how important it is to you because we all want to be sexually satisfied, but hey if she keep refusing, then reconsider your attachment to her per how important sexual satisfaction is to you.

  • If she won't do it just drop it.

    • And the marriage reasoning is weak. You don't have to marry her as much as she doesn't have to let you take the dirt road home. Respect her right to say no and be satisfied with what you got

  • Dude, yes you're wrong. If she doesn't want it, give it up. It's not that important. Sex shouldn't be something you "learn to love" unless you really want to, and she obviously doesn't want to. I presume you're having enough other kinds of sex? Be happy with that.

  • Did you try something she suggested? If not, why push your idea on her? If you did agree to do something she suggested, is anal sex all that you wanna try out?

    • I can understand what you are passing through, I've been there. First, you have to be honest with yourself, otherwise, you will build resentment. She doesn't owe you anything, you don't owe her anything. A relationship should be reciprocal and if you don't feel it is, don't blame your partner for your bitterness. Life is 1 and soulmates are many.

  • Yes you are wrong to keep pushing the matter. If she doesn't like it she doesn't like it.

    I would imagine that if she changes her view on it, you would be the first to know.

    • An interesting thought however. you ask this question already knowing you shouldn't be demanding this. or you wouldn't be doing it anonymously.

    • I admit, it's quite an inflationary question, I knew the popular opinion, yes. But I like to see what people really think when I add a little more irl reasoning 😉

    • did you wonder why it would be considered inflammatory? thinking that through to conclusion would have given you the answer.

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  • you have to force her into it. your masculine behaviour will turn her on.

    • 😂 This might work for you.

    • That's called rape. And no, no-one 'has' to force anyone into anything. Choosing to makes you a bad person.

    • @Walrus_au We live in the MeToo age. All sex is rape.

  • If she doesn't like it with you because of that then there's little hope. You may not have made it feel comfortable for her when you were getting ready which might mean she was not in a good mindset for it. I did and it was such a positive experience for my girlfriend that we do it every day we're together.

  • This sensation is normal, but she has to let it in even if it hurts. I mean she has to pleasure you, or you can either force her.

  • Let her do you with a strapon first

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