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Does porn cause unrealistic sexual expectations and promote sexual violence?

It might also encourage him to have an affair, certain sex acts are not meant to be done in real life as most are violent and very energy draining. Also do you know porn stars are surgically enhanced, photoshopped to perfection which gives men unrealistic expectations on what women should look like naked. “Real naked women are like bad porn“

Do you have this encounter before about creepy weirdos staring at you?

At work there was this colleague of mine who kept staring at me he was like in his 50s which was creepy I glared at him and he stopped staring at me the next day. I hate attracting creeps and perverts especially married ones If he’s married he should be ashamed of himself.
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  • The vast majority of people know that porn is a fantasy, just like movies and TV are a fantasy, and they don't take it seriously or let it affect their expectations. They don't expect to have their step-daughters strip naked and blow them anymore than they expect to jump their car over a moving train and keep driving it normally after landing.

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    There's always going to be a small percentage of people who take these things too literally - who believe that watching Fast & Furious allows them to street-race their car, or who think that they can rob a bank and shoot it out with the cops and get away, or who think that all girls should act like they're in Gangbang Auditions 92. Heck, there are people who think that Beatles records were telling them to kill people (Charles Manson) or that assassinating the president would cause nubile actresses to fall in love with them (John Hinckley, who shot Ronald Reagan to win the love of Jodie Foster).

    Still, it's pretty hard to argue that porn (or Fast & Furious, or Iron Maiden records, or whatever) are really to blame - the reality is that a small percentage of people are really stupid or really naive, and some have serious mental health problems, and that it's likely that they'd have found a path to negative behaviors even without the media that they (or society) tried to blame their actions on.

    "Creepy guys" existed for centuries before the invention of photography, much less movies, so trying to blame their existence on porn is pretty naive too.

  • I think it can affect expectations for both genders not just men. It seems to have an affect on younger people who have been watching porn from a young and impressionable age and yes I me on think it promotes violent sexual behaviours with some people. Young girls can grow up thinking they need to deepnthrost and do anal and that sex isn't always pleasurable for them, whilst boys can see violent sex and think that's how real sex should be. There are many cases of boys raping girls and not even knowing it was rape because they were so used to seeing porn where the girl was crying or in pain and thought it was normal.
    But I would stress this is only some people and the vast majority realise porn isn't real and aren't rapists. For most adults porn is a harmless thing the same way alcohol is something they can drink occasionally, whilst other take it too far.

    • The solution is better sex education in schools. Ignore the religious nut jobs trying to ban education and actually teach young people what sex is. You can't realistically ban porn, there's too much technology and it's too easy to access. It's truly shocking how many adults on here in their late teens and 20's who ask the most basic questions about sex. I've seen 30+ year olds asking if they are pregnant because they gave a hand job..

    • My ex expected me to do unsafe sex acts and he pressured me too. He wanted me to follow all the certain acts porn stars do. I told him many times I can’t do that and guess what he was disappointed I hope guys my age know that porn is not something to be done in real life

    • Well any guy who pressures someone is an asshole so just dump them immediately. I can't really talk for your age group, but I hope most do. I think porn influences many people but there's a huge difference between being inspired to try something and expecting it as a norm.

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  • I think porn is bad and 100% immoral. Even tho Ik A lot of people watch it. And I’m sure it does promote sexual violence and unrealistic expectations. And not to mention so many sex trafficking victims are forced into porn, but obviously people keep watching, so they keep forcing young girls into it.

    • ok have you ever watched

  • My sex life is pretty similar to a porn star.

    They are just people that are acting. I don't think it promotes violence unless you watch gore porn... But to be honest it should not be labelled as sex.

    To be honest music videos and movies promote more violent scenes than porn.

    • Mainstream porn is a fantasy, nothing comparable with reality.

    • @roland77 my sex life is pretty similar to it 😂 could easily make porn but not sure if it's worth the hassle really.

