I personally don't see any value to anal sex myself. What point is there in it? I want to procreate myself! "Go forth and procreate", as it says somewhere in the Bible (No, I haven't memorized bible verses to any sizable extent -- I know the Bible encourages procreation nonetheless!)
@1828ToastyTimothy - Humans are one of the few species that have sex for 'fun'. :)
I'll point you to the same answer I've given to Agape93, what are your thoughts?
You agreed to do something that you really don't want to do; what could possibly go wrong with that plan? And because you agreed to do something that you don't want to do, she should do the same. Are you building a relationship or a business deal?
Every type of sex has risks. The risks of anal are virtually nonexistent. I mean people get colonoscopies from 50 onward and those are safe.This isn't me just repeating something I read this is me repeating the words of a practicing doctor whose job is giving colonoscopies
@Twalli Anal has the highest risk for HIV for non monogamous people and gay men who engage in it. It has to do when tearing takes place. Colonoscopies are generally safe but tearing can happen to with it too.
I meant partners who haven't been tested. Shouldn't have said specifically non monogamous.
I'm not saying this to cause a reaction, but in our relationship I've always adheared not to get married. However she is constantly asking about marriage. Is it not the same? This is also a trend I've seen with my friends etc. Yes my request is more perverse but still valid, no?
If you don’t want marriage and she knows that, she should stop asking. Same concept, different topic. Valid or not, one needs to respect the choices of their partner.
So I've agreed to marry to make her happy. I love her and want her to be happy, is this not a similar choice?
You eventually agreed to it, meaning you altered your choice. But if she isn’t, then why do you push for something?
I would say my approach to the ring has been subtle in comparison to hers if I'm being fair 😂💍
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I'll point you to the same answer I've given to Agape93, what are your thoughts? I'm after a life experience, would I be guilty if I did what you suggested? Yolo and all that.
The guy wanting anal or the girl wanting marriage have to decide if the relationship is sufficient without them. But I will say that wanting a life commitment and twanting to drive on the Hershey Highway do not have equal weight.
Not all offers are equivalent. If I was to put this in vulger terms, people do worse for less. As you've already mentioned by joking about full service work. Where do we draw the line, should I just stop asking and hope as someone has mentioned; if she changes her mind, she will let me know. Or do I continue my harmless pursuit. I both respect and challange decisions every day, how is this different? When did I loose my right to challange?
As you mentioned, sorry*
Where do we draw the line, should I just stop asking and hope as someone has mentioned?*Yes, you should. She will not forget your request. She could change her mind generally or bite the bullet and let you do it on a special occasion like your birthday. You need not remind her. It creates unnecessary stress on your relationship.I both respect and challenge decisions every day, how is this different? Because this is an intimate relationship, not business where you might make some sort of deal on exchanges of value.When did I loose my right to challenge?*You never do but she has a "right" not to keep hearing it from you, consider it a growing nuisance if you keep "challenging" her and exercise her "right" to pull the plug on the relationship.
An interesting thought however. you ask this question already knowing you shouldn't be demanding this. or you wouldn't be doing it anonymously.
I admit, it's quite an inflationary question, I knew the popular opinion, yes. But I like to see what people really think when I add a little more irl reasoning 😉
did you wonder why it would be considered inflammatory? thinking that through to conclusion would have given you the answer.
I don't think the answer is clear actually, I would point you to the conversation with Dargil.
you think that makes it less clear?Assuming you did not hire this woman at a brothel or street corner under the contract of having anal, then it seems pretty clear to me where Dargil falls on this. How is it anything other?
I'm not saying his view is different from, I should stop respect her decision, his view his is his own, as is yours. But I'm not sure why I should stop asking the question? You vote this way or that, people make good and bad decisions. Views and opinions change, I don't see why I loose my right to curiosity.
I never suggested that. I was pointing out that the asking of the question anonymously shows that the asker knows the acceptable answer, and wants to trawl for either permission or justification to use another answer. Or to find those that see society in that way.
Done it at different times, never gotten shit on my dick.
I can understand what you are passing through, I've been there. First, you have to be honest with yourself, otherwise, you will build resentment. She doesn't owe you anything, you don't owe her anything. A relationship should be reciprocal and if you don't feel it is, don't blame your partner for your bitterness. Life is 1 and soulmates are many.
😂 This might work for you.
That's called rape. And no, no-one 'has' to force anyone into anything. Choosing to makes you a bad person.
@Walrus_au We live in the MeToo age. All sex is rape.
And the marriage reasoning is weak. You don't have to marry her as much as she doesn't have to let you take the dirt road home. Respect her right to say no and be satisfied with what you got
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