Does it sound like I'm bad at sex, judging by the way he treats me?

[Anonymous]

I'm 19 and I dated a guy when I was 17 and he was 17. I took his virginity after a few months of being together. He came really fast and said it was good. But he left me a week later, saying that he wasn't ready for a relationship. He only fucked me once. Now, this year, after he's had a few girlfriends, he texts me again, saying that he still thinks of me and that he wants to talk to me again. Things go okay and we have sex a second time. He came really fast again and told me that I have really good pussy and that he is surprised by how tight I am. He says I'm great at sex. But it's been almost a week since we've had sex, and he won't commit to plans we make to hang out again. I got mad and we talked about it, and he said he was sorry and that he's just feeling down lately and he said he wants to keep talking to me and fucking me.
But even after we talked about it, he still goes ghost and asks me to hang out, but then won't hang out with me. I'm not chasing him, I didn't get clingy after having sex, I understood the first 3 times he ghosted me on our plans, but I got mad after he ghosted me a 4th time. He still continues to talk to me, but his replies aren't quick. he's had girlfriends in his past and never did this to them. And by the way, he is always the first one to send a message. I NEVER chase him. He always asks me to hang out, but then ghosts me. He has mentioned before that he thinks that I am too good for him.. but I don't know what he means by that. Why am I the only girl he treats this way? Was sex with me actually THAT bad? He says it was really good and he came very quick. But now he's treating me like I'm nothing. Is my sex bad? Maybe my pussy is bad? I'm the only girl he has treated like this. he's had other girlfriends that he dated for a year and over.
by the way, I am NOT a slut. I am not known for getting around. I have been in committed relationships and have only slept with 4 people. He knows I'm not a slut and continues to talk to me. He just won't hang out again.

[Anonymous]

You're a bit desperate to have sex with a jerk. Look for someone who loves you, not a guy that fu**s half of your college class. He keeps you as a side chick when others are busy. You can follow my advice or place the blame on you for a di*k. Up to you!

[Asker]

Does that mean that sex with me was bad or something?

[Opinion Owner]

It probably wasn't bad. Unlike girls, we don't need so much time and attention to ejaculate, it takes only a few minutes to finish. I think the issue is that you accept it so easy. You should make the guys chase you, if he can have you anytime he sends a text, you're just a side chick. Work on your personality, I bet you're super cool to have around, you deserve better

[chriscdi]

im more surprised how gullible women can be, just cause he says he thinks of you doesn't make it true, just like that he got some pussy, its crazy lol, but he probably liked the sex cause you were tighter than other girls is what i think 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

I mean, I'm not planning on dating him anytime soon. I was fine with just fucking him. But I would like to fuck again and he keeps bailing on our plans. If sex with me was good, wouldn't he want to do it again?

[chriscdi]

yes I don't know why he isn't wanting to go again

[Asker]

So maybe the sex wasn't as good as he said it was then?

[chriscdi]

realistically probably not, but it can also be personal reasons

[Asker]

What do you mean "realistically probably not?" Lol sorry. I'm just trying to figure it out. Does that mean that it was probably a little bad?

[chriscdi]

yep, i said realistically because originally someone would lie and say nah he is just stupid bla bla but im being honest and saying if the guy is used to getting good pussy then why would he want bad pussy, if it wouldve been good dont you think he wouldve kept you around? 🤷🏻‍♂️

[chriscdi]

thats what im thinking, it might not be true, he might just be waiting a while before going another round with you, no one but him will know for certain

[Asker]

I understand. Thank you for that. He says that he was shocked by how tight I was and he came in less than 5 minutes though.. and i watched him cum so i know he didn't fake it.. how do you think it could have been bad?

[chriscdi]

just because he came quick from the tightness doesn't really make it good, the tightness can be great but your skills can be off, like when you ride for example, it might not be enough for him, im not bashing on your sex or anything, maybe it will help if i told you im a virgin so i have no experience, im just saying that some guys look for experience and if this guy is and he hasn't texted you back or he ignored you, kinda seems like he has something in his chest that he is keeping about you, and if y'all barely even know each other and y'all recently had sex, what else could it be 🤷🏻‍♂️

[chriscdi]

again im not bashing, can't bash if i have no experience either 🤣

[Asker]

Oh no, he still texts me. I tried to stop texting him and he said that he still wants to talk to me and fuck me. And he texted me right after the sex and said it was great. And he texted me the day after the sex as well. He just won't hang out with me again. I don't know.

[Asker]

And I didn't ride him. We did missionary and doggy. And I moved around. I didn't just lay there. He says it was great and he keeps telling me that I have "fire pussy." But I don't know.

[chriscdi]

what a waste of my precious words, then you are good, he might just be busy, just wait lol

[Asker]

And he said. that I gave the best head.. maybe I'm just being paranoid. But he has bailed on plans to hang out again like 4 times now..

[chriscdi]

well im pretty sure you aren't his only pussy, maybe he just already nutted after making plans with you so he changed plans 🤷🏻‍♂️

[chriscdi]

i think you are being paranoid, besides who cares, bad sex or not, someone will appreciate your pussy, not the end of the world lol

[Cellestial]

He's taking advantage of you, he tries to ghost you once he gets what he wants, then when the urge comes back he gets back to you until he fucks you again.

The sex was in fact really good for him and that's why he couldn't ghost you completely

[Asker]

he's only fucked me once and we keep making plans and he bails before we actually hang out. . If the sex was good, why is he doing that? Its been a week. If it was good, dont you think he wouldve wanted more by now?

[Asker]

Please get back to me when you see this. Thank you.