    • And releasing it so needy jerks can masturbate to it? ;-) Why is it so, if I may ask?

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  • Well it depends on the person and what types of porn...
    But there is a reason why in certain cases when profiling a person psychologists will look at addiction to pornography as a catalyst for deep underlying psychological disorders,, mostly in criminal bahavior, as to setting unrealistic expectations,, in that case the person really is having sex for the wrong reasons in the first place and if that is the case that it is for the wrong reasons then yes I would say that it does create unrealistic expectations in certain people...

  • No, in fact technically their was a correlation with places with greater access to porn having less sexual violence and rape. Also its women who consume violent porn not men (about 70% of women surveyed stated they had a rape fantasy, 80% of rape porn, forced sex, bdsm, gangbang porn, etc. where consumed by women). It can cause some unrealistic expectations (like for instance anal sex, you can't do anal sex the way most porn shows (at least not at first) and it requires prepping and its usually not that clean either (it will be if she cleans herself first but pornstars also don't eat the night before to make sure they are completely cleared out). But over all its not really that much, at least not on the male half (again, most violent sexual desires comes from women not men).

  • In emotional inept individuals. There are some people that struggle to separate real from fantasy. Just because you're 18+ doesn't mean you have the comprehension to match.

  • Unreal sexual expectations, DEFINITELY!! Promote sexual violence, NO, unless the ones watching have mental issues!

    • Nobody can tell me that he can hold +1h fucking the crap out of her. Most intercourse is done after 3-5 minutes, the most time is spent in foreplay and make both arousing.

    • @roland77 You never see how many 'cuts' they do, and how often the 'fluffers' help, and that just about all of the guys drop at least one, maybe two viagra before!!

    • Yes, true. I can see those cuts, when they change view on the act. They also replace the male and letting an other one with similar-looking penis continue. Mainstream porn is close-up, showing only the penetration itself, I guess.

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  • This one for me is an "Hmmmmmm" not to diminish your question - Part One yes definitely young boys are being fed a lot of crap by porn and probably reach late teenage years with an unhealthy, unrealistic attitude to sex, hopefully real life will knock some sense into them - Part Two shall we say adult men who behave badly or abhorrently, to these men hopefully a small minority is porn a fuel, possibly but is it a trigger or just a contributing factor - What I mean is would the absence of porn reduce any harrassment or sexual violence , I am not sure - Before the internet there was sexual harrassment and sexual violence, if you don't believe me watch TV and movies from the 1970s.
    There is a counter argument that availability of porn may sate some peoples' desires maybe reduce the number of cases of bad sexual behaviour. Also people argue that there is good porn , amateur couples in love just engaging in pleasure.
    To be honest, I can see both sides of the argument, I would possibly like to see a shift in the porn industry towards "Good" porn but they are servicing demand so we are probably looking for a change in society itself.
    As to banning porn , I am not in favour, it drives it underground where crazy stuff will be produced , no rules or regulations - I prefer to have it in clear sight where society can keep it somewhat in check.
    In conclusion I agree with your assertions to a degree but am not entirely convinced that the absence of porn would solve the situation. Maybe wishful thinking but a more realistic, romantic porn might help but will it happen I doubt it

  • yes, especially on little boys who will grow up thinking they can do anything to our bodies

    • Grown men with mature mindset can tell the difference between reality and fantasy

    • yes, just wish boys my age would stop watching so much porn too

  • As a woman who enjoys porn, I feel that my porn life and my sex life ate different things. As long as you have the mental
    Maturity to discern between reality and fantasy it shouldn’t have much effect on your actual sex life. For those who only do porn and don’t have an actual sex life however... I think they will struggle with what sex should be like irl.

    • "as a woman who enjoys porn " really I thought women hate porn What category of porn you watch?

    • @Gaming_dragon I enjoy porn too 😂😂😂😂

    • @Warmapplecrumble my life is an entire fucking Ok then what porn category are you interested in?

