Did I do something wrong?

[Anonymous]

was cuddling a girl this night, everything was fine, i had my hands on her ass and was fliting when she was cuddling me and was layin on top of me. she was enjoying it and then i told her that i was going to "massage" a little bit lower. when i tried to finger her, i couldn't physicaly do it, he vagina was "closed" let's see, i tried to stimulate her clit but she didn't seem to enjoy it, so i stoped, i asked her if what i'm doing something wrong or if everything is fine, she told me i wasn't the probleme and she had been raped... so she needs more time to "open up". I felt frustrated because i still think i did soemthing wrong and she's trying to not tell me truth. Did i do something wrong or did you ever experienced that (vaginal physicaly closed) ?

[LittleTornado]

Dear, it honestly sounds like she’s telling you what she is feeling and why. That’s not always an easy thing to tell someone, either, so making her say even more about it right now won’t necessarily be a good thing - and i think it’s important that you reaffirm you understand that she is not ready to do sexual things yet and that you’re okay and add find being patient and understanding.

I bet you that’s what she needs in order to grow into a woman who can again
- feel safe and confident as a sexual being. If you care about her enough - this is what she needs. Not to be forced or rushed, but understood - reassured, you’re there, you’ll wait. You’re safe.

[respecturelders]

Dude look I'm gonna give it to you no cut , no chaser . sometimes it's not all about you this girl had a serious trauma of some sort and all you can think about is yourself? Why would she lie about something like that? That's the question you should be asking advise for " the girl I'm seeing was raped in the past and I don't know how to handle it please help.

[Asker]

i thought that i did something wrong and that it was my fault if she didn't feel relaxed tbh... it's not about myself but rather because of me she wasn't able to enjoy that moment.

[respecturelders]

No. because some fuck stick in her past raped her that's the problem not you bro you were just doing Normal everyday couple shit and it was too much for her she needs time and or help for PTSD before getting back on a horse again but she's trying and that's good handle her with care or move on according to me it's up to you. Good luck.

[Asker]

thanks for your advice mate! i like her and want her to feel comfortable with me and i'm glad to see that my behavior wasn't the probleme. i want to help her get throught this so i'll tell her to tell me when she's feeling comfortable enought to have sex. in my team i'll support her and cuddle her ^^

[Asker]

meantime not team* haha

[respecturelders]

👍👌🤙

[respecturelders]

Thanks 4mho