[Cellestial]

It could be any reason, maybe busy, maybe he has been masturbating for a long period so he wasn't hungry enough for your pussy or he could have another girl to fuck. Trust me there's nothing called "bad sex" or "not good enough" sex for us guys. If we're horny, all what we need is a female with her legs open, that's it pretty much. But once satisfied, we'd better cut any mean of connection with the girl most of the time, until we have the urge to have sex again.

[Asker]

I mean, maybe I have a pussy that isn't as good as other girls he's been with? Because he fucked me once and womt have sex with me again or hang out with me. But he keeps texting me.. he texted me right after sex saying how great it was and that he was shocked at how tight my pussy is. He came fast during the first round in less than 5 minutes, but couldnt cum during the second round of sex. He told me that he is usually able to cum during the second round, so that made me feel like I wasn't doing good enough.. and it's been a week since we've fucked, he keeps texting me and saying that he misses my "fire pussy" but when we make plans to hang out again, he disappears and just won't commit to it. If the sex was good, he wouldn't be avoiding hanging out with me like that.. right? Maybe he's used to getting better pussy..

[Asker]

What do you mean the sex was good for him so he couldnt ghost me completely? he's ghosting me completely if it's been a week and keeps making plans but then cancelling last minute, right? In my opinion, that's definitely ghosting.. :(

[Asker]

Please reply. I'm so hurt. :(

[Asker]

Please help me.. I feel so bad about this..

[B2281]

Sounds more likely he's just a jerk looking for sex when it's on his terms.

[Asker]

Do you think it could be because I'm bad at sex? He came quickly both times we've had sex. He says he's shocked by how tight my vagina is. He says sex with me is great. But he won't hang out with me again. he's had girlfriends in his past and he didn't treat them that way. Why does he only treat me like that?

[Asker]

I mean, I'm not planning on dating him anytime soon. I was fine with just fucking him. But I would like to fuck again and he keeps bailing on our plans. If sex with me was good, wouldn't he want to do it again?

[B2281]

Guys generally like tight vaginas. And the fact that he's cumming so quickly is something he maybe embarrassed about, but it doesn't sound like it's you at all. In fact sounds like you would probably be great.

[Asker]

Well, he came quickly during the first round. I think in like less than 5 minutes. He wanted a second round and we did a second round, but I couldnt make him cum during the second round. He told me that he is usually able to cum a second time, so maybe I'm bad?

[B2281]

It's not you. Trust me.

[Asker]

Is it harder for a guy to cum during the second round?

[B2281]

It is. Sometimes they have to wait a while before they can even get hard again.

[Asker]

Is he cummimg quickly because I feel too good and maybe he's embarrassed? When we had sex the first time 2 years ago, he came in a minute. And when we fucked again a week ago, he came in 5 minutes or less. He says that he wants to keep talking to me and hanging out with me. And he keeps telling me that he misses my "fire pussy" but he keeps making and with me and then cancelling them.. it makes me feel like maybe he's used to better pussy and just doesn't want to hang out with me.. I've addressed this problem and he instantly apologizes and says "no, I still want to hang out with you and fuck you." But his behavior hasn't changed.. I'm starting to think that he's just not into the sex with me.. :(

[Asker]

*he keeps making plans with me and then cancelling them last minute.

[B2281]

I don't know what's wrong with him, because you sound incredible.

[Asker]

Maybe he didn't like it?

[B2281]

I'm pretty sure he's just an idiot.

[Asker]

But it kinda sounds like he didn't like the sex if he's ghosting me like this.. I've read everywhere that even if a guy doesn't like you in a romantic way, if you're good at sex, he'll still keep you around and keep fucking you.. :(

[Asker]

Right?

[B2281]

Some guys are just stupid. So he's either embarrassed for cumming so quickly or he's just a jerk.

[Asker]

Ugh. But even jerks keep girls around if they are good at sex, right?

[B2281]

There is another option that could be he's wanting a relationship when you don't.

[Asker]

That's not the case at all.. dont tell me what I'd like to hear.. I guess he thought the sex sucked which is why he keeps cancelling plans. If I had a good pussy or was good at sex, he'd be trying to see me a lot..

[Asker]

Guys dont ghost girls that they like fucking, right?

[B2281]

Sorry didn't mean to offend you. You probably have a really good pussy, but as you said he has been with other girls & maybe they do more. I don't know, but it's possible.

[Asker]

They do more like what? Have a better pussy? Because I didn't just lay there.. I gave him really good head. He said it was the best head he's gotten.. we did missionary and doggy style and I moved.. I didn't just lay there and let him do all the work.. maybe other girls just had a way better pussy than me? He said he was shocked at how tight my pussy was.. but I don't know..

[Asker]

Do I actually sound incredible or are you just saying that.. :(

[B2281]

Maybe the others are willing to do threesomes or something. I don't know but don't think that it could only be an issue with you.

[B2281]

I think you sound incredible.

[Asker]

Do I actually sound incredible or are you just saying that? Maybe I dont have as good of a pussy as he says? Maybe he was shocked by pussy because its abnormal compared to other girls?

[B2281]

Well I can't speak for him, but I don't think I'd just ignore someone who sounds like you.

[Asker]

Are you just saying that?

[B2281]

Not at all.

[Asker]

Maybe it wasn't as good as he was saying and maybe my vagina is abnormal compared to other girls?

[B2281]

I don't know his thoughts, but it sounds like he's missing out.

[Asker]

No he's not :(

[B2281]

If he's choosing to avoid you he's missing out.

[B2281]

Anyway I hope things get better, & that you don't lose confidence.

[Asker]

I didn't have much confidence to begin with, and now I've lost it all. My pussy sucks.

[B2281]

I'm so sorry you feel that way. 🙁

[B2281]

I wish I knew how to rebuild your confidence.

[Too-Thick2]

is he acting hard? does it hurt