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  • Depends on the porn you watch. There are some porn videos that are homemade and you can see what sex really looks like. I like porn BC it helps me relax when I feel horny but I can see why it would be bad for unrealistic expectations

    • Very true! Straight from anal to oral without cleaning the penis? Yuck! That is eating your own poo!

    • I think the same, hommade is good

    • @siyahand Same with my girlfriend. She says, she doesn't like unrealistic porn, especially from anus to mouth/pussy, that is not healthy.

  • I get interesting ideas from it.

  • Only a rather stupid man would expect real life to be like a porn video. Sexual violence? See previous comment. Except that guys who can stay home and masturbate to porn are less likely to go out and molest a woman (or child).

    Interestingly the most religious parts of the US watch the most porn.

    • My ex was a brainless guy who only cared about himself

    • Sure. Porn didn't cause that, and an absence of porn wouldn't have fixed it. If a guy spends all weekend every weekend watching sports on television and ignoring his partner, that's not a fault of television networks. If he weren't watching sports he would just withdraw into something else.

  • Porn is just a way of visualizing fantasies. A high percentage of people fantasize about things they would never want to do in real life, like most people who watch milf porn don't actually want to fuck their mom. Porn isn't promoting violence or unrealistic standards, its just a way to step out of reality to help people get off.

  • Yes most likely, most have no idea what goes on in the background during a porn shoot. Even some of the cum shots are totally fake.

  • Sure, just as much as tv and movies give unrealistic expectations of friendships, relationships, and good deeds.
    How do you know that the old guys wife didn't pass away and you look like she did? Maybe what you see as a creepy dude staring at you is really a nice old man missing the love of his life.
    Unrealistic expectations only surface when you fail to make yours known.

  • Most are not violent. Porn promotes unrealistic expectations? Maybe
    It’s not so much photoshopping or fake images because there is lots of amateur porn out there too. It just had to do with model selection. Certain body types are shown more often. Part of it has to do with the watcher and the videos they choose to watch.

    Infidelity may or may not have anything to do with porn. It might just be a new young foxy lady in the workplace.

    Is he a creepy weirdo because he thinks your attractive? You aren’t always going to be 19 years old either

  • Only for those who can't tell the difference between entertainment and reality.

  • One should not expect having sex just the way is has been shown in a porn movie. Such movies are scripted and there's whole production who takes care of that 30 min video. If your sex life is based on porn then sheer disappointment is your Lot. Sex is meant to be enjoyable and to have a intimate relationship.
    Porn is not to be applied in real life, it can cause not only physical but emotional and mental damage as well.

  • Yes, porn does that. It is a fantasy after all they mostly use fake liquids. Search for "fake cum": https://sextoycollective.com/blog/fake-cum Some people seem to take it to serious, both sexes likewise. That said, I had to drive off a flirty Half-Korean from me, as I was married and wearing and showing her my wedding ring. After that, she did bother flirting with me again. Why her? Because she knows I was with a Filipina at that time and that made her (correctly) think I'm into exotic foreigners.

  • The expectations are unrealistic some of the scenes are violent.

  • If you watch porn and think that sex is going to be like porn, then you don’t deserve to have sex.

    It’s pretty obvious that porn is nothing like real sex just like life is not like a James Bond movie.

    Well, it might be for a lucky few, but not most.

  • Don't be a judgmental. Why are you judging people without knowing their side? Do you even know-how sexuality works for male and female? You might not like to look at other males because that's how your sexuality works. But males like to look at females (their boobs, cleavage, ass and other body parts). Are they harassing you verbally or physically? Nope. They are just staring at you. Because it's just our childish and harmless curiosity for female body parts (just like little kids have about something). So, if you don't like it then just ignore them. Most of them are not going to harm you. And porn has nothing to do with it. Most of us know that porn is just a fictional world. We use it to masturbate or to increase sex drive. Yeah, there are some idiots who take it as real. But you can't judge every male because of those few idiots.

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