Why do guys never want to use condoms?

- Some are really needy in this, sure. Bot for myself, after some time I would like to be without condom (first sex with her is with a condom) in her as it is a very emotional thing for me. I showed it once to my now-ex-wife how the difference feels, it is way more personal and intimate to not use a condom and she agreed with me: tons of difference!
And to the physical feels, sure! A condom makes it feel numb while a wet pussy feels so very awesome on our penis.
So at first sex it clearly shows a lack of responsibility not wanting to use a condom but later on never. You trust each other and you know he won't let you down (I mean you, the question starter) when it comes to flushing out your pussy.0|00|0Is this still revelant? - Because sex is like this with a condom,,,,
... and like this without one.
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- Anonymous1 yI understand guys not wanting to use them because it feels better without. It’s why I’ve never made any serious boyfriend wear them. I want him to fully enjoy sex with me and we get tested first. However, I don’t understand how they go without during casual sex. You don’t know this person’s sexual history and could catch a disease. You don’t know if she is on birth control. Even if you pull out, pregnancy can still happen. It seems like they just go for the pleasure and worry about the consequences later.1|30|0Is this still revelant?
Yes, a single sperm is enough to make you pregnant. Unlikely to happen as it can die on the way but the fact is, that a single sperm cell is required, the rest sperm cells are an insurance policy for nature, that fertilizing does take place on a very high chance as it is critical for a species to survive.
I also don't understand how they even do it on porn or "casual sex", means ONS or so? STD seem no word to them.
- And my question to you lady is do you allow sex if a guy doesn't use a condom? After all it is your responsibility to have responsible sex so you don't get pregnant. Guys only have a one track mind and either don't think of the consequences if the girl gets pregnant or they want to pay child support for 18 years.1|00|1Is this still revelant?
Oh yes. I always have condoms on me. I suppose the only problem I've encountered is I've had men explicitly refuse to wear a condom. In which case, I obviously don't choose to have sex with that person. Because pregnancy isn't the only thing to fear with unsafe sex. I have to question their motive with so easily wanting and willing to have sex without protection
I'm very responsible when I don't use a condom because I do care for her not becoming pregnant, I go with her to shower and help flush her pussy a lot. Only and always a condom and especially on oral sex (anal is okay, it is very dirty in there, but not pussy), I will see that as a lack of trust in me. And I'm tested all negative on any major/common STD.
@roland77 Washing out the "pussy" as you so elegantly put it, does not assure that a pregnancy will not occur. All it takes is one speedy little tad pole to get to the egg first and call allie allie alls in free! So you are not being as responsible as you claim.
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@Daniela1982 I am acting responsible. First is always with condom, second coitus interruptus, already washing it out. And it did work. My then-girlfriend got not pregnant from me even when we had 4 times made love per day with no condom.
Using a condom feels a bit distant, while being in with no feels very close and intimate to her. I would definitely miss it one day. And as I said, I'm tested negative on all common STD. I photographed the test results for her so she can see them, not just my loose words to trust.
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1046- Of course it feels better without one. We know well what we have to do by wearing one, but that doesn't change the fact that having 'naked' intercourse still feels best for a man because his penis feels 'free.'0|10|0
- It's a huge difference for the man.0|00|0
- It does feel better but mostly it is I think because they are lazy and they don’t care about the risks.
Also some guys are worried of loosing their erection while putting the thing on.
I always a condom even in a relationship. I think the pill isn’t great for women’s bodies and unless my lover really wants to be on it I see no reason to be on it.
Frankly make the guy wear a condom, it isn’t that hard if he has an issue he can hit the road.0|00|0 - you'll never get a guy to wear a condom for a blowjob... I did give a blowjob to a guy wearing one and it's not a good experience... i'd rather suck him without one plus he can't cum in your mouth... coitus sex of course is essential that he wear one for obvious reasons as you can get pregnant if he cums inside.0|00|0
- for many guys. where a condom is kind of like. if a guy and a girl were only every to have sex fully clothed. by that I mean normal clothes you would wear daily. not just stuff you might happen to wear during sexual intercourse.
so it can often feel uncomfortable and not as sensitive for the guy in question.
plus in the heat of the moment a condom might be one of the last things the guy is thinking about. more so if it have been a while since he last had release or sex.0|00|0 - Yes, there is a tremendous sensation of her natural vagina features and there are none that fit so that is out for me. For some reason, every woman I have been with wanted it bare with my load in her and some were trying to get pregnant. These were some risky times. I was lucky to be with clean women too. Those days are past and I am with someone that I will not mind if she tells me she is.0|00|0
- Anonymous1 yI can feel the difference
When my partner and I started dating we always used condoms. Everyone should at first. To prevent STDs. When the relationship become serious and long-term, i started taking the pill, because we both didn't like the feel of condoms. Plus, when you're horny, it kills the mood having to stop to put a condom on lol0|00|0 - Feel better yes. Getting her pregnant is a thrill and usually she is on bc so its ok. I wouldn't come near a woman if i don't know her and trust her to be disease free. Using a condom is not bad either and if she prefers it i will use it. But if we both don't want to use one it is far better for both of us.0|00|0
- Have someone gently rub your shoulder with your shirt on. Now have them stick their hand under your shirt and rub your shoulder. Can you feel a difference? As far as a man worried about getting a woman pregnant or a disease, he feels much different after he has had an orgasm. A little regret? Before he has one, he'll do almost anything.0|00|0
- I feel a big difference. It's still not worth the risk of getting pregnant or catching a disease. Condoms are a must2|60|0
I would only consider not using a condom if in a monogamous relationship with both of us tested negative
Exactly the same here. It is a consideration done by both of us. :-) I could also catch some STD from her, not just she from me.
- Why do girls never want to use female condoms then? If you can't really feel all that big of a difference- just wear a pair of pants, with holes for both your holes, and a built-in condom stuffed up your vagina. If that sounds like a hassle, and like it'd be unenjoyable for you, what with your clit being completely taken out of action and all- welcome to our world...0|02|0
Our cockheads are the equivalent of your clits. That's where we get almost all of our pleasure and sensation from. And having to wear a condom, which completely covers and seals them off, hampers our pleasure no less than it would for you to have to wear a latex sticker completely covering and sealing off your clit, whilst getting fucked by the guy wearing the condom. Doesn't sound so pleasurable now, does it?
Why do I sense hostility? lol. I mean, I've never used a dental dam... it seems like It would definitely be somewhat of a hassle to shove latex or something up vaginal canal opposed to putting something over a shaft. Between a dental dam and a male condom, the male condom seems more user friendly. I mean, women primarily use birth control. But the use of a female condom hasn't even been taught in traditional sex ed classes let alone widely publicized either. I'm a grown woman, and I have NO idea how to use a dental dam, but I know how men can properly put on a condom.
Because we’re already the ones doing everything else, we’re the ones that have to be careful we don’t get pregnant, we’re the ones that have to have weird shit literally inserted into our bodies as birth control which doesn’t always work, the LEAST y’all can do is wear a condom lmfao
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Neither does pregnancy to a woman so consider yourself trumped. Would you rather have less feeling or pay out $1,000 a month for 18 years for the privilege?
@Daniela1982 Oh, so you're one of those women who gets pregnant just for the child benefit payments then? No surprises there...
@AmourHoney "we’re already the ones doing everything else"- like what? "we’re the ones that have to be careful we don’t get pregnant, we’re the ones that have to have weird shit literally inserted into our bodies as birth control which doesn’t always work"- no, you're the ones who CHOOSE whether or not to do these things. You don't "have to have weird shit literally inserted into our bodies as birth control which doesn’t always work" any more than we "have to have our testicles literally snipped off as birth control which doesn’t always work". Take responsibility for your own actions, and your own choices, for once in your goddamned lives.
We are taking responsibility, by requesting that y’all wear a condom just in case the birth control fails so we don’t get pregnant. But y’all don’t want to hear it. Y’all will whine about anything and then blame it on women.
If we don’t use birth control then we need another form of protection, AKA, the guy wearing a condom. Genius.
But like I said, we’re the ones taking birth control pills and having rods injected into us to keep ourselves protected, the decent thing you could do is wear a damn condom without whining. No, we don’t have to take birth control but if we don’t want to risk getting pregnant then it’s safer that we do.
No but I suppose there are those who can't get welfare so they do the next best thing.
@AmourHoney No, I actually want to have children, and just won't have sex with any women I'm not prepared to impregnate. Simples. Maybe you 'ladies' should try displaying the proper sexual conduct, and proper level of judgement, for an actual 'Lady', and do likewise- namely, simply refrain from having sex with anyone who you deem to be unworthy of impregnating you? It's not hard...
@AmourHoney Don't want to risk getting pregnant? You know full well what the one and only 100% safe, side-effects-free option is. You just aren't prepared to take it, because "I'm too horny I can't control myself I'm not a fucking nun lmfao".
Can you imagine trying to get your dinky in a condom if it were pasted inside a vagina? Unless you lie and get an extra large it isn't going to go in easy and would definitely ruin the moment for you.
- I started using myone condoms. Its basically a custom ordered condom. They have different lengths which is nice combined with width. They actually fit...0|00|0
- I'd use them with someone new but like others have said it's very numbing and ruins the feeling a great deal. Even the ultra thin condoms with various things (warming lube or whatever) to make them feel better are terrible compared to without.1|00|0
- I've never objected to using them and would definitely use them with someone new anyway.1|00|0
- i don't like using them, cause i hardly feel anything with it on... but i sure as fuck rather use it than getting some nasty std or a baby.1|00|0
yes. litterally i almost feel nothing with a condom on. wouldn't be the first time i couldn't cum and lost my errection after some time, cause i just didn't feel anything. condoms suck.
- Anonymous1 ySo when I first started having sex without condoms I would always say I couldn't feel the different and recently I hookup with an ex who we never really ever used condoms and during it there wasn't that much of a difference but after I felt different. Like I felt too clean lol i know that is weird but it just felt like i went through the motions and feels of sex but not the after feeling of enjoying the "dirtiness" that just happened. Lol0|10|0
- To me there's 3 draw backs to condoms I've had
1. They take away some of the feeling
2. They sometimes suffocate my cock if there not magnum or large condoms
3. They dry out
And bonus a cum in a vagina looks better than cum in a condom1|01|0 - Cuz they suck, I can barely feel anything through them
If she's on the pill it should be fine. There's always other things you can do too.
As long as you're both clean then disease isn't a problem1|00|0I'm not opposed to not using a condom with someone I trust... but I've heard that people lie about their status all the time. And asking people to show me some valid tests can be daunting. I'm on birth control because I dont like having periods... but the whole disease thing is alarming to me. I guess you shouldn't be having sex with someone you suspect to be dirty anyways lmao
- Condoms are for safety. I guess if you in a long term relationship & got tested, the man don’t need a condom, but he can cheat on you too, women can cheat too. I don’t have a man, when I probably get around to have sex, I probably be in menopause by then, since I’m going to be 50 in August.0|00|1
- I feel a huge difference.
Still would always use condoms until I was in a serious relationship, and after that would just rely on the pill.1|30|0You can go with him to shower and flush your pussy out together. :-) I did that with my then-girlfriend and we made love with no condom maybe 4 times per day (hot phase) and she never got pregnant with it.
- Condoms suck for guys. I also dont care for them cuz they are uncomfortable. Only use them If my guy is trying to last a long time and even then he will rip it off halfway through sex0|20|0
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- Put a micro condom on your clit and rub it and then come back1|10|0
I don't think those exist... also, I'm not a big "clit stimulation is everything to me" person. lol.
To answer your question id rather have sex with a condom than no sex at all if the lady wants it
- All of the sex that I've had in the last several years has been with a condom. As I guy I still get good feeling through it.1|00|0
- It does feel better without the condom, and most men overestimate their ability to pull out in time. But unless I am serious with the girl, I always use condoms.0|00|0
- Anonymous1 yIt does feel better. My girlfriend and I were both virgins so there was no risk (still isn't with hw) of STDs. Also since I got a vascetomy she also can't get pregnant. So we don't use a condom at all.0|00|0
- The better question is why you keep on ending up with guys that don't care about their health, unwanted pregnancy and STD risks! This is assuming the question is about you personally.0|10|0
- Because it feels significantly different. Also the transition from foreplay to sex is interrupted by a condom. Lastly, they assume you're clean, and kinda like the risk of getting you pregnant.0|10|0
You can build putting on a condom into your foreplay, like she puts it with her mouth on.
- Yes it honestly feels better. Yes we (I) am worried about getting her pregnant or getting an sti all these things are taken into consideration but at the end of the day it just feels way better1|10|0
- Sex with a condom is like washing your feet while wearing socks lol,,,
So yes, without feels much better,,,0|00|0 - Anonymous1 yIt feels better for men and women but unless both people have had labs and they aren't sleeping with anyone else (and they don't fear a pregnancy) that's about the only time no condoms should be a thing.0|20|0
- 100% without a doubt, it feels leagues better. I'm infertile and have only had sex with my wife so no comment on the worries of consequences.0|10|0
- I have a personal rule: absolutely no sex without a condom. I have literally refused to have sex with a girl because she didn't want me to put on a condom. To this day I've never had sex without a condom.0|00|1
- Condoms feel so bad its not even funny id rather use my fking hand0|00|0
- It's different but not that much. If you use a descent one you can get some great feelings...1|10|0
Those with nobs on them? They are great for her to be stimulated, other stronger condoms feel very numb and you think you are outside of her wet pussy.
- Yes it feels better. But contraception is both partners’ responsibility. But some guys do like blowing their load rawdog and walking away. So ladies, be mindful because nature made you the only necessary person in pregnancy.0|10|0
@roland77 Yep, men are programmed to completely disregard the value of their sperm, and most have fallen for it. You'd rarely hear a woman saying anything that devalued her eggs.
@Truthatanycost I give my sperm a high value, without it not a single egg cell gets fertilized.
- Anonymous1 yYes, it feels a lot different.
Unless there's another birth control, I would worry.
Disease, depends on the partner and how stable we are together.0|10|0True in one way or another. Still I would always do a STD checkup to make sure she can feel safe, when the condom breaks or when we avoid it.
- You have zero feeling with a condom on, you cannot sense whether or not you are inside the lady... finally it kinda cut the blood flow resulting in your penis going down soooo quickly, got it now?0|10|0
The hard ring on the opening you mean? Yes, they do that a little. Sadly they need to be tight to your penis, else sperm can come out and enter her pussy.
- Different guys, do different things
Don't make blanket questions
Just because one man did it0|00|1 - Because men cherish fruitful sex and have a spiritual to sexual ratio more akin to God while women don't cherish fruitful sex and have s spiritual to sexual ratio more akin to Satan.0|00|1
- I don't want them to think that i think they're dirty.0|10|0
Intimate trust, nothing is disgusting on a girlfriend/wife. :-) Okay, drinking pee or eating poo, or her feet (no fetish in it), yuck!
- Condoms take away the feeling. Only time I would use one if she was super tight.0|10|0
- Anonymous1 yNo idea, all I know is that I refuse to have sex with a man that won’t wear a condom0|10|1
At the first time is okay to ask for a condom but later, in a LTR and he is tested? Na, I would certainly miss that kind of intimate trust being inside her pussy "raw".
You won't get THAT quickly pregnant, you can wash your pussy together with your boyfriend out. It worked with my then-girlfriend very well. We made love with no condom 4-5 times per day in our hot phase and she was still not pregnant. And I'm (again) tested negative on all common STD.
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And you still can get pregnant if you wash your genitals after, please educate yourself 🤦🏻♀️ www.plannedparenthood.org/.../after-sex-without-a-condom-if-the-female-washes-out-her-vagina-with-hot-water-and-soap-can-she-still-get-pregnant
It is not just washing, but deep flushing with a shower, but move on. I'm not interested in you anyway.
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Honestly please do read up on some of those articles to educate yourself a little on women’s health because it’s clear you have no idea how harmful what you’re suggesting is. I’m not saying that to be petty or rude I’m just saying that the fact you thought that it was okay to do that is disturbing.
Then I wonder what other "miracle" has made her not pregnant but when she was here, she got pregnant on the very first day (s) of her arrival here, even before our marriage?
I know for the fact about douching a pussy/vagina isn't good for her PH value (~3.5-4.8 is healthy). But it fixes itself after some time and we were not flushing it every hour with a tons of water.
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Like I said, you can still get pregnant and it can still cause infections. Infections don’t ‘fix themselves’ either, they require medical attention. It literally tells you in that article that it does not decrease the chances of getting pregnant. Honestly man, it doesn’t matter if you’re not flushing it out every hour, doing it ONCE is enough to cause damage, please for the sake of my sanity. EDUCATE YOURSELF.
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I am not putting myself at risk of pregnancy and infections because he doesn’t want to wear a condom. No condom, no sex. Simple as. If he doesn’t like that then he can go be with someone else. Because I am NOT screwing up my health and well-being all because some guy can’t wrap it up.
I never said that, that you should. Read my initial comment: >At the first time is okay to ask for a condom but later, in a LTR and he is tested? Na, I would certainly miss that kind of intimate trust being inside her pussy "raw".< And I know infections don't go easily away by themselves. I am sex-educated and as I already showed you, I even know your PH value: 3.5-4.8.
But how about bathing or swimming? Won't water come in your vagina (and in swimming halls with added chlorine)?I'm not crazy to forcibly push tons of water in her pussy, no! That can hurt a lot. And I'm not putting her willing at risk. I explain all in advance what I know about sex, then it is still her choice. Still, after some time, I want no condom because I want to feel her pussy directly on my penis. It is so intimate to do.
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And you suggested douching after sex with out a condom. Just because you know the balance doesn’t mean you are educated because I literally just had to explain to you why it’s not good... and no water does not get inside the vagina when swimming or showering unless you force it there purposely.
- You can get thin condoms not as strong but feel better0|10|0
- it does feel way better without a condom on but kids feel a lot worse than condoms do in my opinion0|00|1
- It like wearing rubber gloves when you hold hands or sticking Saran Wrap on your face before you kiss.0|00|1
- It feels get without condoms... both gets pleasure...0|10|0
- luckily for me-i don't plan on having sex til i'm married.0|00|1
- Anonymous1 yI lose interest in sex when putting on a condom, I don't sleep with someone that I would mind if we accidentally had a kid0|00|1
Then you loose interest in STD and unwanted pregnancy. Act responsible and have a condom with you.
- Guys say it feels better in in the moment0|20|0
And how about you? Don't you feel the difference? Tip: Use a condom to rub your clitoris with it. How does it feel? Yes, that is what we feel with a condom, very numb! Sure, responsibility and STD is a reason to first use a condom but in a LTR, all fine.
- Anonymous1 yFeels much better without0|10|0
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